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  • S2 Ep143: What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele

    S2 Ep143: What My Autism Diagnosis Taught Me About Love and Feeling Safe ft. Chrisette Michele
    2025/10/29
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    This week, Shan sits down with Grammy-winning artist Chrisette Michele opens up about being diagnosed with autism as an adult and the way that revelation helped her understand her rhythm, her relationships and what safety really means for her. She shares how music became one of the few places that always made sense, how her mom stood by her through the unknown, and how she finally began to remove the mask and meet herself.

    Later, we bring in expert Maria Davis-Pierre, LMHC, founder of Autism in Black, Inc., to guide a deeper conversation around autism, neurodivergence, intimacy, and how we show up for those we love.

    Whether you’re neurodivergent, in a relationship with someone who is, or simply want to deepen your understanding, this episode invites you to explore how love, safety, and authenticity coexist.

    Follow Chrisette Michele:
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chrisettemichele/
    Website:chrisettemichele.com

    Follow Maria Davis-Pierre & Autism in Black:
    Instagram:https://www.instagram.com/autisminblack/
    Website: https://www.autisminblack.org/

    Sign up for the 5th Annual Autism In Black Conference
    Virtual or In-Person Attendance: https://funnel.autisminblack.org/2025-autism-in-black-registration-page?aff=Christina-Schmidt

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    41 分
  • S2 Ep142: Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette

    S2 Ep142: Is It Too Late to Become Who I Thought I’d Be? ft Chy Fontenette
    2025/10/22
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    In her mid-30s, Chy Fontenette from Behind the Likes podcast finds herself facing what feels like a full-life reset: a breakup she didn’t choose, friendships shifting as she starts setting boundaries, and a growing awareness of the pain she’s carried for years. Through tears, honesty, and reflection, Chy admits she doesn’t know what’s next, and Shan reminds her that she’s doing the most important thing of all: staying with herself through it.

    This episode is for anyone in that place where everything hurts and nothing feels certain. Shan offers tangible guidance on how to move through the fog, from becoming an archaeologist of your own life (digging up the moments you felt love and success before) to remembering Steve Jobs’ wisdom that you can’t connect the dots looking forward, only backward.

    The message is simple: you can’t rush this part. But if you keep caring for yourself, one day you’ll look up and realize, your life doesn’t feel so heavy anymore.

    Follow Chy Fontenette!
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/chy.f/
    Listen to her podcast “Behind the Likes”: https://www.behindthelikespodcast.com/

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    49 分
  • S2 Ep141: Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry

    S2 Ep141: Should Relationships be THIS Hard? ft. Beleaf & Yvette Henry
    2025/10/15
    Are relationships supposed to be THIS Hard?

    This week on LOVERS, Shan sits down with Glen and Yvette Henry, the couple behind the viral family brand Beleaf in Fatherhood.

    Glen, known as Beleaf, has a new book coming out titled Father Yourself First, which challenges men to approach fatherhood as a path of healing, self-awareness, and personal accountability.

    In this conversation, Glen and Yvette open up about how hard marriage can be, especially after kids, success, and faith transitions. From getting married young to raising four children and growing a public platform together, they’ve faced nearly every challenge that tests a couple’s foundation.

    If you’ve ever wondered, “Is marriage supposed to be this hard?”, this episode is for you. It’s a raw and honest reminder that struggle doesn’t mean failure, it means growth.

    ✨ Preorder Glen’s book: https://www.amazon.com/Father-Yourself-First-Everything-Deserves/dp/1400252555
    📺 Watch their YouTube channel: https://www.youtube.com/@BeleafInFatherhood
    🎧 Listen to their podcast “How Married Are You” https://howmarriedareyoupodcast.com/

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    53 分
  • S2 Ep140: Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland

    S2 Ep140: Could a Single Moment Be Controlling Your Love Story? Ft Andre Holland
    2025/10/08
    Trigger Warning: This conversation includes a deeply personal story shared by André Holland, including a moment when someone he had affections for used a racial slur toward him. Listener discretion is advised.

    What happens when a core memory rewrites the story of how we see ourselves in love? In this week’s LOVERS episode, Shan sits down with actor André Holland to explore the pivotal memory that shaped his belief that he was never “good enough” as himself—and that he had to become someone “better” to be loved.

    They unpack how these deeply rooted emotional imprints steer our relationships—sometimes helping us, but often holding us back. André’s story reveals how early wounds can guide not just who we choose, but how we let love in.

    Whether you’re single, partnered, or somewhere in between, this episode is a powerful guide to:

    • uncovering the underlying stories behind your intimacy
    • rewriting beliefs that no longer serve you
    • opening the door to deeper, more authentic connection

    🎬 About Love, Brooklyn
    Want more from André Holland? Be sure to check out his new film, Love, Brooklyn now playing in theaters. It will be available for streaming too!

    Stay up-to-date and follow on Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lovebrooklynmovie/

    For more on André be sure to follow him on Instagram: http://instagram.com/andreholland

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    46 分
  • S2 Ep139: How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh

    S2 Ep139: How Inner Child Work Can Save Your (love) Life featuring Lilly Singh
    2025/10/01
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    This week, I interview Lilly Singh, actor and history-making content creator, with a new movie RIGHT up our alley: Doin’ It (yes it’s a movie about sex, specifically what happens when a South Asian virgin is assigned to teach sex ed). In this episode Lilly opens up about growing up in a world where emotional chaos felt familiar, why she kept gravitating toward toxic partners who gave her the bare minimum, and how she’s now doing the inner work (therapy, inner child healing, setting boundaries) to protect “little Lilly.”

    In this conversation, we explore how past wounds shaped her romantic choices, and how she’s rewriting that story one day at a time.

    🎬 About Doin’ It

    Lilly’s new movie, Doin’ It, is in theaters now. Fandango+2JustWatch+2
    You can get tickets and showtimes via AMC Theatres or Fandango. JustWatch+1

    Mark your calendar: starting October 7, Doin’ It will be available to stream.
    For more information visit doinitmovie.com


    🔗 Follow Lilly Singh
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/lilly
    Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/Lilly
    Grab her bestselling book Be a Triangle → https://www.lillysinghbook.com

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  • S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers

    S2 Ep138: How Jemele Hill is Fighting Back Against America’s #1 Sex Life Killers
    2025/09/24
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    What happens when you realize the best sex of your marriage only shows up on vacation?

    Award-winning journalist, author, and podcaster Jemele Hill joins Shan for a conversation about how she uncovered the connection between stress, rest, and desire in her own marriage. She shares why her husband seems to get luckier when they’re away, how that awareness has deepened their relationship, and what it taught her about the balance between ambition, partnership, and intimacy.

    This episode is for my overachievers who struggle to “do it all,” for the happily partnered (or hoping-to-be), and for anyone who’s ever wondered how to bring that vacation spark back home.

    Together, Jemele and Shan break down:
    - Why “having it all” is a myth (and the price women pay for chasing it)
    - How silence around stress robs intimacy, and what to do instead
    - What “fair trade” in the home has to do with mutually desirable sex
    - Practical ways to bring vacation sex energy into everyday life

    🔗 Follow Jemele Hill
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jemelehill/
    Twitter/X: https://twitter.com/jemelehill

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    52 分
  • S2 Ep137: The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta

    S2 Ep137: The Truth About Getting The Man I THOUGHT I Always Wanted ft. Rosa Acosta
    2025/09/17
    Thank you to Function Health for sponsoring this episode! Visit https://functionhealth.com/loversbyshan or use code LOVERS100 at sign-up to own your health. The first 1000 get a $100 credit toward their membership.
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    What does it mean to choose love on your own terms? How do our values, self-worth, and cultural expectations shape the way we show up in relationships?

    In this conversation, entrepreneur, fitness model, and actress Rosa Acosta shares her perspective on redefining what relationships can look like when you step away from society’s scripts. She reflects on leaving behind relationships that don’t serve both partners, questioning inherited scripts about men and women, and what it takes to create intimacy outside of convention.

    This is a dialogue about love as partnership, the courage to release what no longer fits, and the art of rewriting our own story.

    🔗 Follow Rosa Acosta
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/rosaacosta/
    Cossa Mia: https://www.instagram.com/cossamia/

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    48 分
  • S2 Ep136: Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady

    S2 Ep136: Am I Still Who You Want? Are You Becoming Who I Need? A Relationship Check-In + Free Guide ft Jared Brady
    2025/09/10
    Watch what happens when you ask for a performance review in your relationship. Do the hard and awkward questions lead to more intimacy or new resentments?

    In this week’s episode of Lovers, Shan sits down with her husband, Jared Brady, for their quarterly relationship check-in — on camera. Together, they ask the tough but necessary questions: Am I still who you want? Are you becoming who I need?

    This raw and real conversation reveals how couples can stay aligned, navigate change, and keep intimacy thriving over time. Plus, Shan and Jared share a free Relationship Check-In Guide so you and your partner can try this practice at home.

    Whether you’re dating, married, or somewhere in between, this episode is a roadmap for honest communication, vulnerability, and keeping love strong.

    The full conversation of Jared and I lives in my community in the premium tier.

    Resource - Interactive Guide
    https://www.loversbyshan.com/resource/relationship-checkin

    🔗 Follow Jared Brady
    Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/enjoyjaredbrady/?hl=en
    https://www.youtube.com/@MusicMondayEnjoy

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    56 分