In this episode of Families Navigating Addiction and Recovery, I sit down with Shiva J, a somatic facilitator, certified Tantra educator, relationship coach, and founder of The Sacred Kings.

We explore a topic that touches every healing, coaching, and family dynamic: integrity, accountability, and power dynamics.

Drawing from his background in personal defense, somatic psychology, and men's work, Shiva breaks down how automatic power imbalances form whenever someone steps into a guiding role, whether as a coach, therapist, or family leader. We discuss why traditional hierarchy often fails, how restorative justice models create horizontal safety, and how embracing feedback and shadow work allows both individuals and families to build lasting, authentic trust.

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Shiva J is a somatic facilitator, relationship coach, certified Tantra educator, and founder of The Sacred Kings. With nearly three decades of experience across fitness, self-defense, and somatic psychology, he specializes in helping men cultivate grounded integrity, navigate power dynamics, and build safe, accountable spaces in coaching and relationships.

Website: https://thesacredkings.com/

Community:
Join The Sacred Kings Brotherhood or explore their open Facebook community through the main website.

Jeff Jones helps families impacted by addiction understand how addiction affects the entire family system. Through his coaching, masterclass, book, and educational content, he helps families create clearer communication, healthier response patterns, and a different way forward.

If your family is navigating addiction and you're looking for a different way forward, I invite you to schedule a free discovery call with me.

Book a free discovery call: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/book-a-call/

This six-session masterclass helps families understand how addiction affects the entire family and move away from confusion, emotional overload, and constant reaction. Families learn how to develop steadier, more intentional responses and create healthier patterns within the family.

Learn more: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/masterclass-upgrade/

In Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution, Jeff Jones offers a different way for families to understand addiction by looking at the family system as a whole. The book introduces practical tools, Both/And thinking, clearer communication, and family rules that are stronger than addiction's chaos while maintaining connection with the person you love.

Get the book: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/rethinking-addiction-book/

Work with Jeff: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyrecoverysolution

Substack: https://jeffjones.substack.com/

#Integrity #Accountability #PowerDynamics #SomaticHealing #RestorativeJustice #MensWork #RelationshipCoaching #FamilyRecovery #AddictionRecovery #FamilyAddictionSupport

In this episode of Families Navigating Addiction and Recovery, I sit down with licensed psychologist Dr. Julie Shafer, who brings over 20 years of clinical experience specializing in relationship dynamics and people-pleasing.

We explore the significant overlap between people-pleasing behaviors and family addiction, specifically how partners and family members can lose their authentic selves while bending over backwards to maintain connection and avoid conflict.

Dr. Julie breaks down the core differences between passive, aggressive, and assertive communication, explains why trying to manage the other person can create deeper disconnection, and provides a practical, step-by-step framework for setting healthy boundaries without escalating arguments.

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Dr. Julie Shafer is a licensed psychologist with over two decades of experience in private practice, helping adults navigate people-pleasing, relationship conflict, and communication challenges.

Website: https://drjulieshafer.com/

Free Resource:
Visit Dr. Julie's website homepage to download Saying It Right: Your Guide to Confident Communication. The resource includes a one-page PDF summary and a full follow-up Effective Communication Workbook.

Jeff Jones helps families impacted by addiction understand how addiction affects the entire family system. Through his coaching, masterclass, book, and educational content, he helps families create clearer communication, healthier response patterns, and a different way forward.

If your family is navigating addiction and you're looking for a different way forward, I invite you to schedule a free discovery call with me.

Book a free discovery call: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/book-a-call/

This six-session masterclass helps families understand how addiction affects the entire family and move away from confusion, emotional overload, and constant reaction. Families learn how to develop steadier, more intentional responses and create healthier patterns within the family.

Learn more: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/masterclass-upgrade/

In Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution, Jeff Jones offers a different way for families to understand addiction by looking at the family system as a whole. The book introduces practical tools, Both/And thinking, clearer communication, and family rules that are stronger than addiction's chaos while maintaining connection with the person you love.

Get the book: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/rethinking-addiction-book/

Work with Jeff: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyrecoverysolution

Substack: https://jeffjones.substack.com/

#PeoplePleasing #AssertiveCommunication #HealthyBoundaries #RelationshipConflict #FamilyRecovery #AddictionRecovery #FamilyAddictionSupport #CommunicationSkills #CodependencyRecovery #EmotionalHealth

In this solo episode of Families Navigating Addiction and Recovery, I challenge the traditional, outdated "guidelines" that often trap families in black-and-white thinking.

From ultimatums and "tough love" to complete division, conventional advice frequently ignores the neurological realities of addiction and leaves family members facing severe chronic stress, burnout, and health risks.

While families did not cause the addiction, they hold the greatest power to influence positive change. I outline how families can shift from reacting to addiction's rules of engagement to establishing their own rules, learning to regulate their nervous systems, and stepping out of learned helplessness.

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Jeff Jones helps families impacted by addiction understand how addiction affects the entire family system. Through his coaching, masterclass, book, and educational content, he helps families create clearer communication, healthier response patterns, and a different way forward.

If your family is navigating addiction and you're looking for a different way forward, I invite you to schedule a free discovery call with me.

Book a free discovery call: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/book-a-call/

This six-session masterclass helps families understand how addiction affects the entire family and move away from confusion, emotional overload, and constant reaction. Families learn how to develop steadier, more intentional responses and create healthier patterns within the family.

Learn more: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/masterclass-upgrade/

In Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution, Jeff Jones offers a different way for families to understand addiction by looking at the family system as a whole. The book introduces practical tools, Both/And thinking, clearer communication, and family rules that are stronger than addiction's chaos while maintaining connection with the person you love.

Get the book: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/rethinking-addiction-book/

Work with Jeff: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyrecoverysolution

Substack: https://jeffjones.substack.com/

#FamilyAddictionSupport #FamilyRecovery #AddictionRecovery #LearnedHelplessness #NervousSystemRegulation #ToughLove #FamilyBurnout #AddictionEducation #ChronicStress #HealingFamilies

In this episode of Families Navigating Addiction and Recovery, I sit down with Gina Birkemeier, LPC, author of Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Trauma and Dysfunction to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy.

We dive into how inherited family patterns, secrets, and shame drive both addiction and family dysfunction. Gina shares how families can recognize when they are operating out of trauma, how to move from rigid "hiding" to active "healing," and why family members must prioritize their own recovery journey, not just focus on their loved one in active addiction.

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Gina Birkemeier, LPC, is a licensed professional counselor, author, speaker, and founder of My Outloud Voice. With a dual background in theology and psychology, she teaches therapists and facilitates groups internationally, including in Guatemala, Nicaragua, and Zimbabwe, on breaking generational patterns of trauma and shame.

Website: https://ginabirkemeier.com/

Substack: Search Gina Birkemeier on Substack for weekly articles, journal prompts, and centering exercises.

Instagram: @myoutloudvoice

Generations Deep: Unmasking Inherited Trauma and Dysfunction to Rewrite Our Stories Through Faith and Therapy
By Gina Birkemeier, LPC

Generations Deep Workbook
Features the ETPQ, Expanded Trauma Perspective Questionnaire, developed with 60 trauma-informed therapists.

Man's Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl
Discussed in relation to finding meaning between stimulus and response.

Dr. Dan Siegel's Hand Model of the Brain
Discussed as a way to understand the "flipped lid" and amygdala hijacking.

Jeff Jones helps families impacted by addiction understand how addiction affects the entire family system. Through his coaching, masterclass, book, and educational content, he helps families create clearer communication, healthier response patterns, and a different way forward.

If your family is navigating addiction and you're looking for a different way forward, I invite you to schedule a free discovery call with me.

Book a free discovery call: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/book-a-call/

This six-week masterclass helps families understand how addiction affects the entire family and move away from confusion, emotional overload, and constant reaction. Families learn how to develop steadier, more intentional responses and create healthier patterns within the family.

Learn more: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/masterclass-upgrade/

In Rethinking Addiction: The New Family Recovery Solution, Jeff Jones offers a different way for families to understand addiction by looking at the family system as a whole. The book introduces practical tools, Both/And thinking, clearer communication, and family rules that are stronger than addiction's chaos while maintaining connection with the person you love.

Get the book: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/rethinking-addiction-book/

Work with Jeff: https://www.thefamilyrecoverysolution.com/

LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/jeff-jones-0303834/

YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@thefamilyrecoverysolution

Substack: https://jeffjones.substack.com/

#InheritedTrauma #GenerationalTrauma #FamilyDysfunction #TraumaRecovery #FamilyRecovery #AddictionRecovery #FamilyAddictionSupport #NervousSystemRegulation #BreakingGenerationalCycles #HealingFamilies