Welcome to The Attachment Trap Podcast, where therapist and author Tim Ervin and his partner, Susan, dive into the messy, beautiful world of modern love.
From anxious texting spirals to “why do I always date the same kind of person?” moments, this show blends humor, heart, and science to help you understand why love can feel like a rollercoaster—and how to step off the ride finally.

Each episode unpacks real-life relationship dynamics through the lens of attachment theory, nervous system healing, and everyday stories from Tim and Susan’s own marriage. You’ll learn why chemistry can be a trigger, how to set boundaries without burnout, and what secure love actually feels like in your body.

Grab your coffee, pull up a chair, and join us at the kitchen table for conversations that are warm, funny, and deeply human.
Because you’re not broken, you’re becoming.

What if your thoughts were only passing visitors—clouds drifting through the sky, waves rolling across the ocean, leaves floating down a stream? Each week, we’ll explore guided mindfulness journeys, progressive relaxation, and hypnotic imagery to help you loosen the grip of thought and discover the calm that’s always been within you.

Step into a space of deep relaxation and awareness. Beyond the Clouds offers guided mindfulness meditations, progressive relaxation practices, and hypnotic suggestion journeys designed to quiet the mind and restore the body. Each episode weaves soothing imagery—clouds in the sky, waves on the ocean, echoes in the canyon—reminding you that you are not your thoughts.

Created for anyone seeking relief from stress, anxiety, or the constant mental chatter, these sessions help old stories that hold you back and help you let go of and return to a presence, clarity, and peace. Whether you’re new to meditation or have been practicing for years, you’ll find calm, renewal, and grounding in every episode.

Listen weekly, relax deeply, and remember: you are the sky, not the passing clouds of thought.

Have you ever wondered why the same fights keep showing up in your relationships, even when you swear you’ll never repeat the pattern?

You’re not broken, you’re human. And your nervous system is simply replaying old attachment strategies that once kept you safe.

I’m Tim Ervin, a therapist, coach, Navy veteran, and author of The Attachment Trap. For over 30 years, I’ve helped people untangle the survival patterns that block love, trust, and connection. On this podcast, I blend humor, neuroscience, and real-life stories to show you how healing occurs not just in your mind, but also in your body and subconscious mind.

Season 1 was about awareness: naming the patterns and understanding why you do what you do. Season 2 is about transformation: using tools like EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing) and hypnotherapy, actually, to shift those patterns so that love feels safe again.

Expect to hear pop-culture examples—from Ross and Rachel’s anxious-avoidant loop in Friends, to Jim and Pam’s tender missteps in The Office, to the lovable chaos of Modern Family. These aren’t just sitcom storylines; they’re mirrors of the attachment patterns that shape our lives.

Along the way, you’ll learn:

• Why talk therapy alone sometimes isn’t enough to change automatic reactions.

• How EMDR helps your brain finally reprocess old memories so they stop hijacking you in the present.

• How hypnotherapy opens the door for new, healthier beliefs to take root at the subconscious level.

• How combining the two can help you move from survival mode into real capacity for love.

You’ll also receive guided practices, such as a gentle EMDR-inspired meditation in Episode 2, that allow you to experience healing tools firsthand.

If you’ve ever thought, “I understand why I do this, but I still can’t stop,” this podcast is for you. It’s time to stop blaming yourself, start rewiring old survival strategies, and finally build the kind of connection you’ve been craving.

Because you’re not broken, you’re becoming.