In this Halloween special of Forward Facing, Mali sits down with Lily Lutton, Senior Attorney at Hastings Shadmehry Family Law, for an eye-opening conversation about divorce horror stories, costly legal mistakes, child custody battles, and what really happens behind the scenes in divorce court.

Drawing from their experience in family law, Mali and Lily share real courtroom stories that reveal how emotional decisions, dishonest clients, poor legal representation, and unnecessary litigation can turn a divorce into an expensive legal battle.

The conversation explores common divorce mistakes, including sending threatening messages, making custody agreements without legal advice, hiding financial assets, and allowing anger or revenge to influence important decisions.

They explain why choosing the right divorce attorney and being honest throughout the legal process are essential.Mali and Lily also discuss the risks of using ChatGPT and AI during divorce proceedings, how social media posts and private conversations can become evidence, and why protecting your credibility matters in child custody disputes.

Through shocking courtroom experiences involving hidden income, misleading testimony, and excessive legal fees, they highlight the financial and emotional consequences of poor decisions during divorce.

Ultimately, this conversation is about avoiding costly divorce mistakes, protecting your family, understanding the legal process, and making informed decisions that help you move forward with confidence.

If you are considering divorce, navigating a child custody battle, or looking for practical divorce advice, this episode offers valuable insights from experienced family law attorneys.

Timestamps

00:00 - Introduction and Halloween Divorce Horror Stories

04:33 - Early Red Flags in Divorce and Family Law Cases

09:24 - How Bad Divorce Attorneys Can Make Cases Worse

14:38 - Biggest Mistakes People Make Before Hiring a Divorce Lawyer

19:14 - The Risks of Using ChatGPT and AI During Divorce

23:13 - How Revenge and Anger Can Destroy Your Divorce Case

29:15 - Why Courtroom Preparation Matters in Divorce Trials

30:47 - Child Custody Battles and Unrealistic Legal Demands

34:19 - How Text Messages and Recordings Can Hurt Your Divorce Case

39:21 - Social Media Mistakes During Divorce Proceedings

40:42 - What Happens When Clients Hide the Truth From Their Lawyers

46:55 - Costly Financial Mistakes and Excessive Divorce Legal Fees

49:03 - Hidden Assets, Bank Accounts and Financial Evidence in Divorce

53:59 - What Happens When Clients Ignore Their Attorney's Advice

57:53 - Courtroom Horror Stories and Mistakes During Testimony

01:04:19 - How to Avoid Common Divorce Mistakes

01:08:34 - Personal Growth, Relationships and Moving Forward

01:10:59 - Motherhood, Career Confidence and Finding Balance

01:14:21 - Final Thoughts and Closing

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https://www.linkedin.com/in/lily-bristow-lutton-19290a10a/

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In this episode of Forward Facing, Andee and Mali sit down with Jordan Dupree, an experienced aesthetic nurse practitionerat the Swan Center for Plastic Surgery in Alpharetta, Georgia, for an honest and empowering conversation about beauty, self-care, and the freedom to make choices about your own appearance.

Jordan shares her journey from working in labor and delivery to building a career in aesthetics, explaining how her passion for helping women feel confident shaped the way she approaches her work. She discusses why beauty is not just about how we look on the outside, but also about how we feel about ourselves, our self-worth, and the confidence we carry.

The conversation explores why aesthetic treatments can be deeply personal, especially for women navigating motherhood, divorce, major life transitions, or periods of rebuilding their identity. Jordan explains how small changes can help people feel more comfortable in their own skin, while emphasizing that the goal should never be to create new insecurities or pressure someone into changing their appearance.

Jordan also shares what it means to create a safe, judgment-free space for patients. She explains how she helps people identify what they genuinely want, understand their options, and make informed decisions without feeling pressured into unnecessary treatments. The discussion highlights the importance of trust, realistic expectations, and finding a qualified injector who prioritizes your individual needs.

The conversation goes deeper into popular aesthetic treatments, including Botox, fillers, laser resurfacing, microneedling, and newer regenerative approaches. Jordan breaks down how these treatments work, why healthy skin matters, what natural-looking results really mean, and how to recognize red flags when choosing an aesthetic provider.

Mali also opens up about her personal experience with Jordan and how their work together helped her address long-standing insecurities and feel more confident in her appearance. Their conversation explores how personal transformation can evolve alongside fitness, lifestyle changes, and a growing understanding of who you want to become.

They also discuss the pressure women face when making choices about their appearance, the stigma surrounding cosmetic treatments, and the criticism that can come when you decide to invest in yourself. Jordan shares a powerful perspective on empowerment: you do not have to live with something that makes you unhappy simply because someone else disagrees with your decision.

Ultimately, this conversation is about more than beauty treatments. It is about self-care without guilt, confidence without comparison, and having the freedom to decide what makes you feel like yourself. Whether that means embracing your natural features, exploring aesthetic treatments, or simply giving yourself permission to prioritize your own needs, the choice should be yours.

If you have ever felt judged for caring about your appearance, wondered where to begin with aesthetic treatments, or struggled to put yourself first, this conversation offers a thoughtful perspective on beauty, confidence, and choosing yourself.

Connect with the Swan Center for Plastic Surgery:

https://www.swancenteratlanta.com/

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In this episode of Forward Facing, Andee and Mali sit down with licensed therapist Laurie Newcomb for an honest and deeply personal conversation about therapy, healing, relationships, divorce, grief, trauma, boundaries, and the patterns that can keep us stuck.

Laurie shares how her own life experiences and journey through divorce helped lead her toward a second career in therapy.

She explains why therapy is not simply about fixing what is wrong, but about becoming more aware of yourself, understanding your patterns, and creating a safe space to explore what is happening beneath the surface.

Laurie also discusses why people often repeat old patterns even when they consciously want to change. She explains how therapy can help people become curious about those patterns rather than judging themselves, and why progress is rarely a straight line. Sometimes transformation means taking two steps forward, one step back, and learning from what happened along the way.

The conversation goes deeper into divorce, grief, identity, co-parenting, anger, resentment, and the emotional challenges that come with major life transitions. Laurie explains why people going through divorce may experience constantly changing emotions and why creating space for those emotions can be an important part of moving forward.

They also talk about marriage counseling, communication, boundaries, people-pleasing, mindfulness, happiness, personal growth, and the importance of slowing down enough to understand what you actually need.

If you are navigating divorce, relationships, grief, trauma, major life transitions, personal growth, or simply trying to understand yourself better, this conversation offers thoughtful perspectives on therapy, healing, and moving forward.

Connect with Transformation Counseling :https://transformationcounselingatl.com/If something we’ve talked about today resonates with you, we encourage you to visit TransformationCounseling to learn more about us and our approach.

They work with young adults and adults navigating a variety of life transitions, including divorce, relationships, grief, trauma, and personal growth. Laurie also offers Ketamine-Assisted Psychotherapy (KAP) for appropriate clients.

Laurie's recommended books:

Set Boundaries, Find Peace: A Guide for Reclaiming Yourself

by Nedra Glover

Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New Life

by Abigail Trafford

Broken Open

by Elizabeth Lesser

Timestamps

00:00 - Trailer & Introduction

02:02 - Meet Therapist Lori Newcomb

08:11 - Importance of Therapy

10:38 - Finding the Right Therapist

15:27 - Starting Therapy: What to Expect

18:26 - Fear & Resistance to Therapy

21:20 - Breaking Long-Term Patterns

28:26 - When to Start Therapy

31:38 - Therapy During Divorce

38:13 - Managing Anger & Stress

44:44 - Virtual vs. In-Person Therapy

47:07 - Marriage Counseling

52:15 - Understanding Boundaries

57:30 - Types of Boundaries

01:01:15 - Setting Boundaries

01:02:12 - Boundaries in Relationships

01:11:39 - Breaking the Autopilot Cycle

01:12:14 - Personal Growth Through Challenges

01:13:16 - Practicing Mindfulness

01:14:58 - Advice During a Crisis

01:16:15 - Understanding Anxiety

01:23:08 - Personal Transformation

01:24:33 - Closing Remarks

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In this episode of Forward Facing, Mali and Andy sit down with fractional integrator Nicole Mennicke for an honest conversation about business leadership, workplace culture, accountability, feedback, core values, and why talented employees can still struggle when placed in the wrong roles.

Nicole explains how the Entrepreneurial Operating System (EOS) helps leadership teams turn ambitious ideas into clear and achievable plans. She shares how structured meetings, effective processes, useful data, and shared accountability can help businesses move from constant uncertainty toward focused and sustainable growth.

The conversation explores how Nicole helped the Hastings Shadmehry leadership team clarify its vision, establish a shared language, identify organizational weaknesses, and build a stronger foundation for the firm. They discuss why implementing a new operating system can create temporary turmoil—and why some employees may choose to leave when accountability and expectations become clearer.

They also examine why many leaders claim to want honest feedback until they actually receive it. Nicole shares how businesses can create a healthier feedback culture by addressing problems directly, remaining factual and kind, and placing everyone on the same side of the table against the issue.

Nicole explains the difference between having the right person and placing that person in the right seat. A talented employee may still underperform when their responsibilities do not match their abilities, while a high performer who does not share the company’s values can quietly damage trust, collaboration, and culture.

The conversation also covers meaningful core values, creating a consistent client experience, managing organizational change, preventing burnout, processing grief, and replacing the impossible pursuit of work-life balance with greater harmony between personal and professional priorities.

If you’re a business owner, entrepreneur, manager, lawyer, or team leader struggling with hiring, accountability, workplace culture, employee performance, or business growth, this conversation offers practical guidance for building a healthier and more effective organization.

Nicole Mennicke can be reached at:

https://www.instagram.com/nmennicke/

Timestamps

00:00 - Trailer / Episode Highlights

01:54 - Introducing Nicole and Her Role

03:21 - What a Fractional Integrator Does

05:54 - Building and Growing the Law Firm

08:50 - Leadership, Vision and Accountability

10:21 - Using EOS to Strengthen the Business

12:29 - Building Strong Systems and Team Alignment

14:20 - Creating a Healthy Feedback Culture

20:26 - Defining the Firm’s Core Values

22:08 - Seeing the Whole and Thinking Ahead

23:54 - Building Vulnerable Trust

26:09 - The Power of Humble Confidence

28:29 - Creating Unequivocal Excellence

32:03 - The Three Uniques of the Firm

33:22 - Designing an Exceptional Client Experience

37:27 - Why Businesses Fail: People, Feedback and Meetings

39:47 - Building a Culture That Impacts People

44:45 - Handling Life Changes and Moving Forward

46:42 - Why Harmony Is Better Than Balance

48:22 - Personal Growth and Forward Facing Check-In

53:24 - Where to Connect With Nicole

54:04 - Closing & Outro

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In this episode of Forward Facing, Mali sits down with Jill Heineck for a deeply personal conversation about cancer, resilience, identity, mental healing, relationships, and what it takes to rebuild your life after everything suddenly changes.Jill was just 35, thriving in her career and marriage, when she was diagnosed with uterine cancer.

What followed was a radical hysterectomy, chemotherapy, hair loss, and an experience that forced her to confront not only her health, but the identity she had built around her career, appearance, independence, and drive.Years later, Jill faced cancer again, being diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2017 and then again in 2020.

She also opens up about additional battles with melanoma and basal cell skin cancer, and what repeated diagnoses taught her about living with uncertainty.The conversation goes beyond the physical side of cancer into the emotional reality of losing your hair, struggling to recognize yourself, continuing to show up professionally while undergoing treatment, and learning that sometimes survival means allowing other people to carry you.

Jill also shares how cancer completely changed the way she approached business, boundaries, relationships, and the people she allowed into her life. Some close friends disappeared after her diagnosis, while unexpected people stepped forward, teaching her one of her biggest lessons: when people show you who they are, believe them.

They also discuss the often-overlooked experience of caregivers, learning to ask for help, protecting your energy, advocating for your own health, and why Jill believes the mental healing was ultimately harder than the physical recovery.If you’ve experienced cancer, a health crisis, loss of identity, a major life transition, or simply found yourself wondering how to move forward after life changes overnight, this conversation is a reminder that rebuilding doesn’t always mean returning to who you were before.

Jill Heineck can be reached at:https://heineckandcompany.com/

Timestamps

00:00 - 02:30 | Trailer and Introduction

02:30 - 04:49 | First Cancer Diagnosis and Life Suddenly Changing

04:49 - 09:07 | Early Symptoms, Diagnosis, and Advocating for Your Health

09:07 - 14:17 | Surgery, Hair Loss Fears, and Family Support

14:17 - 20:07 | The Physical and Emotional Reality of Chemotherapy

20:07 - 22:21 | Rethinking Work, Boundaries, and Personal Energy

22:21 - 27:09 | Hair Loss, Identity, and Rebuilding Confidence

27:09 - 30:44 | Learning to Accept Help and Support Caregivers

30:44 - 37:01 | Cancer Support, Relationships, and Who Truly Shows Up

37:01 - 41:39 | Recovery, Career Challenges, and Rebuilding After Cancer

41:39 - 45:21 | Moving Beyond Victimhood and Reinventing Her Business

45:21 - 48:47 | Bladder Cancer, Recurrence, and More Health Battles

48:47 - 51:16 | Fitness, Mental Healing, and Fear of Cancer Returning

51:16 - 53:06 | Prevention, Screening, and Staying Proactive About Health

53:06 - 55:30 | Toxic Relationships and Jill’s Biggest Life Lessons

55:30 - 59:15 | Moving Forward Through New Personal Goals

59:15 - 01:00:08 | Where to Find Jill and Closing Thoughts

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In this episode of **Forward Facing**, Mali Shadmehry and Andee Hastings sit down with **Tonya Chaplin, founder of Tonya Chaplin Coaching**, for a powerful conversation about **limiting beliefs, mindset, identity, success, personal growth, and rebuilding your life through major transitions**.

Tonya explains how fear, comfort, old conditioning, and beliefs formed through life experiences can quietly influence the decisions we make. They explore why **comfort can feel like safety**, why highly driven and successful people can still feel stuck or unfulfilled, and what happens when you finally begin questioning the version of life you thought you were supposed to want.

Tonya also shares her own transformation — from nearly two decades in the corporate world to stepping away from a successful career, going through a major weight-loss and fitness journey, competing in bodybuilding in her 40s as a mother of three, and eventually becoming a life performance and mindset coach.

The conversation goes deeper into **identity after divorce and major life changes**, including the difficult question many people face when a relationship, career, body, or familiar chapter changes: *Who am I now?* They also discuss **Core Energy Coaching, the Energy Leadership Index, defining your personal values, changing habits through awareness, redefining success on your own terms, and what to look for when choosing a qualified life coach**.

If your life looks good on paper but something still feels missing, you’re navigating divorce or another major life transition, or you’re trying to understand why you keep falling into the same patterns, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Tonya Chaplin

01:38 – What Does a Life Coach Actually Do?

03:12 – Fear, Failure & the Beliefs Holding Us Back

05:36 – Why Comfort Isn’t the Same as Safety

08:47 – Who Tonya Works With

10:37 – Why Successful People Can Still Feel Stuck

13:37 – Why the Goal Was Never Really the Point

15:08 – Identity, Energy & the People You Attract

17:55 – Core Energy Coaching & the Energy Leadership Index

21:05 – Are You Living by Your Own Values?

23:51 – When a Successful Life Still Feels Unfulfilling

25:55 – Rebuilding Your Life During Divorce

29:03 – Why Awareness Comes Before Change

33:01 – The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth

34:50 – The Skills & Ethics Behind Life Coaching

36:30 – How to Spot Red Flags in a Life Coach

39:33 – Choosing the Right Support During Vulnerable Times

43:44 – What Does Success Actually Mean?

45:24 – Tonya’s Personal Journey Begins

47:24 – Career, Motherhood & Losing Herself Along the Way

55:05 – What Bodybuilding Taught Her About Herself

56:34 – The Vision That Led Her to Life Coaching

57:14 – Healing, Limiting Beliefs & Starting a New Chapter

01:08:44 – Taking Risks & Creating the Life You Actually Want

01:09:56 – What 20 Years of Marriage Taught Her

01:11:41 – The Identity Shift After Divorce

01:12:09 – “Who Am I Now?” After a Relationship Ends

01:18:56 – Forward Facing Personal Check-In

01:28:35 – Where to Find Tonya & Closing Thoughts

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Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and spa days—especially during divorce. It's about protecting your physical, emotional, and mental well-being so you can make thoughtful decisions and move confidently into your next chapter.

In this episode, Andee and Mali discuss why self-care is one of the most important investments you can make during the divorce process. From setting healthy boundaries and managing stress to prioritizing your health and surrounding yourself with the right support, they share practical insights for navigating one of life's most challenging transitions with resilience and intention.

Join the conversation as the ladies discuss why caring for yourself isn't a distraction from the divorce process—it's one of the best ways to prepare for the life you're building after it.

00:02 Open

00:56 Intro

02:19 Why Self-Care Matters in Divorce

03:25 The Battlefield Mindset

05:37 Bridging Emotion and Legal Strategy

06:55 A Client's Story of Growth

08:25 Building Your Support Team

16:36 Boundaries as Self-Care

18:51 Real Client Example: Setting Boundaries

22:26 Social Media During a Divorce

23:47 Exercise Matters

27:24 Hobbies and Finding "The Glitter"

33:57 Staying Forward Facing

35:00 How Have You Evolved This Week?

38:22 Wrap Up

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In this ENCORE of our first Forward Facing interview, Andee and Mali introduce you to Jason Flatt. Jason left Wall Street after a family tragedy and started his own pit bull rescue, and he is in GREAT demand as a tracker of lost pets.Jason came to the Hastings Shadmehry wolfpack at a moment of GREAT distress.His story is all about strength, resilience, re-invention, and self-knowledge.Join the conversation with the one-of-a-kind Jason Flatt!Here's all of Jason's contacts:https://www.friendstotheforlorn.orghttps://www.facebook.com/FriendsToTheForlornPitbullRescuehttps://www.instagram.com/fttfpitbull/00:50 Introducing Jason Flatt01:31 Why Jason Matters to the Wolfpack03:04 Growing Up with Calvin the Pit Bull04:58 Understanding Dogs06:23 The Emotional Toll of Rescue Work08:13 How Dog Traps Work09:34 Rescue Story: The Bear Cub14:12 Jason's Early Career18:20 Moving from New York to Georgia21:23 Depression and Hitting Rock Bottom24:38 Angelo: The Dog That Changed Everything26:06 First Steps into Pit Bull Rescue29:04 Apollo: The First True Rescue Success30:29 From Rescue to Missing Dog Recovery32:48 The Cow That Helped Find a Dog34:34 The Story of Stella’s Rescue39:30 Lessons Learned from Dog Rescue49:44 Where to find Jason and help his Organization50:40 Wrap-upEvolve with us!Visit our NEW website: https://forwardfacing.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/forwardfacingpodcastInstagram: @forwardfacingpodcastTikTok: @HastingsShadmehryemail us at podcast@hsfamilylaw.com Contact us for a consultation: https://hsfamilylaw.com/contact-us/