What if you're the one who needs to hear it?

The next time you go to give advice—especially unsolicited advice— ask yourself whether the advice is really meant for you instead.

We think it's for the person we're talking to, but what if we consider: if it came to us, it's for us.

This morning while journaling, I had a huge aha about advice for my sister. As I continued to journal, I wondered what if this is really for me.

I was lucky I was in a meditative experience because I could receive it and reflect on it.

It actually was really good advice.

For me.

If we're set on offering the advice, here are some things to consider:

One, before giving the advice, notice the feeling that precedes the advice.

Am I seeking to soothe them or me?

Do we feel anxious or helpless holding their pain?

Are we seeking to feel useful?

Are we merely wanting to alleviate their suffering?

The answer can be different at different times.

Two, are we seeking to fix or hold space?

When my friend's adult son comes to her for advice, before they start a conversation, she asks: Do you want me to listen? Solve the situation? Or give advice?

Often he picks the first option.

Even when we give the advice, what if we allow ourselves to receive the advice as well?

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In today's solo episode, I share how feeling—really allowing myself to lean in and feel uncomfortable feelings—offered me a strength I didn't know I was seeking. That strength gave me the confidence to pursue two activities without knowing how they would turn out.

A lot of times, feelings show up and we don't know 'the why' or 'the reason,' yet if we can lean into them any way, there is wisdom to be had.

And the crazy thing is whether we feel the feeling or we resist it, we still feel uncomfortable. The difference is if we allow ourselves to lean in and feel, the discomfort may feel sharper in the moment, but moves through us faster.

When we resist it, it hangs around and follows us throughout our day. I give an example of the impatience of waiting at the post office.

After you listen, I'd love to hear your thoughts, questions or experience. DM me here on Instagram.

Be well and remember Joy can be found in the Hard.

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Have you ever signed up for something you knew might be good for you—but didn’t feel excited about it at all?

That was me yesterday. I signed up for an all-day art retreat weeks ago, but I resisted it the whole way through. Even the morning of, I questioned everything: Why are you doing this? You can still cancel.

But a quieter, steadier voice nudged me out the door.

In this episode, I share:

• How resistance shows up even when we’re doing something nourishing
• Why creativity can feel uncomfortable when we’re out of practice
• The unexpected freedom that comes from doing something just because
• And what happens when we stop needing a result and simply begin

You’ll also hear:

• A few simple questions to help you reconnect with things you used to love
• What I created when I let go of trying to make something “good”
• And how joy can surprise us when we soften our grip

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The information presented on this podcast is for educational purposes only and is not intended to diagnose or prescribe for any medical or psychological condition, nor to prevent, treat, mitigate or cure any such conditions.