What if conflict didn’t have to feel scary, confrontational, or overwhelming? What if it could actually build stronger teams and better leaders?

In this empowering episode of the Sound Leadership podcast, host Dan Boniface and leadership expert Darren Draper unpack the real reasons why conflict triggers fear—and what you can do about it.

From cortisol spikes that date back to prehistoric sabre-tooth tiger threats, to modern workplace disagreements, they explore how conflict affects us physically, mentally, and emotionally—and why understanding your default conflict style matters more than you think.

Together, they discuss:

• The three conflict personas—The Fearful, The Bring-It-On'ers, and The Responsibility Takers—and how each responds under pressure
• Famous examples of conflict styles, from Neville Chamberlain to Steve Jobs to Nelson Mandela
• Practical strategies to manage conflict through mindset shifts, preparation, and structured tools like SBI and AMEN
• How to prevent toxic conflict while encouraging healthy, productive challenges in your teams
• Why "Stay Curious, Not Furious" is the new leadership mantra for emotional intelligence and resilience

Dan & Darren’s Top 3 Leadership Soundbites:

1. Preparation is key.
2. Mindset that conflict is often good for a business, it builds awareness and allows for high performance.
3. Stay curious, not furious.

If you want to stop fearing conflict and start using it as a force for good in your leadership, this episode is packed with practical wisdom.

🎧 Tune in now to learn how to manage fear, embrace responsibility, and lead your team through moments of tension with skill and confidence.

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