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Me Before PMDD: Relationship Reset Toolkit-Couples

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For anyone who's ever thought "I miss who I was before PMDD took over our relationship" - this episode provides the crucial insight you've been searching for. After taking my first break in four years of podcasting, I'm sharing the profound realization that led to my absence: I had completely lost myself in trying to prove my worth in PMDD relationships.

When we discover we have PMDD, many of us immediately launch into "fix-it" mode, researching every solution, implementing every technique, and burning ourselves out in the process. But beneath this frantic activity lies something more insidious - we're trying to prove we're worthy of love despite our diagnosis. The proving trap manifests as constantly over-explaining, apologizing unnecessarily, abandoning our needs, walking on eggshells, and seeking constant validation from partners.

This episode walks through the ten warning signs you're trapped in the proving cycle and explains why this pattern is so damaging to both your relationship and your nervous system. Your partner wasn't "vetted" to be in a PMDD relationship - they simply chose you out of billions of people because they saw value in who you are. When you shift into performance mode, you rob both yourself and your partner of authentic connection.

The challenging truth is that your self-worth isn't determined by what your partner thinks of you during your luteal phase. You weren't created to perform for love - you were created to receive it as you are. That version of you before PMDD took center stage isn't gone - just buried under survival mode.

Ready to break free from the proving trap? Check out my new Me Before PMDD toolkit in the show notes - it's filled with practical scripts, checklists, and identity reset tools I use with my private clients to help them reclaim their authentic selves.