A chat about dating. In part two of our series on the 4B movement, Elle and Natalie take a read on what is happening in dating culture, listening to a diverse cross-section of women to try to understand why a growing number of women are saying no to dating.

EPISODE LINKS

Influence of Sex and the City | Emily the Recruiter

Hook-Up Culture | Cunty Chanel

Transactional Dating | Pure Michigangster

Backlash to Women’s Standards | Shawnda

Being Bitter vs Being Aware | Professional Sassatron

Internet Boyfriend | Joshua Summerfield

Self-Love Journey | Caitlin Checker

Women Benefit Men | Fashionably Divorced

Burning the Haystack | Crazylocks918

Burned Haystack Method | Jennie Young

Rising Standards | Jennifer Moxley

Bumble Ad Campaign | Daily Mail

RESOURCES

Are We Dating the Same Guy? | App

Tea for Women | App

FROM THE COMMONS

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CONTACT

Website: www.chatinthecommons.com

Instagram: @chatinthecommons

X: @ChatInCommons

Email: https://www.chatinthecommons.com/contact

CREDITS

Hosted by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Produced by Natalie Blundell and Elle Kamihira

Edited by Elle Kamihira

Audio Engineering by Jason Sheesley at Abridged Audio

Cover Art by Reda Tomingas

Music by Moushumi