In this episode of Forward Facing, Mali sits down with Jill Heineck for a deeply personal conversation about cancer, resilience, identity, mental healing, relationships, and what it takes to rebuild your life after everything suddenly changes.Jill was just 35, thriving in her career and marriage, when she was diagnosed with uterine cancer. What followed was a radical hysterectomy, chemotherapy, hair loss, and an experience that forced her to confront not only her health, but the identity she had built around her career, appearance, independence, and drive.Years later, Jill faced cancer again, being diagnosed with bladder cancer in 2017 and then again in 2020. She also opens up about additional battles with melanoma and basal cell skin cancer, and what repeated diagnoses taught her about living with uncertainty.The conversation goes beyond the physical side of cancer into the emotional reality of losing your hair, struggling to recognize yourself, continuing to show up professionally while undergoing treatment, and learning that sometimes survival means allowing other people to carry you.Jill also shares how cancer completely changed the way she approached business, boundaries, relationships, and the people she allowed into her life. Some close friends disappeared after her diagnosis, while unexpected people stepped forward, teaching her one of her biggest lessons: when people show you who they are, believe them.They also discuss the often-overlooked experience of caregivers, learning to ask for help, protecting your energy, advocating for your own health, and why Jill believes the mental healing was ultimately harder than the physical recovery.If you’ve experienced cancer, a health crisis, loss of identity, a major life transition, or simply found yourself wondering how to move forward after life changes overnight, this conversation is a reminder that rebuilding doesn’t always mean returning to who you were before.Jill Heineck can be reached at:https://heineckandcompany.com/Timestamps00:00 - 02:30 | Trailer and Introduction02:30 - 04:49 | First Cancer Diagnosis and Life Suddenly Changing04:49 - 09:07 | Early Symptoms, Diagnosis, and Advocating for Your Health09:07 - 14:17 | Surgery, Hair Loss Fears, and Family Support14:17 - 20:07 | The Physical and Emotional Reality of Chemotherapy20:07 - 22:21 | Rethinking Work, Boundaries, and Personal Energy22:21 - 27:09 | Hair Loss, Identity, and Rebuilding Confidence27:09 - 30:44 | Learning to Accept Help and Support Caregivers30:44 - 37:01 | Cancer Support, Relationships, and Who Truly Shows Up37:01 - 41:39 | Recovery, Career Challenges, and Rebuilding After Cancer41:39 - 45:21 | Moving Beyond Victimhood and Reinventing Her Business45:21 - 48:47 | Bladder Cancer, Recurrence, and More Health Battles48:47 - 51:16 | Fitness, Mental Healing, and Fear of Cancer Returning51:16 - 53:06 | Prevention, Screening, and Staying Proactive About Health53:06 - 55:30 | Toxic Relationships and Jill’s Biggest Life Lessons55:30 - 59:15 | Moving Forward Through New Personal Goals59:15 - 01:00:08 | Where to Find Jill and Closing ThoughtsEvolve with us!Visit our website: https://forwardfacing.com Follow us on Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/forwardfacingpodcastInstagram: @forwardfacingpodcastTikTok: @HastingsShadmehryemail us at podcast@hsfamilylaw.com Contact us for a consultation: https://hsfamilylaw.com/contact-us/

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In this episode of **Forward Facing**, Mali Shadmehry and Andee Hastings sit down with **Tonya Chaplin, founder of Tonya Chaplin Coaching**, for a powerful conversation about **limiting beliefs, mindset, identity, success, personal growth, and rebuilding your life through major transitions**.

Tonya explains how fear, comfort, old conditioning, and beliefs formed through life experiences can quietly influence the decisions we make. They explore why **comfort can feel like safety**, why highly driven and successful people can still feel stuck or unfulfilled, and what happens when you finally begin questioning the version of life you thought you were supposed to want.

Tonya also shares her own transformation — from nearly two decades in the corporate world to stepping away from a successful career, going through a major weight-loss and fitness journey, competing in bodybuilding in her 40s as a mother of three, and eventually becoming a life performance and mindset coach.

The conversation goes deeper into **identity after divorce and major life changes**, including the difficult question many people face when a relationship, career, body, or familiar chapter changes: *Who am I now?* They also discuss **Core Energy Coaching, the Energy Leadership Index, defining your personal values, changing habits through awareness, redefining success on your own terms, and what to look for when choosing a qualified life coach**.

If your life looks good on paper but something still feels missing, you’re navigating divorce or another major life transition, or you’re trying to understand why you keep falling into the same patterns, this conversation is for you.

Timestamps:

00:00 – Introduction to Tonya Chaplin

01:38 – What Does a Life Coach Actually Do?

03:12 – Fear, Failure & the Beliefs Holding Us Back

05:36 – Why Comfort Isn’t the Same as Safety

08:47 – Who Tonya Works With

10:37 – Why Successful People Can Still Feel Stuck

13:37 – Why the Goal Was Never Really the Point

15:08 – Identity, Energy & the People You Attract

17:55 – Core Energy Coaching & the Energy Leadership Index

21:05 – Are You Living by Your Own Values?

23:51 – When a Successful Life Still Feels Unfulfilling

25:55 – Rebuilding Your Life During Divorce

29:03 – Why Awareness Comes Before Change

33:01 – The Ripple Effect of Personal Growth

34:50 – The Skills & Ethics Behind Life Coaching

36:30 – How to Spot Red Flags in a Life Coach

39:33 – Choosing the Right Support During Vulnerable Times

43:44 – What Does Success Actually Mean?

45:24 – Tonya’s Personal Journey Begins

47:24 – Career, Motherhood & Losing Herself Along the Way

55:05 – What Bodybuilding Taught Her About Herself

56:34 – The Vision That Led Her to Life Coaching

57:14 – Healing, Limiting Beliefs & Starting a New Chapter

01:08:44 – Taking Risks & Creating the Life You Actually Want

01:09:56 – What 20 Years of Marriage Taught Her

01:11:41 – The Identity Shift After Divorce

01:12:09 – “Who Am I Now?” After a Relationship Ends

01:18:56 – Forward Facing Personal Check-In

01:28:35 – Where to Find Tonya & Closing Thoughts

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Self-care isn't just about bubble baths and spa days—especially during divorce. It's about protecting your physical, emotional, and mental well-being so you can make thoughtful decisions and move confidently into your next chapter.

In this episode, Andee and Mali discuss why self-care is one of the most important investments you can make during the divorce process. From setting healthy boundaries and managing stress to prioritizing your health and surrounding yourself with the right support, they share practical insights for navigating one of life's most challenging transitions with resilience and intention.

Join the conversation as the ladies discuss why caring for yourself isn't a distraction from the divorce process—it's one of the best ways to prepare for the life you're building after it.

00:02 Open

00:56 Intro

02:19 Why Self-Care Matters in Divorce

03:25 The Battlefield Mindset

05:37 Bridging Emotion and Legal Strategy

06:55 A Client's Story of Growth

08:25 Building Your Support Team

16:36 Boundaries as Self-Care

18:51 Real Client Example: Setting Boundaries

22:26 Social Media During a Divorce

23:47 Exercise Matters

27:24 Hobbies and Finding "The Glitter"

33:57 Staying Forward Facing

35:00 How Have You Evolved This Week?

38:22 Wrap Up

Evolve with us!

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