Most people think their struggle with porn is about willpower, discipline, or self-control.

It’s not.

In this episode, Richard breaks down a deeper issue that keeps people stuck—not just in pornography, but in anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and constant inner turmoil: the illusion of control.

We talk about why porn is rarely the real problem, but a coping mechanism for unregulated emotions… and how much of that emotional pain comes from resisting life instead of experiencing it.

You’ll hear:

• Why “trying to control” your circumstances is mentally exhausting
• How resistance and constant mental effort create the very anxiety you’re trying to escape
• Why escape behaviors (porn, alcohol, distraction) feel necessary when life doesn’t go your way
• What happens when you stop resisting and start actually living
• How freedom grows when your energy is no longer wasted on mental tug-of-war

This episode invites you to put down the weapons—worry, control, resistance—and learn how to live from peace instead of striving.

As Paul writes, “Do not be anxious about anything…”
That’s not a command to try harder—it’s an invitation into rest.

If you’re tired of fighting your mind, medicating emotions, or feeling trapped in the same cycles, this conversation will give you a completely different way forward.

Freedom isn’t found by controlling life.
It’s found by learning how to experience it—without fear.