You can recognize the cycle. You can talk about the cycle. You can even pray about the
cycle. But until you confront it, change your response, and allow God's Word to transform you,
you'll keep repeating it. You cannot break what you refuse to confront. It's time to stop the cycle.

What if the very thing you've been praying to break is the same thing you kee prepeating?

It's time to stop the cycle.

In this powerful message, Pastor Lisa Kai challenges us to take an honest look at the
patterns we've allowed to repeat in our lives. Drawing from Mark 5:21-34, she shares
the story of the woman who suffered for twelve years before reaching out to touch the
hem of Jesus' garment.

From cycles of hurt, anger, unforgiveness, people-pleasing, fear, control, and
self-protection, Pastor Lisa reminds us that recognizing a pattern isn't the same as
breaking it.

Sometimes we know what needs to change, but knowing isn't enough. We must allow
God's Word to change how we live, how we respond, and how we move forward.
Because you cannot break what you refuse to confront.

In this message, you'll be challenged to ask yourself:
● What patterns keep repeating in my life?
● What do I repeatedly do when I feel hurt, afraid, overwhelmed, or disappointed?
● What needs to change if I truly want the cycle to stop?
● Am I allowing God's Word to transform my responses?
Not every painful pattern is your fault. Some cycles are rooted in trauma,
circumstances, and things outside of our control. But with God, we can begin creating
new patterns.
Your cycle won't change until your response changes.
It's time to stop repeating what God is calling you to overcome.
Welcome to I AM Her Podcast.
00:00 – Welcome to Ladies Night In: Girl, You're So Full of It!
02:45 – Speaking Blessings Over the Women Around You
04:10 – ARISE 2027: The Word for Next Year Is "Sealed"
06:55 – Building the Next Generation of Women
08:15 – The Message: It's Time to Stop the Cycle | Mark 5
14:41 – Recognizing Your Patterns and Choosing Change
16:21 – Breaking Relationship Cycles: Learning to Be Alone With God
18:57 – Breaking the Cycle of Avoidance and Finding Your Voice
21:42 – You Cannot Break What You Won't Confront
28:08 – Cycles of Hurt, Self-Protection, Anger, and People-Pleasing
31:20 – Breaking the Cycles of Unforgiveness, Bitterness, Fear, and Control
32:53 – Not Every Painful Pattern Is Your Fault
35:33 – Choosing Grit, Commitment, and Longevity
37:04 – Creating New Patterns and Breaking Old Habits
37:54 – When It's Time to Stop Addressing the Pattern and Give It to God
38:08 – Your Cycle Won't Change Until Your Response Changes
40:48 – The Seed: Activating the Word of God | Hebrews 4:13
43:58 – When the Word Starts Changing You, the Cycle Stops
45:33 – The Woman Who Reached for Jesus | Mark 5:25–34
54:33 – Breaking Free From Insecurity and Intimidation
58:12 – Closing Prayer

If this message speaks to you, share it with a woman who needs the reminder that her
past patterns do not have to determine her future.

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What if the very thing you're trying to hide is the thing keeping you from walking in freedom?

In this powerful episode of I Am Her, Bekah sits down with Pastor Lisa for an honest

conversation about sin, shame, comparison, conviction, surrender, and what happens when we

finally stop hiding. Through the story of Ananias and Sapphira, personal experiences, and

questions from the audience, they explore what it means to expose what's been holding you

back, not for condemnation, but for freedom.

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What happens when the things you keep hidden are the

very things keeping you from walking in freedom?

In this episode of I Am Her, Bekah and Pastor Lisa dive into what it means to live a life of true

surrender, recognize the things that can pull us away from God's path, and stop allowing shame,

comparison, and our past to define who we are.

From the story of Ananias and Sapphira to honest conversations about friendship,

accountability, condemnation, vulnerability, and hearing God's voice, this episode challenges us

to examine what's happening beneath the surface, and what we're allowing to take root in our

hearts.

What are you agreeing with? What are you hiding? And what would happen if you finally

brought it into the light?

In This Episode

01:07 — Bekah opens the Young Adult Service and introduces Pastor Lisa's message.

01:27 — Exposure: Evil Packed Under — Pastor Lisa introduces the message and begins in the

book of Acts, discussing the first miracle and the growth of the early church.

05:00 — Ananias & Sapphira — generosity, deception, and what happens when we agree with

someone else's sin.

12:00 — Being exposed to environments and situations that challenge your convictions.

14:14 — Having different standards without judging others, maintaining friendships, and the

difference between attending church and allowing God to change your behavior.17:09 — What does it mean to be a "full Christian"? God's standard vs. the standards we create

through comparison.

21:10 — Bekah opens up about growing up in church, shame, comparison, and being afraid to

let people see who she really was.

31:19 — Giving people an opportunity to change, allowing people into church despite their past,

and how sharing your own struggles can help set someone else free.

35:36 — When your past makes you feel undeserving, and why parents need to create safe

spaces for their children to be honest about what they're going through.

43:06 — Walking through the door of freedom and choosing to step into the light.

50:55 — Breaking the cycle of condemnation and learning to stop condemning yourself.

56:40 —

"What is the best advice for walking this journey alone?"

season of being alone can become an opportunity to get closer to Jesus.

— Pastor Lisa explains why a

58:42 —

"How do you know when to give someone grace?"

knowing when confrontation is necessary.

— Grace, accountability, and

1:01:00 —

"How do I know if I'm surrendering something to God or just avoiding it?"

Understanding conviction, surrender, prayer, and discernment.

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1:05:00 — Learning to recognize when God is speaking, developing discernment, and being

willing to respond.

1:05:00+ — Pastor Lisa's reminder: "Don't delay God's blessings.

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1:12:00 — Bekah closes the episode.

Exposure isn't about shame. It's about bringing what has been hidden into the light so that

freedom can begin.

Your past doesn't disqualify you. Your mistakes don't have to define you. And you don't have to

stay bound by the things God is asking you to surrender.

Sometimes the first step toward freedom is simply being willing to be honest.

What if the most dangerous thing isn't losing God's presence, but losing His presence and not
even realizing it?

In this powerful message from Girls Night In, Young Adult Pastor, Bekah Lagafuaina challenges
us to look honestly at the places where compromise, comfort, fear, and temporary pleasure may
be costing us what God has entrusted to us.

What are you willing to trade for comfort?

In this powerful message from Girls Night In, Bekah Lagafuaina shares a deeply personal
testimony about learning to surrender fear, control, comfort, and compromise to say yes to God
fully.

Through the story of Samson, Bekah reminds us that compromise rarely happens all at once. It
can happen one decision at a time, until we become so comfortable with what we've
compromised that we no longer recognize what we've lost.

She challenges us to ask:
1. Are we letting what we want become louder than what God said?
2. Are we protecting what God has entrusted to us?
3. Have we confused God's grace with His approval?
4. Are we relying on someone else's prayers, faith, or anointing instead of cultivating our own
relationship with Jesus?

The story of the ten bridesmaids in Matthew 25 reminds us that having a lamp isn't the same as
having oil. We cannot live off someone else's anointing. We need our own oil. We need our own
relationship with Jesus. And above everything God has called us to carry, the greatest thing we can carry is His
presence.

Bekah also shares part of her personal journey with her husband Elijah, the prayers she prayed
when others didn't yet understand their relationship, and how God's faithfulness brought what
He had shown her full circle.

"Whatever it costs to keep His presence is worth it."

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TIMESTAMPS
00:00 — The Word God Put on Her Heart: Compromise
01:40 — When Comfort Makes Us Compromise Our Calling
03:20 — Fear, Control & Learning to Depend on God
05:43 — Your Yes Can't Be Conditional
08:58 — Don't Trade the Oil
09:55 — Samson: When Temporary Pleasure Costs You Something Eternal
19:50 — Four Warnings About Compromise
23:05 — The Danger of Losing God's Presence Without Realizing It
24:03 — The Ten Bridesmaids & The Oil
29:38 — "God, May Your Anointing Never Leave Me"
30:38 — Don't Get Caught Up in Your Delilahs
31:22 — There Is Still a Way Back
32:50 — Whatever It Costs to Keep His Presence Is Worth It
34:09 — Bekah & Elijah: Trusting God Through the Unknown
37:50 — When God's Promises Come Full Circle
39:34 — A Full-Circle Moment in Australia
41:27 — Psalm 51:10–12
42:55 — Prayer Over the Audience
46:00 — Prayer of Salvation & Closing

Scripture referenced: Judges 13–16 • Matthew 25:1–13 • Psalm 51:10–12

If this message speaks to you, share it with a woman who needs the reminder: don't trade what
God has given you for what only feels good for a moment.

Follow Lisa Kai and Bekah Lagafuaina on all digital platforms:
- Lisa Kai @lisakai
- Bekah Lagafuaina @bkaiii

Don't forget to learn more about our upcoming Arise Womens Conference coming in February 2024. Check out this link for more information: https://www.arise-movement.com