In this powerful and deeply personal episode of Ladies of SOSA, hosts Sahra Benjamin and Christine sit down with Monica Deng to discuss one of the most debated topics in South Sudanese culture: polygamy.

Monica shares her firsthand experience of discovering that her husband had taken another wife without her knowledge. She opens up about the emotional impact, feelings of betrayal, the role of family, and the difficult questions that followed.

Together, we explore whether the real issue is polygamy itself or the lack of honesty, communication, and consent. We also examine the historical roots of polygamy in South Sudan, how perspectives are changing within the diaspora, and whether traditional practices still fit modern relationships.

This conversation is not about judging those who support or oppose polygamy. It is about creating space for honest dialogue, understanding lived experiences, and discussing how culture, religion, marriage, and personal choice intersect in today's world.

Topics discussed:
• Discovering a secret second wife
• The emotional impact of betrayal and secrecy
• Polygamy in South Sudanese culture
• Marriage, trust, and communication
• Religion and polygamy
• Modern relationships in the diaspora
• Can polygamous marriages succeed?
• Healing, self-worth, and lessons learned

We invite you to join the conversation in the comments:

Would you want to know beforehand if your spouse wanted another partner?
Can polygamy work if everyone involved agrees?
Is the biggest issue polygamy—or the secrecy surrounding it?

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Hosts:
Sahra - @SoSahra
Christine - @ChristinaLado

Guest:
Monica Deng -

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Welcome back to Crimes of Nubia — brought to you by Ladies of Sosa. In this episode, we discuss the heartbreaking and mysterious death of Ashley Jenae Robinson, a young Black woman whose story sparked conversations across social media about online cruelty, cyberbullying, exploitation, and the way virality can dehumanize real people.
As details surrounding Ashley’s death circulated online, so did speculation, mockery, and harmful commentary. This episode examines not only the circumstances surrounding her passing, but also the dangerous culture of internet virality that often turns Black women into targets instead of treating them with compassion and humanity.
We explore:
🤎 The known timeline surrounding Ashley Jenae Robinson’s death
🤎 The role social media played before and after her passing
🤎How online audiences normalize cruelty for entertainment
🤎The emotional toll of public humiliation and digital harassment
🤎 Why protecting Black women must go beyond hashtags

At Crimes of Nubia, we aim to tell these stories with empathy, accountability, and respect for the victims and their loved ones.

Why do so many development projects across Africa start strong — but don’t last?

We’ve all seen it.
A newly paved road that crumbles in a few years.
A well built by an NGO that stops working and is never repaired.
A hospital building that looks impressive — but lacks staff, supplies, or electricity.

In this episode, Sahra Benjamin and Christine unpack the deeper systems behind infrastructure struggles across the continent. This is not about blame — it’s about understanding.

We explore:

• How colonial-era infrastructure was designed for extraction, not community development
• The role of governance, corruption, and weak accountability systems
• Why some foreign aid models prioritize visibility over sustainability
• How rapid urbanization in cities like Lagos, Nairobi, and Kinshasa strains old systems
• The impact of climate pressures in regions like the Sahel
• Brain drain and the loss of skilled engineers and professionals
• And most importantly — what is actually working in places like Rwanda, Botswana, and Ethiopia

Development isn’t just about pouring concrete.
It’s about building institutions, training people, creating maintenance systems, and designing for long-term growth.

So the bigger question becomes:

Is Africa’s development challenge financial, political, structural — or all of the above?

Let’s talk about it.

Hosts:
Sahra - @SoSahra
Christine - @ChristinaLado

Panel:
Tariq - @Arnabi20
Vaida - @VaidaJoe
Willy - @WillyFast_

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#LivePodcast #YouTubeLive #PodcastClips #PanelDiscussion #CommunityDialogue #SouthAfrica #Xenophobia

Please feel free to engage and challenge the perspectives, but please keep comments respectful.

Thank you so much for watching! Don't forget to like and subscribe for new episodes every Tuesday!

Peace and love to our Sosa Fam :) 🇸🇸❤️

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