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Episode 74: “The Choices We Make—and the Healing We Must Own”
- 2025/05/01
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Hello again, my friends.Welcome back to Infinite Threads. I’m Bob, and this is Episode 74.Today, we’re going to sit with something real.Something that doesn’t come wrapped in pretty packaging or tied up with easy answers.But something that, once you understand it, will change your life.We talk a lot here about love, compassion, forgiveness.But those things are more than feelings—they are choices.And the hardest choices we make aren't just about how we treat others...They’re about how we choose to deal with the pain we didn’t ask for.Let’s be absolutely clear:You didn’t choose the circumstances you were born into.You didn’t choose the parents you had, the traumas you endured, or the betrayals you suffered.You didn’t choose to be hurt when you were young and defenseless.And if that's part of your story, let’s honor it.Let’s not minimize it.Let’s not slap toxic positivity over real wounds.Because ignoring pain doesn’t heal it—it buries it.But here's the part that nobody told many of us growing up:While we didn’t choose how our story started, we do choose how we write the next chapter.We have to choose.Or the wounds keep choosing for us.Blame feels good in the moment.Blame says, “It’s not my fault.”Blame says, “I’m like this because they made me this way.”Blame offers temporary relief—it lets us lay the heavy weight of responsibility down for a little while.But here’s the catch:Blame keeps you stuck.It freezes you in time.It ties your worth to the worst things that ever happened to you.And over time, it hardens your heart.Because if your whole story is about what was done to you…Then you’re no longer living—you’re reacting.You’re handing over your power to the very people who hurt you.And you are so much more than that.There’s an important distinction we need to make:Responsibility is not about blaming yourself for being hurt.It’s about refusing to let that hurt keep running your life.You’re not responsible for the wounds others inflicted on you.You are responsible for how you respond now.You are responsible for whether you pass that pain forward—or heal it.It’s a tough truth.But it’s also a hopeful one.Because if your life is just a reaction to other people's choices, you're stuck forever.But if you realize that you have choices—even painful ones—you get your life back.You get to shape it, not just survive it.Sometimes we carry damage that isn’t visible.Sometimes we respond to small problems with big reactions—and we don't even realize it's because of the old wounds still bleeding inside us.We think,"I'm just short-tempered.""I'm just bad at relationships.""I'm just a person who can't trust."But maybe...Maybe you're not broken.Maybe you're wounded.And wounds can heal—if you let them.Healing doesn’t erase the scars.It doesn’t pretend the pain didn’t happen.It says, “Yes, it happened—and I still choose to live differently now.”Every time you respond with kindness when your instinct is anger,Every time you set a healthy boundary when your old habits tell you to self-destruct,Every time you choose patience over panic,You are healing.And you’re breaking a cycle that may have lasted generations before you.At some point, if we want to live free,We have to stand up and say:“The harm done to me is not the map for my future.”Yes, my past shaped me.Yes, it left its mark.But it doesn’t get to decide who I am today.Maybe you didn’t get the love you deserved when you needed it most.But you can become the person who offers it now—to yourself and to others.Maybe you learned to distrust, to defend, to lash out.But you can learn a new way.And when you do, your life becomes the proof that love is stronger than pain.You show the world—and yourself—that healing is possible.Not because it’s easy.But because it’s worth it.You are not a permanent product of your worst experiences.You are a living, breathing act of becoming.The pain you endured may have bent you, but it didn’t break you beyond repair.You are here.You are learning.You are choosing.Every day you decide to love better, to act more kindly, to live more bravely—you rewrite the ending of your own story.Thank you for walking this road with me today.This isn’t easy work, but it’s the most important work there is.You are not what was done to you.You are what you choose to do now.Until next time—Choose healing.Choose courage.And always… stay connected.Thanks for reading Infinite Threads! Subscribe for free to receive new posts and support my work. This is a public episode. If you would like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit bobs618464.substack.com