What if one simple question could help you make better choices, from which socks to wear to the biggest turning points in your life?
For clinical psychologist Eilat Aviram, it all comes back to the Love Question. It lives in what she calls the Sacred Moment, the tiny pause inside every choice where you either turn towards yourself or away. Once you start noticing it, everything shifts, one decision at a time.

This is just a taste of a much bigger conversation about self-love and learning to trust yourself.

Listen to the full episode to hear how to really feel a feeling, and the answer to the Love Question that surprised even Eilat.

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Clinical psychologist Eilat Aviram sees your personality as a cupboard of ingredients, and that includes the hard things that have happened to you.
The ingredients are given. What you cook with them is up to you.
Eilat explains why this is a relief rather than a burden, why it doesn't mean you're broken, and why the first step is simply opening the cupboard to see what is in there.

This is a taste of a much bigger conversation about self-love, self-acceptance and learning to trust yourself.

Listen to the full episode to hear the rest of Eilat's method, explained using a GPS, a rescue dog and five slices of pizza.

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Everyone says life does not come with an instruction manual. Eilat Aviram does not agree.
Eilat is a Cape Town-based clinical psychologist, speaker and best-selling author, who teaches one deceptively simple idea: how to turn towards yourself and make self-loving choices moment to moment. This episode is the method that gets you there, explained in using a kitchen cupboard, a rescue dog, a GPS and five slices of pizza.

Listen for:

• Why your personality is a set of ingredients rather than a list of faults, and why that includes the hard things that have happened to you
• How to discern a choice that is genuinely good for you from one that only feels good for five minutes
• A step-by-step guide to feel a feeling, using what is happening in your body
• Why no amount of love from someone else can fill the gap, even in a happy relationship
• Where addiction and constant approval-seeking come from
• The powerful Love Question that you can ask when making any decision, big or small, that gives you your own true answer
• Why that answer will often surprise you, and why that is the whole point

Content note: this episode discusses childhood wounding, trauma, addiction and depression in general terms. Please listen with care if these topics are close to home.

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Nobody teaches us how to be human — how to understand ourselves, navigate relationships, cope when life gets hard, and grow through it.

How To Human is a podcast about everything that comes with being a person: our minds, bodies, relationships, histories, struggles, and what can help us live a little better.

Each episode brings together mental health experts, people with extraordinary stories, and fascinating humans for honest conversations about the questions many of us are asking ourselves.

There are no easy answers — just good questions, open conversations, and the hope that we can understand ourselves, and each other, a little better.

Listen with Nicole Mansour - a South African broadcaster, integral coach and mindfulness facilitator.

New episode every second Tuesday with practical tools that stay with you long after listening.

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Disclaimer: How To Human is produced by Humanly Media PTY LTD. The views and opinions expressed in this podcast are those of the host and guests only and do not constitute professional, medical, psychological, legal, or financial advice. Nothing shared here replaces the guidance of a qualified professional. If you are in crisis or require support, please reach out to a licensed practitioner or crisis line in your country. In South Africa, contact SADAG on 0800 567 567. ©Humanly Media PTY LTD. All rights reserved.