My mom would often say, "You can't win the lottery if you don't buy a ticket." Life offers many tickets, if only we are willing to receive.

How do you define what the 'lottery' is? Each individual determines this. That's the magic! I'm living my best life based on what I want. What do you want?

This episode is dedicated to my Mom.

All the techniques, tools and resources won't matter if they are not implemented. Practice the concepts that resonate so that they become a natural part of your daily routine.

Start small and simple. Then add in another concept towards mastery.

Healing is accepting you can't do it all. In fact, it was never your job to do it all. Too often our identity to enmeshed with 'saving others'. When we begin to understand who we are in pur authenticity, we can begin to untangle the unhealthy responsibilities we've taken on and release them.

Taking accountability......back to this! Yet, how can we move forward in our healing if we don't take accountability for our actions or emotions. Yes, we need to take back the pain, grief, and anger we attempted to discharge through numbing, running away, or fighting.

Taking it back is only temporary. With the proper tools, the emotions can be properly processed to release allowing true healing.

A significant piece of transformative healing is community. Basic human needs include connection.

Service to others can enhance those connections and strengthen community. When we serve from a resourced place (aka no self sacrifice), we often find meaning and purpose.

Transformation doesn't happen overnight. Too often we see others in their radiance and believe it was easy for them to achieve. Granted, a small percentage of people were taught as children healthy coping strategies and had access to excellent resources that allowed them to navigate life's challenges from a healthier state.

However, most people make a conscious choice for change. Whether a life challenge that acted as a catalyst, or conscious choosing, it requires a willingness to change.

Fight, Flight, Freeze, & Fawn.....and perhaps just F@*k off! The last one is my interpretation of "I'll show you!" Otherwise, combining the first four strategies into a determination to prove my worth.

Coping strategies develop when we don’t feel safe, seen or loved. They helped us survive our environment but sadly, they become patterns of behavior that can be obstacles to the very thing we desire. Healing opens the door to change patterns and create safe anchors of love.

Who are you? When you know and understand who you are at the core, it becomes easier to navigate the ups and downs of life.