Ep 151 Description:

"The more you stay curious, the more you grow and evolve, and that's going to bring you to your best self. So always stay curious." —Simone Toomer

Ever felt like the system doesn’t believe you know your own body—or your own birth? You prepare, you research, you show up ready to advocate for yourself… only to face doubt, resistance, and voices that try to speak louder than your own. This episode dives deep into how you can reclaim your power, lean on community, and birth on your own terms—even when the world pushes back.

Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant, childbirth educator, sleep educator, and a fierce advocate for birthing autonomy. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone brings raw honesty and lived wisdom to the conversation. Her work is rooted in community care, equity, and the belief that every birthing person has the right to be heard, supported, and fully informed.

Tune in to hear a candid, soul-stirring conversation about the sacred power of sister circles, the courage to challenge systemic barriers, and the beauty of birthing with confidence. Hit play now and discover what it means to heal in community, stay curious, and truly reclaim your body and birth.

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Episode Highlights:

03:03 Simone’s First Pregnancy and Birth

06:38 Navigating Resistance and Preparing for Labor

10:02 Postpartum and Becoming a Duola

14:37 Simone’s Second Pregnancy and Birth

23:26 Postpartum Anxiety

26:15 Reclaiming Birth and the Importance of Community

Connect with Simone:

Simone Toomer is a birth and postpartum doula, International Board Certified Lactation Consultant (IBCLC), childbirth educator, sleep educator, and passionate advocate for birthing autonomy and community care. Drawing from her own experiences as a young Black mother navigating both hospital and home births, Simone empowers families with knowledge, confidence, and compassionate support. Her work centers on equity, healing, and the belief that every birthing person deserves to feel seen, heard, and fully supported throughout their journey.

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