Think you’re lazy? In this episode of Feelings and Other Inconveniences, therapists Sarah Dosanjh and Stefanie Michele pull apart one of the most loaded labels we give ourselves: laziness. Is it a real trait—or just a label we slap on something deeper?

From resistance to overwhelm, passive rebellion to the emotional weight of impossible expectations, they dig into the psychology behind why we sometimes can’t (or won’t) act.

Stefanie shares personal moments when she mistook depression for laziness, and Sarah reflects on how “doing nothing” can actually be an act of protection. Together, they explore how shame, energy levels, and hidden beliefs all play into our inertia—and how reframing the word “lazy” can free us from pointless self-blame.

Stay tuned at the end to hear practical strategies that can help unstick mental blocks. More importantly, you’ll learn how to see these moments not as failures, but as signposts pointing to what you really need.

If you’ve ever called yourself lazy (or been called lazy by someone else), this episode might just change the way you see yourself.

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• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

What if your biggest regret at the end of your life was never truly living as yourself?

In this episode, Sarah and Stef crack open the #1 regret of the dying—wishing they’d had the courage to live authentically, not just follow the script written by others.

With raw honesty and a dash of humor, the hosts swap stories about breaking free from expectations—whether it’s skipping university, ditching a “dream job,” or proudly embracing cat-lady status.

They dig into why it’s so hard to know what you really want, how people-pleasing and cultural “shoulds” sneak into our choices, and why sometimes it’s not about courage, but capacity.

• 0:37 – The Origin: Regrets of the Dying: Introducing Bronnie Ware’s “Top 5 Regrets” and the #1 regret: not living true to yourself.

• 1:33 – The Terry Crews Story: Sarah shares Terry Crews’ realization that he never wanted the life he was living, despite outward success.

• 2:40 – Personal Expectations & Breaking the Mold: Sarah’s story: questioning university, career in the police, and resisting the pressure to always “grow” her business.

• 7:52 – Stef’s Career Pivots & Meaning: Stef’s journey: journalism, therapy, and the struggle to find satisfaction and meaning beyond external validation.

• 12:11 – Is It Courage or Capacity: The hosts debate whether it’s really about courage, or if sometimes we just lack the capacity to change. Because Stef always makes it an issue.

• 14:39 – Social Judgment & Authentic Choices: How fear of judgment and people-pleasing can keep us from living authentically; Sarah’s choice to be single.

• 16:56 – The Conveyor Belt of Life: Waking up to the “automation” of life, questioning mainstream beliefs, and the challenge of knowing what you truly want.

• 25:15 – Mainstream, Subcultures & Critical Thinking: How even “anti-mainstream” ideas can become dogma; the importance of questioning what you subscribe to.

• 38:00 – Listener Challenge: Going Against the Grain: The hosts ask: What’s the last thing you did that was truly for yourself, even if it went against the grain? They share their own recent examples.

More About Stefanie Michele:

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• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

More About Stefanie Michele:

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• Website: Work With Me
• Wednesday Emails

More About Sarah Dosanjh:

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• Website
• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

This week, Stefanie Michele (coach + somatic practitioner) and Sarah Dosanjh (psychotherapist + author) explore the tender, often confusing territory of outgrowing friendships—and why it can feel more complicated than a breakup.

They unpack what it’s like to feel the slow drift, the quiet mismatch, or the emotional flatness in relationships that once felt vital. When values change, life phases shift, or emotional reciprocity feels lopsided, it’s hard to know whether to let go, hang on, or renegotiate the dynamic.

The episode weaves in personal stories, including reflections on feeling loyal to people we've quietly drifted from, and how we now values friendships more by emotional return than shared history...but only sometimes?

They also discuss the subtle grief of friendship breakups—the kind that don’t get a ritual or a goodbye, just a slow fade. And they look at the tension of trying to grow while staying connected to people who don’t necessarily grow in the same direction.

This is a conversation about emotional nuance. About boundaries that aren’t rigid, but real. About letting people be who they are while also choosing who gets to be close.

If you’ve ever wondered whether it’s okay to outgrow someone—or if you’ve stayed in a friendship out of obligation, guilt, or nostalgia—this one’s for you.

More About Stefanie Michele:

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More About Sarah Dosanjh:

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• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

More About Stefanie Michele:

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• Substack
• Website: Work With Me
• Wednesday Emails

More About Sarah Dosanjh:

• YouTube
• Instagram
• Website
• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

Not everyone is going to "get" us—but being misunderstood still stings.

In this episode, Stefanie Michele (coach + somatic practitioner) and Sarah Dosanjh (psychotherapist + author) dig into the uncomfortable and triggering feeling of being misunderstood—especially in a world that thrives on hot takes and out-of-context clips.

From the chaos of YouTube comments to subtle miscommunications in daily life, they explore what gets activated when people don’t “get” us, why it’s not always about ego, and how to stay rooted in your own truth without needing to over-explain.

They’re not here to convince anyone of anything. Just a sharp, honest conversation about the gap between what we mean and what people hear—and how to hold your ground anyway.

Stefanie Michele:

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In this episode, psychotherapist Sarah Dosanjh and coach/somatic practitioner Stefanie Michele unpack the messy truth about personal growth.

Can we actually change who we are, or are we just managing symptoms with nicer language?

They get real about procrastination, personality quirks, self-perception, and the parts of us that therapy just won’t touch.

Through personal stories and client insights, they explore the line between acceptance and accountability — and why some things evolve, while others might be here to stay.

It’s not a self-help pep talk.

It’s a nuanced look at what we can shift… and what we might need to stop fighting.

Stefanie Michele:

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Sarah Dosanjh:

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• Book: I Can't Stop Eating

In this episode, Stef and Sarah—one a lifelong extrovert, the other a card-carrying introvert—dive into the messy, often misunderstood world of personality types. They break down common myths (no, not all introverts are shy, and not all extroverts are party animals) and explore how these traits actually play out in real life: in social situations, relationships, and the awkward in-between moments like transitions or obligations we’d rather skip.

This isn’t just a surface-level chat about “people who like people” versus “people who like books.” It’s a deeper conversation about nervous system regulation, attachment styles, and how anxiety sometimes disguises itself as personality. With personal stories, curiosity, and some well-placed eye-rolls at pop psychology tropes, they unpack the emotional terrain of introversion and extroversion—and why it matters.

If you’ve ever felt misunderstood in your need for space or your need for connection, or you’re navigating relationships where your energy doesn’t quite match someone else’s, this episode offers insight, compassion, and some much-needed clarity.