Are “big BUTs” sabotaging your freedom? Not those glutes—the tiny word that sneaks in after truth: “I know I’m free in Christ, but…” In this episode, Richard Young and Justin K. dismantle the sneaky “but” statements that keep you married to an old identity. Drawing from a recent church trip to Texas, they walk through Romans 6, Revelation 1, and Jesus’ “good tree” metaphor in Matthew 7 to show why a healthy tree (you, in Christ) produces good fruit—and how the “but” often reveals the real lie you’re believing.

You’ll hear a live coaching moment where a brother realizes he doesn’t actually believe he’s a “good tree,” why all-or-nothing thinking (hello, 75 Hard) fuels shame and relapse, and how to let good fruit ripen with patience instead of quitting at the first stumble. The episode closes with a hopeful prayer, rooting you again in your union with Jesus.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to spot the “BUT” that’s blocking transformation
• Why identity (“good tree”) precedes behavior (“good fruit”)
• A grace-based way to handle setbacks without starting over
• Practical steps to take thoughts captive and agree with truth

If you’d like Richard & Justin to teach this message at your church or men’s group, DM us. And if this helped, follow the show and share it with a friend who’s ready to retire their “big BUTs.”

In this episode, Richard Young dismantles the myth that freedom should be “easy” if you’re doing it right. If you’ve been looking for a loophole, a hack, or a shame-free shortcut, this conversation reframes the journey: not as trying harder, but as thinking differently—and practicing it daily.

You’ll learn why numbing out is easy in the moment but costly over time, and how to build the resilient, shame-free habits that actually change your life: feeling your feelings, questioning fear, and renewing your mind with truth. Richard breaks down a simple rhythm for processing anxiety with God, taking thoughts captive (2 Cor. 10:5), and being transformed by the renewing of your mind (Rom. 12:2)—even when it’s uncomfortable.

If you’re ready to stop chasing “get-free-quick” and start walking in durable freedom, this one’s for you.

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• Why “make it easier” can become a new form of avoidance
• A simple framework for feeling urges without obeying them
• How to process anxiety with God so peace guards your heart (Phil. 4:7)
• The difference between effort and striving—and how grace fuels practice

On today’s shorter, solo episode of Free From Porn, Richard Young unpacks real questions that came up during a recent 6-hour live coaching weekend in Texas. These aren’t theory questions—these are the ones every man secretly asks:

👉 “What if I still feel tempted?”
👉 “What if my desire goes away… but then comes back?”
👉 “How do I convince my friend porn is bad?”

Here’s the truth: freedom doesn’t mean you’ll never feel temptation again. Even Jesus was tempted. What matters is how you see it—and whether you let shame or grace define your response. Richard explains why temptation isn’t sin, why desire itself isn’t the problem, and why trying to convince someone else to quit will always backfire.

If you’ve ever thought, “Maybe I’m not really free because I still feel tempted”—this episode will change the game for you.

And at the end, Richard shares an exclusive invite to his Shame-Free Path Masterclass happening this Thursday. Normally $27, but for podcast listeners it’s just $5. DM him “SFP” on Instagram to grab your spot.

Most guys think commitment means trying harder, pushing through, and shaming yourself into change. But that kind of “commitment” always burns out. In this episode of the Free From Porn podcast, Richard and Justin unpack why lasting freedom requires a shame-free commitment.

Through personal stories, hilarious analogies (backflips, belly flops, and failed journaling attempts), and biblical truth, they show you how to spot the limiting beliefs that keep you stuck in half-hearted attempts—and how to finally go all in without the weight of shame.

If you’ve ever felt like you’re “committed to quitting” but secretly only committed to looking like you’re quitting, this conversation will flip the script. Freedom doesn’t come from beating yourself up. It comes from believing the truth of who you are in Christ—and committing from that place of grace.

Welcome to the Free From Porn podcast, where freedom is your new normal. In today’s episode, your host Justin Khoe and co-host Richard Young dive deep into a raw and real conversation about the unexpected, uncomfortable reality of being propositioned in a massage parlor. It’s not a story you hear often, but it highlights a key truth: external circumstances don’t define your integrity.

Justin shares multiple jaw-dropping stories of being propositioned in places he thought were safe spaces, and how he continually chose purity in moments of temptation. Richard joins the conversation to challenge the false narrative that external factors—like women’s clothing or controlling environments—are the key to overcoming lust. Instead, the battle starts inside, and how you choose to see people, not as objects but as image-bearers of God.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• The absurdity of outsourcing responsibility for your lust to others.
• Why changing how you view people is the real battle.
• Practical steps to take ownership and steward your thoughts and eyes.

It’s time to stop blaming others and start embracing the transformation of your mind. Tune in for a conversation that will shift your perspective on lust, temptation, and true freedom.

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“You’re going to be single forever if you keep watching porn…”
That line hits different—especially if you’ve ever secretly feared it might be true.

In this honest and surprising episode, Richard, Justin, and our guest Ruth Johnson take a wrecking ball to the hidden fear that porn has destroyed your chances at love.

But this isn’t just about sex or singleness—it’s about how porn warps your ability to connect with real people.

Ruth brings a powerful and rarely-heard female perspective on how media marketed as “funny” or “romantic”—from American Pie to Twilight—shaped how she saw men, love, and her own worth.

We talk about:

• Why both men and women can objectify each other without even realizing it
• How porn rewires your brain—and makes healthy relationships harder
• The subtle ways shame keeps you guarded, self-protecting, and disconnected
• And how the gospel frees you to see others (and yourself) as God does: with love, curiosity, and grace.

If you're tired of relational pain, performance masks, or the fear that you’ll never be “enough” for someone—you need this episode.

🔥 Plus: Ruth and Eliana are launching a brand new coaching program for women ready to walk in freedom. DM them to learn more— @strewthrewth @always.daughter

You’ve heard the stereotype: “Porn is a guy problem.”
But what if that’s not the whole truth?

In this groundbreaking episode, Justin Kuh and Richard Young are joined by their very first guest—Eliana—to dismantle the myth that porn is a men-only struggle.

Eliana shares her powerful story of battling a lesser-talked-about side of addiction: erotica, audio porn, emotional fantasy—and the ache underneath it all.
Not lust.
Not rebellion.
But a longing to be loved.
To be seen.
To be safe.

We talk about:

• Why women often don’t realize they’re caught in a porn cycle
• How shame keeps so many silent and stuck
• The real root behind feminine addiction—and how Jesus heals it
• Why freedom isn’t just for men… and how the gospel is better than behavior management

This is not just another conversation about purity. It’s a call to come home—to the truth that you are already loved, already worthy, already free in Christ.

💬 If you're a woman silently struggling with pornography, DM us. We’re exploring a coaching program just for you—by women, for women.

This is your moment to step into the light.
Let’s go there—together.

What if the thoughts in your head aren’t actually you?

So many believers are walking in condemnation, not because they’re sinning—but because they believe every thought that pops into their head is them. A lustful thought. A shameful memory. A mental image they didn’t ask for. And suddenly, they’re spiraling.

In today’s solo episode, Richard Young breaks down one of the most powerful mindset shifts in the journey to freedom from pornography and shame:
You are not your thoughts.

Just like you aren’t your kidneys or your heartbeat, you’re not your brain’s random mental noise. You’re the observer. And once you stop taking every thought personally, freedom becomes your new normal.

Inside this episode:

• Why Jesus’ words in the Sermon on the Mount don’t mean every lustful thought is your identity
• How to separate random brain static from the real “you” in Christ
• The science of inputs and how years of porn exposure still echo—but don’t define you
• A simple mindset shift that defuses shame and puts you back in control
• How we help men in our coaching program take thoughts captive without legalism or fear

If your thought life has been the final stronghold keeping you in shame, this episode is your jailbreak.

📥 Want personal help walking this out?
DM Richard or Justin to see how the Free from Porn Coaching Experience can help you finally renew your mind—and walk like someone who’s already free.