When most of us hear the word "grief," we immediately associate it with physical human death. But the real definition and use case expands far beyond that - even when we don't consciously recognize it, our bodies certainly do.

So in this episode, we're widening the scope on what counts as grief and why we desperately need to get in touch with it, longer than anyone will give you official permission to. Whether you have lost someone recently, or you're mourning a former version of yourself, or you're going through a friendship breakup, OR the grief you know you have won't surface at all...this one is for you.

We're not talking about healing today. We're talking about staying with the stuff that hurts long enough to actually feel it.

Show notes:

• I've written a lot about this.
  • Nobody wants to grieve these days
  • America has a problem
  • I'm tired of fixing myself
  • The controlled burn
  • A matter of "when"
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This week broke something open. Between the news - the Cornell 57, the city-wide bomb threats, the daily fresh hell of this particular moment in history - and a week at work that tested my patience and my faith in people in equal measure, I found myself sitting with a question I couldn’t shake: what happens when people just stop caring? Not dramatically, not all at once, but quietly: in classrooms, at homecoming dances, in comment sections, and in the halls of power.

In this episode we're talking about apathy as a civilizational problem, why I think care is not a soft skill but a survival one, and what it actually looks like to keep showing up for things that matter when you are exhausted and the world seems hell-bent on giving you reasons not to. This one is a little heavy (a real lead-to-gold moment), but I think it’s necessary. And I think you'll already know exactly what I mean.

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• A very relevant blog post: I'm teaching my ninth graders about integrity - but everyone could use a refresher
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The wellness internet has a money problem, and it's dressed up in the language of liberation.

In this episode, I'm getting into something that has been bothering me for a long time: the quiet but pervasive trend of spiritual bypassing around finances in online wellness culture, and how it gets repackaged and sold to women under the banner of feminism. We talk about why the "money is neutral" conversation is not only wrong but actively harmful, and why the framework of abundance mindsets and manifestation only works for a very specific and already-privileged slice of the women it claims to serve. We get into the very real and very documented reality that it is expensive to be poor, and what it means to ask women who are already paying that tax to also reframe their relationship with money instead of demanding the system change.

To round it all out and avoid feeling like there's no one to turn to, I also want to give you a practical guide for identifying whether a creator is genuinely advocating for all women or just selling a dream to the ones who can already afford it.

Show notes:

• A very relevant blog post: Why "money coaching" gives me the ick
• More Perfect Union: The total failure of our healthcare system is not a feel good story
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