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When parents discover their teenager is deliberately harming themselves, panic and confusion are natural first reactions. What does it mean? Are they trying to end their life? How should you respond? This raw, compassionate episode tackles the painful reality of teen self-injury while providing practical guidance for parents navigating this crisis.

Self-injury isn't typically about suicide or attention-seeking. As one former self-injurer named Celia reveals, "I didn't want anyone to know what I was doing. I hid my scars very well." Most teenagers who cut or otherwise harm themselves are experiencing emotional pain so intense they cannot express it in words. Physical pain becomes their desperate attempt to cope with overwhelming inner turmoil. Understanding this crucial distinction helps parents respond more effectively when they discover their child's self-harm.

The path forward requires delicate balance. We explore specific conversation approaches that open communication rather than shutting it down, like asking non-threatening questions such as "What frustrates you most?" or "What do you need from me?" These gentle inquiries create space for teenagers to begin expressing what feels inexpressible. Equally important is what not to do—reacting with horror or interrogation only deepens shame and isolation. Through patience, consistent support, and sometimes professional help, parents can guide their teenagers toward healthier coping mechanisms.

As graduation season approaches, the stress many students feel intensifies. Whether you're a parent, teacher, administrator or friend, recognizing the warning signs of emotional distress could make all the difference in someone's life. Reach out, listen without judgment, and remember that recovery from self-injury is possible with the right support. Your compassionate response today could be the first step in your teenager's healing journey.

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