You’ve read the books. You know your attachment style. You understand your patterns.

So why are you still having the same argument on repeat?

In this episode of Coupled With…, we’re talking about the frustrating truth no one tells you:

Insight isn’t integration.

And without nervous system safety, even the most emotionally intelligent couples will fall into the same conflict loop—again and again.

We’ll unpack why your brain can’t access your tools in the heat of the moment, what’s really happening in your body during conflict, and how to shift from reaction to repair—without needing to be perfect.

If you’ve ever walked away from a breakthrough conversation only to end up in the same fight two days later… this one’s for you.

• Why “knowing better” doesn’t stop you from spiraling
• The real reason your body hijacks you during arguments
• The difference between the Conflict Loop and the Connection Loop
• What it actually takes to break a reactive pattern (hint: it’s not another deep talk)
• How to use Pattern Interrupts, Nervous System Awareness, and Emotional Ownership in the moment

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