Trauma Bonding—a term that’s often misunderstood and sometimes avoided because naming it means facing the abuse beneath it. In this episode, I break down what a trauma bond is (and isn’t), why it’s more than “shared trauma,” and how it functions as an emotional and physical addiction. Then, we talk about something that might feel uncomfortable: the places where you do have control once you’ve recognized you’re trauma bonded.

I cover:

• The truth about intermittent reinforcement and why it keeps you hooked
• Why naming a trauma bond matters for healing
• How to treat it like an addiction without shaming yourself
• Small, doable ways to create space and reclaim your power
• How to stop looping on them and start focusing on you

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