How do you stop sabotaging relationships when your trust issues keep getting in the way? Can you really learn to trust again after betrayal—or are you doomed to repeat the same painful patterns?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is struggling with deep trust issues that continue to harm his relationships, even when he knows his fears aren’t based in reality.

Angela explores:

• Why betrayal trauma rewires our ability to trust
• How fear and anxiety can masquerade as intuition
• Why seeking constant reassurance from a partner often backfires
• How old wounds shape the stories we tell ourselves in relationships
• Why anger and accusations often hide a deeper longing for closeness
• How to begin repairing your trust in yourself—and in healthy relationships

If you've ever pushed someone away because of fear, or struggled to tell the difference between intuition and anxiety, this episode offers honest, trauma-informed guidance for breaking the cycle and building something new.

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How do you begin to love yourself when you were never properly nurtured? What does healing look like when you feel like you don’t even know who you are?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener struggling with complex trauma from childhood—and the painful realization that self-love feels almost impossible.

Angela explores:

• Why missing early nurturing makes it harder to know—and care for—yourself
• How childhood survival strategies often lead to codependent patterns in adulthood
• Why getting to know yourself is the first step in learning how to nurture yourself
• How to start small by noticing your preferences, needs, and emotional landscape
• Why rushing or pressuring yourself to “catch up” only deepens old wounds
• How self-discovery, patience, and kindness lay the foundation for true healing

If you’ve ever felt lost inside your own life—or unsure how to begin building a relationship with yourself—this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance for starting where you are.

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Why do people suddenly disappear after a deep connection—or after a conflict? Is it about you, or about their own fears?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who asks why men often ghost after intimacy or when tensions arise.

Angela explores:

• Why ghosting is often a fear-based response to vulnerability, not a personal rejection
• How trauma histories can make intimacy feel dangerous instead of safe
• Why conflict, even minor conflict, can trigger fight, flight, or freeze responses in relationships
• How ghosting can function as a desperate attempt to regain emotional control
• Why the search for closure often leaves us stuck—and how to create it within ourselves
• How to move forward when someone leaves without explanation

If you've ever been ghosted and found yourself endlessly questioning what went wrong—or blaming yourself—this episode offers grounded, compassionate insights to help you heal and move on.

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How do you trust again—especially yourself—after betrayal by someone you loved? How do you move forward when the person you thought you knew becomes someone you don't even recognize?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is struggling to heal after discovering years of infidelity and emotional abuse in her long-term relationship.

Angela explores:

• Why rebuilding trust in yourself is the first—and most vital—step in healing after betrayal
• How and why we override early warning signs in relationships
• The role of self-blame and self-doubt in keeping us stuck after betrayal
• How to uncover the moments you knew something was wrong—and why noticing them now is empowering, not shameful
• How to gently rebuild your internal sense of knowing and self-trust
• Why healing is less about trusting others and more about trusting your own instincts

If you’ve ever felt shattered by betrayal—or found yourself questioning whether you can trust yourself to love again—this episode offers practical, compassionate guidance for beginning again on stronger ground.

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Is it possible to heal your heart while you're still stuck in a toxic relationship? Or do you have to get out before true healing can even begin?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels trapped—yearning to heal while still living with a partner who has caused deep emotional pain.

Angela explores:

• Why survival mode and healing mode cannot happen at the same time
• How toxic relationships keep old wounds open, preventing real recovery
• Why letting go of trying to “earn” love is the first step toward freedom
• How facing reality (without self-blame) creates space for change
• Practical steps you can take now to lay the groundwork for healing—whether or not you’re ready to leave yet

If you’ve ever felt stuck between your desire for healing and the reality of an unhealthy relationship, this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance for finding your way toward a stronger future.

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What can you do when your relationship feels like it’s slipping away—and you're just now realizing how much was broken? Can love be rebuilt after separation?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is heartbroken over the possibility of losing his marriage. Now aware of communication issues he didn't fully understand before, he's asking how to become a better partner—and whether there’s any hope of saving the relationship.

Angela explores:

• Why change has to start within, not with convincing your partner
• How separation often happens because one partner feels emotionally exhausted
• Why listening without defending yourself can open the only real door to repair
• The difference between “working harder” and “working differently” to rebuild trust
• Why trying to force or argue for the relationship often backfires
• How personal growth benefits you, whether or not the relationship ultimately survives

If you’re trying to save a relationship on the brink—or simply wondering how to become a better partner even after heartbreak—this episode offers grounded, compassionate guidance for navigating one of love’s hardest moments.

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What happens when the people you love don’t get along—and you're stuck in the middle? How do you honor your partner's feelings without betraying your family, or yourself?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who feels torn between his wife and his family during stressful holiday visits. His wife struggles with feeling disrespected by his mother and sister, but he’s spent years learning how to "go along to get along"—and now he's caught between them.

Angela explores:

• Why “going along” with family dynamics sometimes masks deeper loyalty binds
• How unspoken family rules shape our reactions—and why your partner may resist them
• Why expecting a partner to adjust to unfair family patterns can create resentment
• How to recognize when keeping the peace comes at too high a cost
• Ways to honor your partner’s experience while maintaining family boundaries
• How healing involves learning to hold loyalty to yourself first

If you’ve ever felt pulled between your partner and your family—or struggled with guilt about setting boundaries—this episode offers compassionate, clear-eyed guidance for navigating those painful dynamics.

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Why is it so hard to move on from a toxic relationship, even when you know leaving was the right thing to do? And why does it feel like the person you left is still living rent-free in your mind?

In this episode of Ask Angela: Relationship Advice for Love After Trauma, Angela Amias responds to a listener who is struggling to move forward after an 11-year relationship with a vulnerable narcissist—even nine months after the breakup.

Angela explores:

• Why moving on emotionally takes longer than we want it to
• How toxic dynamics leave deep imprints that healing must slowly unwind
• Why intrusive thoughts and memories are part of the healing—not signs of failure
• How time, distance, and self-compassion create space for real recovery
• What it really means to “move through” pain, not just "get over" it
• How to see painful memories as holding hidden wisdom for your future

If you’re finding it hard to stop thinking about an ex who hurt you—or you feel frustrated with how long healing is taking—this episode offers honest, hopeful guidance to help you trust your own timing.

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