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One Thread At A Time: A Somatic Mini-Course For Shifting Relational Patterns

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In this episode, I’m joined by Drew Wild for a raw and layered conversation about what it really means to be authentic — especially in relationships that are shaped by trauma, addiction, and nervous system dysregulation.

We dive into the web of relational dynamics — how our survival patterns play out in intimacy, how addiction can be a form of self-regulation, and why co-authenticity (not just self-authenticity) is essential for real connection.

We unpack the difference between rupture and harm, the danger of bypassing emotional truths, and why vulnerability isn’t just a buzzword — it’s a necessary practice for relational healing.

This isn’t a fluffy convo about “better communication.” It’s a deep dive into the messy, sacred, uncomfortable work of being seen, staying open, and choosing truth over performance — even when rejection or disconnection is on the table.

We talk about:— The nervous system’s role in how we relate— Why couples work is such potent terrain for transformation— How to tell when it’s time to stay … or go— Letting go of surface-level “connection” and choosing depth instead— Confronting self-abandonment, emotional shutdown, and the protective parts of us that avoid intimacy— What it takes to build trust through conflict and disagreement

This episode is a wide, honest, and unfiltered exploration of relational healing — woven with metaphor, emotion, and lived experience. If you’re craving deeper connections, more honesty, and a map for navigating relational complexity… this one’s for you.

In this episode, Lindsey Lockett dives into the frustrating reality that many people face in their healing journey: why does healing still feel so damn hard? Even after years of therapy, self-work, nervous system education, and deep intellectual understanding, many still feel stuck in the same patterns. Lindsey challenges the mainstream approach to healing, revealing that it’s not a lack of knowledge that’s holding you back—it’s your nervous system.

She explains how your body, not your mind, determines whether healing is possible and how perfectionism, pressure, and an overemphasis on cognitive awareness can keep you on an endless healing hamster wheel. If you've ever felt like you're doing all the "right things" but still aren’t seeing the change you want, this episode is a must-listen.

What You’ll Learn in This Episode:
🔹 Why your nervous system may actually be blocking your healing.
🔹 The difference between knowing about healing and actually embodying it.
🔹 How trauma, safety, and familiarity shape your nervous system’s resistance.
🔹 The four key areas necessary for true healing: cognitive, somatic, energetic, and relational.
🔹 Why healing isn’t about eliminating triggers or always being regulated.
🔹 The difference between genuine safety and perceived safety in the body.
🔹 How healing needs to feel like permission, not pressure.
🔹 Why your healing journey is NOT about perfection or “finishing” healing.

Special Invitation:
Join Lindsey for her FREE Masterclass on February 27th at 12 Noon Central: "Why Your Nervous System Won’t Let You Heal (Yet)". This live workshop will go deeper into the blocks that keep you stuck, how to shift from intellectualizing healing to embodying it, and practical tools for moving forward.

🔗 Sign up here: https://LindseyLockett.com/heal/

Connect with Lindsey:
🌐 Website: LindseyLockett.com
📸 Instagram: @iamlindseylockett

In this deeply insightful and raw conversation, Lindsey Lockett and Kat Lee come together tounpack the complex layers of codependency—what it feels like in the body, how it shapes our relationships, and how we can begin to break free from its patterns.

Drawing from personal experiences, childhood conditioning, and real-life relationship dynamics, Lindsey and Kat dive into:

• Why codependency often shows up infamily relationships and partnerships
• Howchildhood survival responses (like fawning, people-pleasing, and dissociation) shape adult relational patterns
• Whatcodependency feels like somatically in the body
• Thenuanced difference between genuine support and codependent enmeshment
• The importance ofboundaries, personal responsibility, and differentiation in healing from codependency
• Howauthenticity is the antidote to codependency

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🔗Follow Kat Lee:Instagram |Website
🔗Follow Lindsey Lockett:Instagram |Website
🔗Check Out Lindsey’s Book:Nourish Your Nervous System –Click here