Why is it so hard to say no, especially after something as life-changing as cancer?

In this heartfelt episode of Confidence After Cancer, Gabby explores one of the biggest struggles many women face when returning to work: setting boundaries without guilt. Drawing from her own experience and stories from clients, she unpacks why so many of us fall into people-pleasing patterns, how guilt and overcommitment can erode your energy, and why learning to say no is an act of self-respect, not selfishness.

Gabby also shares practical tools and scripts you can start using right away to set boundaries with confidence and kindness, without overexplaining, apologising, or feeling like you’ve let anyone down. You’ll learn how to pause before saying yes, how to recognise the early warning signs of burnout or resentment, and how to replace guilt with gratitude as you begin to protect your energy and rebuild your confidence at work and beyond.

If you’ve ever found yourself saying yes when every part of you wanted to say no, this episode is your reminder that boundaries don’t push people away, they create the space for you to thrive.

What You’ll Learn from this Episode:

• Why boundaries are difficult, especially for women returning to work after illness
• How guilt and people-pleasing can harm your confidence and recovery
• Simple scripts to help you say no clearly, calmly, and kindly
• How to recognise the early signs of boundary breaches like fatigue, resentment, or overwhelm
• Why saying no to others often means saying yes to your wellbeing
• How to replace guilt with gratitude and protect your energy long-term

Resources & Links:

• Book a free clarity call with Gabby: Schedule here
• Connect with Gabby on Instagram: @gabby.mottershead
• Visit the website: confidenceaftercancer.co.uk
• Watch on YouTube: Subscribe here
• Join Gabby’s weekly newsletter for tips on life after treatment: Sign up here