Stacie and Eden delve into the complex world of identity and labels. Today, they peel back the layers of societal labels that often define us more by expectation than by essence. Stacie opens up about her discomfort with being pigeonholed by her profession and shares her aspiration to be recognized first as a woman of faith, while Eden discusses the often underestimated and judged role of a stay-at-home mom. They explore how labels can equally empower and constrain us, discussing the dynamics of personal identity in a capitalist society, the pressure of checking boxes during life changes like divorce, and the need to find moments of stillness to discover who we are beneath these labels. Together, they reflect on the transformative potential of redefining ourselves on our own terms and invite listeners to join in by crafting personal greetings that affirm their destinies. Stay tuned - this is an episode you won't want to miss!

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00) Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and its purpose.

Personal Experiences with Labels (00:01:19) Stacie shares her discomfort with being defined solely by her occupation.

Challenges of Identifying as a Stay-at-Home Mom (00:04:02) Eden discusses the judgment and internal conflict associated with identifying as a stay-at-home mom.

Struggles with Labels in Personal Life (00:06:41) Stacie shares her struggle with labels during a period of separation and divorce.

Empowerment through Self-Definition (00:09:55) Stacie and Eden discuss the idea of empowering self-definition and reframing the use of labels.

Reframing Labels for Empowerment (00:10:47) Eden shares her perspective on using labels in an empowering way and giving herself permission to define her identity.

Embracing "Enoughness" (00:12:39) Stacie and Eden discuss the concept of "enoughness" and reframing self-evaluation based on labels.

Using Labels for Empowerment and Connection (00:13:56) Eden discusses the impact of labels on self-perception and connection with others.

Challenging the Norm of "What Do You Do?" (00:15:14) Stacie and Eden express their desire to challenge the societal norm of defining individuals by their occupations.

Ending Networking Events without Occupation Questions (00:16:40) Stacie and Eden advocate for starting a movement to shift the focus away from asking about occupations at networking events.

The Makeup Artist's Approach (00:17:07) The importance of not leading with job titles and how it can impact interactions positively.

Discovering One's Identity (00:17:32) Anecdote of a speaker's experience at an event, emphasizing the significance of defining one's identity beyond job titles.

Defining One's Superpower (00:18:33) The concept of identifying one's superpower and its impact on self-definition and interactions.

Transformative Relationship with Labels (00:20:24) Embracing positive relationships with labels and identities and disassociating from them when necessary.

Shifting Into a Positive Outlook (00:21:25) Changing perspectives from self-evaluation to focusing on wins and positives.

Empowerment Through an Oríkì (00:24:16) Introduction to the concept of an oríkì for self-praise and empowerment. (Luvvie Jones, Professional Toublemaker)

Gratitude and Stillness (00:27:26) The power of gratitude and the significance of stillness in shedding labels and finding clarity.

Being and Becoming (00:31:47) The importance of understanding one's core identity and aligning it with aspirations and actions.

Transformational

Stacie and Eden explore the profound question: "Are you driven or dragged by the things in your life?" They share their personal experiences and the transformative journey of identifying elements that either weigh them down or propel them forward. Stacie discusses the liberating feeling of adding more “driven” aspects to her life, defining her success by the joy these elements bring. Eden reflects on giving herself permission to release the “drags” and focus on her passions, like coaching and this podcast. Together, they encourage listeners to embrace support, let go of guilt, and pursue a life aligned with their true passions, ultimately leading from a place of doubt to a destiny filled with fulfillment and success.

What is Discussed:

Driven or Dragged (00:00:24) Discussion on the concept of feeling driven or dragged by different aspects of life.

Defining Drags and Driven (00:02:27) Stacie explains the feelings associated with being dragged or driven in various activities.

Analyzing Drags and Drivens (00:04:43) Exploring the impact of feeling dragged or driven on overall well-being and the possibility of balancing them.

Self-Assessment of Drags (00:06:22) Eden shares personal reflections on focusing more on the driven and realizing the need to assess and release drags.

Seeking Help and Releasing Drags (00:08:35) The importance of seeking help and releasing tasks that feel like drags, leading to a discussion on reframing procrastination.

Releasing Drags for Creativity (00:14:40) Eden’s experience of releasing drags to free up time and energy for more creative pursuits.

Permission to Define Roles (00:16:53) Encouragement to define roles and responsibilities based on personal desires rather than societal expectations.

Adding More Who's (00:16:58) Discussion about adding more people into life and the impact of resources on adding support. (Reference: “Who Not How” by Dan Sullivan & Dr. Benjamin Hardy)

Unlocking Resources (00:17:23) Exploring the resources in life and the importance of opening up to receive help and support.

Permission to Seek Help (00:18:52) The significance of seeking help and support in various aspects of life, such as parenting and personal growth.

Finding Purpose (00:19:42) The impact of seeking help and support on personal growth and finding purpose in life.

Defining Success (00:26:40) Defining success as minimizing tasks that are not enjoyable and focusing on things that bring joy and purpose.

Reframing Life (00:27:17) Reflecting on the balance of tasks that drive and drag, and the importance of redefining success and incorporating joy into life.

Doubt to Destiny Developmental Path (00:32:47) Personal journey of self-discovery and finding purpose beyond traditional roles of wife and mother.

The Discovery Process (00:33:32) Exploring new interests and passions, leading to self-discovery and redefining life goals.

The Discernment process (00:34:31) Evaluating personal desires and aspirations, leading to a shift in career and entrepreneurial pursuits.

Daring to Dream (00:35:23) Acknowledging inner aspirations and overcoming self-doubt to pursue life coaching and personal development.

The Journey as the Destination (00:38:22) Embracing the process of doing and realizing that the journey itself is the destination, leading to present-moment appreciation.

Reflecting on the Doubt to Destiny Development Path (00:42:02) Recognizing pivotal moments and choices that led to personal and professional growth,...

Stacie and Eden dive into the transformative journey of setting healthy boundaries. They candidly share experiences of the profound impact of clear communication in both their personal and professional lives. Stacie discusses boundary-setting at work, which led to a more balanced professional life, while Eden reflects on her marriage, highlighting the importance of individual therapy and the benefits of community support. Their conversation underscores the value of self-awareness, trust, and the courage to say "no" for authentic relationships. Listeners are inspired to embrace boundary-setting as an act of self-care and a pathway to deeper connections.

What is Discussed:

Introduction (00:00:00)Stacie and Eden introduce the podcast and themselves, setting the stage for the discussion on boundaries.

Defining Boundaries (00:01:11)Stacie and Eden discuss the definition of boundaries and the importance of having them in relationships.

Challenges with Boundaries (00:02:52)The conversation shifts to the challenges of setting boundaries, particularly related to people-pleasing and fear of offending others.

Impact of Boundaries (00:05:10)The impact of setting boundaries on oneself and others, and the potential responses when communicating boundaries to others.

Setting Boundaries with Love (00:07:24)Quotes are shared about the importance of setting boundaries and the courage required to love oneself while risking disappointing others.

Communication of Boundaries (00:10:36)The importance of effectively communicating boundaries and the consequences of not addressing issues in a timely manner.

Practicing Boundaries (00:13:20)Discussion on practicing and articulating boundaries, including seeking external perspectives and finding the courage to express oneself.

Setting Boundaries in Relationships (00:15:57)Stacie emphasizes the importance of not withdrawing from relationships but rather setting healthy and communicated boundaries for a beneficial relationship.

Finding Your Voice (00:16:15)Discussing the need to communicate boundaries and express oneself in relationships.

Understanding Different Responses (00:18:23)Exploring how trauma responses can impact communication and the importance of understanding each other's communication styles.

Practicing Boundaries (00:21:30)Discussing the importance of practicing setting boundaries and seeking feedback for effective communication.

Exercising Boundaries (00:23:48)Analogizing the process of setting boundaries to exercising and strengthening one's ability to articulate needs.

Setting Healthy Boundaries (00:27:34)Emphasizing the importance of healthy boundaries in relationships and the potential positive impact on personal growth.

Recognizing Support Systems (00:30:25)Reflecting on the role of supportive individuals and divine encounters in recognizing the worth of maintaining healthy boundaries.

The importance of receiving divine occurrences (00:32:50)Discussing the significance of being present to receive divine occurrences and having the courage to speak up.

Self-awareness and recognizing internalization (00:34:27)Understanding the importance of self-awareness, recognizing internalized emotions, and the impact on communication.

The significance of self-awareness in relationships (00:36:36)Emphasizing the importance of self-awareness in relationships, knowing oneself, and the value of slowing down and dating oneself.

Boundaries in marriage and the need for self-reflection (00:37:31)Exploring the complexities of boundaries in marriage, self-reflection, and the...