Just because someone's had a shitty past doesn't give them a free pass to treat you like shit.

In this Pod Shot, we're talking about the difference between understanding someone's behaviour and making excuses for it, why empathy can sometimes leave us putting our own needs last, and why someone else's trauma isn't yours to fix.

Hit a nerve? Maybe it's time to start giving yourself some of that understanding and compassion you've been giving everybody else.

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Ever found yourself making excuses for someone's shitty behaviour, ignoring the warning signs or giving them chance after chance?

In this Pod Shot, we're talking about why we overlook red flags, how to start recognising unhealthy patterns, and why it's time to stop worrying so much about whether they like you and start asking whether you actually like them.

Sound familiar? Maybe it's time to start trusting your own judgement.

Ever found yourself wondering why you keep ending up in shitty relationships? Is it bad luck, bad taste, or is there something else going on?

In this Pod Shot, we're looking at why we sometimes repeat relationship patterns, what influences our choices, and why ending up with an arsehole doesn't automatically mean you're the problem.

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You got out. The relationship is over. So why the hell are you still struggling?

In this Pod Shot, we’re looking at why the effects of a shitty or harmful relationship don’t necessarily disappear just because the person did, and why your brain and body might still be reacting long after it ended.

Before you decide there’s something wrong with you, have a listen.

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What the hell is Up a Notch, what’s a Pod Shot, and why are we talking about cockwombles?

In this very short introduction, I’ll tell you who I am, why I created Up a Notch, and who these Pod Shots are for.

If you’ve got out of a sh!tty or harmful relationship but you’re still dealing with the aftermath, you’re in the right place.

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