Attachment Styles in Friendships: Who Feels Safe, Who Feels Familiar, and Who Lasts

We talk a lot about attachment styles in romantic relationships, but friendships are where attachment patterns quietly shape us the most.

In this episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina breaks down how anxious, avoidant, fearful-avoidant, and secure attachment styles show up in friendships, what to look for when building lifelong connections, and why familiar does not always mean safe.

You’ll learn:

• How attachment wounds play out in platonic relationships

• Why some friendships feel intense but destabilizing

• What secure, lasting friendships actually look and feel like

• How to stop overgiving, chasing, or settling for inconsistency

• How to build friendships that regulate your nervous system instead of activating it

Christina also shares a personal moment about receiving a handwritten thank-you card that reminded her exactly why this work matters and why genuine, healthy connection changes lives.

If you’ve ever questioned why certain friendships drain you, confuse you, or keep repeating the same emotional patterns, this episode will help you face the mirror, reassess your circle, and choose relationships that align with who you are now, not who you had to be to survive.

This episode is for anyone ready to build friendships rooted in safety, reciprocity, and emotional maturity.

Listen with honesty. Reflect with courage. Choose better connections.

What if the part of you you’ve spent years calling lazy… was actually the part of you working the hardest to keep you alive?

In this powerful episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina Stuller — life coach, counselor, survivor, and advocate for radical self-honesty — dismantles the myth of laziness and reveals the truth behind procrastination, shutdown, avoidance, and self-sabotage.

This isn’t about motivation, discipline, or “trying harder.”

This is about your nervous system, trauma imprints, attachment wounds, and the protective mechanisms that were built in childhood and carried into adulthood.

You’ll learn:

✨ Why your “lack of follow-through” is not a character flaw

✨ The neuroscience behind freeze response and emotional overwhelm

✨ How trauma teaches your brain to conserve energy and avoid danger

✨ Why you feel guilt for resting — and how to release that conditioning

✨ How to reconnect with your authentic self without shame

✨ Practical steps to rebuild trust with yourself and create momentum again

Christina brings her signature blend of truth-telling, compassion, and no-nonsense insight. You’ll hear real-life examples from childhood, teen years, and adult relationships — and you’ll walk away with tools that help you understand yourself on a deeper level.

This episode isn’t just healing; it’s liberating.

If you’ve ever felt “not enough,” “too slow,” “unmotivated,” or “broken,” this will change the way you see yourself forever.

Because you were never lazy.

You were surviving.

And now, you’re ready to rise.

Facing the Mirror — Fearfully Avoidant, Fiercely Human

In this episode, Christina Stuller, counselor, coach, and transpersonal PhD student, unpacks the raw truth behind the *Fearful Avoidant Attachment Style*—the tug-of-war between craving closeness and fearing it.

From chaotic childhoods to adult relationships filled with push-pull dynamics, Christina reveals how this attachment style shapes friendships, dating, marriage, and even our sense of self. Through real-world examples, vulnerable storytelling, and powerful group reflections, she helps you see how self-protection often disguises itself as independence—and how to finally feel safe in love without losing yourself.

Whether you’re the one who runs, the one who chases, or the one learning to stay—this episode will help you understand your patterns, own your healing, and start building the secure connection you’ve always deserved.

💜 *You’re not broken—you’re just reprogramming what love feels like.*

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Bonus Trailer for Upcoming Episode

Stop thinking you can't do it.

Stop making it harder than what it is.

Stop playing the victim.

You are the only force stopping you.

You were never weak. You were just over-giving to people who were under-invested.

In this raw, unfiltered drop from Christina, creator of Tranquil Balance and host of Facing the Mirror, she exposes the truth behind being used, overlooked, and discarded—not because you're broken, but because you were offering pieces of yourself to people who never earned access.

💬 This video covers:

• Why being “too much” was just code for “too aware”

• How to stop giving out of desperation to not be alone

• The truth about emotional hunger and sabotage cycles

• What it really means to take your power back without becoming bitter

This is for the woman who over-explains, over-loves, and under-asks—and is finally done doing so.

🔗 Ready to go deeper?
Join Christina’s weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room and connect with others inside Anchored Connections on WhatsApp.
📲 Book a session: healingmyfeelings.com

💡 Tag someone who needs this truth bomb. Share it. Speak it. Be it.

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You spoke up. You reacted. You had enough.
And somehow you became the abuser?

In this continuation of Facing the Mirror, Christina dives even deeper into the complex and often silenced experience of reactive abuse—when victims are pushed, provoked, and then punished for responding like a human being in pain.

⚠️ In this raw and unfiltered follow-up, we explore:

• How reactive abuse gets mistaken for "equal toxicity"

• Why survivors often stay silent out of shame

• The role of gaslighting and trauma bonding

• How emotional manipulation distorts accountability

• The dangerous myth of “mutual abuse”

This isn’t about denial—it’s about discernment.
If you’ve ever been blamed for the storm you didn’t create but got caught in, this episode is for you.

🧠 New here?
Be sure to listen to Part One: Reactive Abuse — The Lie They Use to Silence You for the full breakdown and origin of this manipulative cycle.

✨ For more support and live sessions with Christina, join her community:
🔹 Anchored Connections on WhatsApp
🔹 Weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room: healingmyfeelings.com

Let this episode be the clarity you needed. You're not too much. You're just waking up.

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What if the very thing used against you as proof of your instability… was actually a trauma response?

In this episode of Facing the Mirror, Christina unpacks the misunderstood and often weaponized concept of reactive abuse. From personal experience to professional insight, she exposes how abusers flip the script—provoking emotional explosions and then pointing the finger, labeling you the "crazy one."

💥 We’ll explore:

• What reactive abuse actually is (and what it’s NOT)

• The psychology behind why you "snapped"

• How trauma survivors are groomed into shame

• The difference between responsibility and blame

• Real-world examples of how victims are manipulated and mislabeled

Christina doesn’t just break down the cycle—she shows you how to break out of it. If you've ever been called "too much" or questioned your sanity after standing up for yourself, this episode is your mirror.

🔎 This isn’t about excusing bad behavior—it’s about exposing patterns.
Let’s talk truth, trauma, and taking your power back.

🔗 Need support?
Join Christina’s healing community Anchored Connections on WhatsApp or attend the weekly Shadow Work Zoom Room at healingmyfeelings.com

Follow, share, and review if this episode hit home. You’re not alone—and you're not crazy.

#ReactiveAbuse #TraumaHealing #FacingTheMirror #TranquilBalance #ShadowWork #AttachmentHealing #NarcissisticAbuse #TruthTelling #LifeAfterAbuse