There are hard things you choose—and then there are the ones that choose you. IDK, This Is Really Hard marks the start of our How-To Series, where we explore what it means to do the hard things we never actually asked to learn.

“I don’t know” used to feel like failure — like I was supposed to have an answer for everything. But somewhere between perfectionism and faith, I learned that not knowing can actually be the start of something good.

In this solo episode of IDK My BFF Jude, I talk about learning to live in the gray, staying curious when clarity doesn’t come easy, and trusting God even when the plan doesn’t make sense. If you’ve ever felt pressure to have it all figured out — this one’s for you.

Plus, a sneak peek at the next series: How-To’s for Real Life — how to do hard things, how to host a party, and how to move through what no one prepared you for.

If this episode hit, send it to a friend who needs the reminder, or leave a review — it helps more than you think. You don’t have to have it all figured out. Just follow the podcast — that’s one mystery solved.

Follow along on Instagram @idkmybffjude for behind-the-scenes and new episodes every other Tuesday.

Ever catch yourself asking, “IDK, are you mad at me?” Welcome to episode 8, where I get real about my lifelong relationship with people-pleasing. From saying yes before I even thought about it, to unpaid commitments I regretted, to buying a book called How to Say No back in 2008—I’ve lived the cycle.

In this episode, I unpack how fear of rejection kept me agreeable, how faith and duty complicated my yes, and how a fallout with a friend finally flipped the switch from compulsion to choice. If you’ve ever struggled with boundaries, resentment, or the pressure to be liked, this one’s for you.

Listen in as we talk people-pleasing, rejection, boundaries, integrity, and learning how to finally say no.

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Written and hosted by Judith Sallador

Produced by Michael Gonzales

Are you delulu... or just finally trusting yourself?
This week, we're getting real about self-trust: how to build it, how to hear it, and how to stop outsourcing your gut to everyone else. If you've ever second-guessed a decision, spiraled after a bold move, or wondered whether you're intuitive or just impulsive — this one's for you.

We’re talking intrusive thoughts, gym follow-throughs, haircuts with no warning, and what it really takes to rebuild confidence when you’ve lost your way.
No preaching, no perfection — just a love letter to the messy middle where self-trust is forged.

🎧 Listen, reflect, and maybe… stop asking everyone else what you already know.
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Written and hosted by Judith Sallador

Produced by Michael Gonzales

Everyone swears they don’t gossip—but let’s be real, we all do. In this episode of IDK, My BFF Jude, we’re unpacking what gossip really means: is it just messy whispers, or can it actually be survival, connection, and even protection?

I’m joined by my longtime friend Joss as we dive into:

• Why gossip shows up in every culture (yes, even in church).

• The difference between venting, storytelling, and slander.

• How “whisper networks” protect women and marginalized communities.

• Why gossip feels intimate, powerful, and sometimes dangerous.

• Whether silence protects peace—or just protects power.

From chisme to prayer requests to the tea in your group chat, we’re asking: who benefits when we call it gossip, and who gets silenced?

🔗 Come tell me what kind of gossiper you are (Vault, Livestream, Historian?) over on Instagram: @idkmybffjude.

Written and hosted by Judith Sallador

Produced by Michael Gonzales

In this episode of IDK My BFF Jude, I’m taking you to Chicago for three unforgettable true stories you won’t hear anywhere else. From a hilarious yet harrowing World War II family history about my aunt being “stuck in a tree,” to a spontaneous dance battle in Chinatown, to a late-night Red Line encounter with a mystery paper bag labeled “FREE EATS,” this episode is full of funny travel stories, slice-of-life moments, and real Chicago energy.

This week’s episode wasn’t part of the plan. I was supposed to talk about gossip, but yesterday marked one year since my life blew up, and I couldn’t ignore that.

So instead of tea, this is a heart-to-heart. A grief podcast episode about emotional healing, but not just the kind we talk about at funerals. This is about breakups, identity shifts, friendships that ended, and dreams that didn’t happen. It’s for anyone grieving something they can’t quite name.

I’m sharing what grief taught me: how it ambushed me, how it expanded me, how it changed my voice. I didn’t follow a timeline. I chose closure, even when it wasn’t given. And somehow, I made it here.

If you’re healing after loss, or still finding the words, this one’s for you.

If the episode resonates, follow the show, leave a review, and share it with someone who might need it. And come say hi on Instagram @idkmybffjude I’d love to hear your story too.

Written and Hosted by Judith Sallador

Produced by Michael Gonzales

I built a life that looked good—on paper, at least. But behind the image was someone who had vanished from her own story. In this episode, I talk about what it means to stop disappearing, start choosing yourself, and reclaim the parts of you that were never meant to be sacrificed.

We’re not talking about narcissism or main character syndrome. We’re talking about presence. About identity. About the quiet ache of trying to earn love when you were already made with it.

From passport photos to Little Mermaid metaphors to a surprise encounter outside my old Chicago apartment—this one’s for anyone trying to come home to themselves again.

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Host: Judith Sallador

Producer: Michael Gonzales