You can do everything “right” and still end up trapped with someone who is building a double life. Shauna, originally from Wexford and living in London, walks us through how a match on Tinder turns into a fast moving relationship that looks perfect on paper, while underneath it is powered by love bombing, manipulation, and control.

We talk openly about the pieces people often miss: the early red flags like constant stories about a “crazy ex”, anger that shows up in public, and the subtle intimidation that starts to shrink your world. Shauna explains how financial abuse and hidden debt create panic and dependency, how monitoring can be disguised as caring, and how gaslighting can leave you doubting your own memory and judgement. We also discuss the very real danger of strangulation, why it is treated as a serious risk marker, and what it feels like to realise your relationship has moved from unhappy to life threatening.

From there, Shauna shares what helped her get free: using Clare’s Law, speaking to police, navigating long court timelines, and the impact of a ten year restraining order. We zoom out to the bigger question too, how communities, sports clubs, and friend groups can enable abusers when they prioritise comfort and reputation over safety.

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Drag can look like pure sparkle, but the real story is often grit. We’re joined by Dublin drag queen Davina Devine, who brings us from Ringsend to The George and back again, unpacking what it means to build a life in Irish nightlife while keeping the person underneath protected. We chat about how a shy, watchful kid becomes a performer, why the “mystery” around her isn’t a gimmick, and how creating an alter ego can be both freedom and armour.

Things get raw as we talk about Pride in Ireland, street comments like “disgusting”, and the way online hate and misinformation have shifted the mood in recent years. Davina shares why she still tries to lead with kindness, how visibility itself becomes a quiet kind of activism, and why minorities often take the first hit when people feel unheard. We also get into the reality of showing up anyway, even when you’re just trying to get from A to B and live your life with dignity.

Alongside the big themes, there’s plenty of crack: tales of celebrity encounters, the best and worst diva moments, and the joy of meeting an idol who treats you like a human. Davina also opens up about a brand-new ADHD diagnosis and how it explains the “hurricane” pace that helped her survive, create, and keep moving. If you care about Irish drag culture, LGBTQ+ Ireland, Dublin nightlife, and the cost and value of being seen, you’ll want to hear this one. Subscribe, share it with a friend, and leave us a review, what part of Davina’s story hit closest to home for you?

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Davina Devine’s story is rooted in Ringsend, Dublin, a place she describes as once overlooked and “in limbo” between neighbourhoods. That sense of being between worlds becomes a theme: growing up with a musician dad always gigging and a quiet mum at home, she learns how performance and privacy can sit side by side. She talks about feeling like an “old soul”, an adult child who stayed pristine, watched everything, and felt a step ahead of other kids. It is a familiar feeling for many LGBTQ+ people in Ireland who sense difference early but do not yet have language for it, especially when home, school, and wider culture are slow to offer safe, open space.

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A nurse from Tallaght with an Australian passport, a hospice education in dignity, and a life that gets knocked sideways by grief, single parenting and domestic abuse somehow ends up building one of Ireland’s most recognisable aesthetics brands. That “somehow” is the bit we wanted to understand, so we sat down with Kerry Hannafee for a proper, no-gloss conversation about what it actually takes to start over.

We talk through Kerry’s global family background (Scotland, the British Army, Aden, Malta, Melbourne), what it feels like to come home to Ireland in the 1970s, and how early volunteering and hospice work shape her approach to care. From London nurse training at 17 to managing real pressure in hospitals, she explains how those years set her standards for safety, consent, and doing right by people, even when the job is hard.

Then the story turns: relationships, loss, debt, control, and the moment she realises she needs a plan that protects her kids and gives her independence. Kerry shares how training in fillers and aesthetics becomes a lifeline, how she builds trust across Dublin well beyond the usual “posh postcode” stereotype, and how she grows from couch appointments to clinics, medical teams, and serious investment in treatments and equipment. We also get into what’s trending now in skin rejuvenation and aesthetics in Ireland, including Morpheus8, SoftWave, microneedling, polynucleotides, peels and realistic treatment planning, plus why she says “no” to requests every day.

We finish with Kerry’s Pride allyship, the Pre-Pride Pamper Day, and what she wants next: stabilising, staying safe, and having time for family without losing momentum. If you like honest Irish business stories with real stakes, hit play, then subscribe, share with a friend, and leave a review. What part of Kerry’s journey do you relate to most?

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