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In this heartfelt conversation, Kristy Steenhuis shares her journey of loss and resilience after the suicide of her husband, Matthew. She discusses the signs leading up to his death, the impact on her family, and the stigma surrounding suicide in her community. Kristy emphasizes the importance of creating support systems for those affected by suicide and her mission to advocate for mental health awareness. Through her experiences, she highlights the need for open conversations about grief and the significance of self-care in advocacy work. Kristy's story is one of transformation, as she turns her pain into purpose, helping others navigate their own grief and loss.

Content Warning

This podcast includes real stories of suicide loss. Some episodes may reference the method of suicide and include emotionally intense or uncomfortable descriptions. We understand how sensitive this content is, and we carefully edit each episode to honor and respect both our guests and listeners. If you or someone you know is struggling, please call or text 988 or visit 988lifeline.org for free, 24/7 support. Please take care while listening—pause if you need to. You are not alone.

Takeaways

• What grief looked like as a 28-year-old widow with two young children
• The moment she knew something was wrong—and how she found Matthew
• Why postvention is a form of prevention
• How she explained suicide to her children using a metaphor of racehorses with blinders
• The impact of stigma, blame, and silence in a small rural community
• What she built when no support existed—and how it grew nationwide
• Her role in shaping responsible suicide portrayals in film and media
• The lesson that helped her set boundaries: “If you save everyone, who’s left for others to save?”
• Why lived experience must be at the center of suicide prevention efforts

About She Diaries

In She Diaries, women who have lost their husbands to suicide bravely share their stories of strength while navigating the unimaginable journey of widowhood. Through candid interviews, the podcast explores their lives before the tragedy, moments that changed everything, the web of grief, and the hard-earned lessons of overcoming deep loss. These powerful stories shed light on the strength and courage it takes to move forward.

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Mental Health Resources

• 988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline: Call or text 988 for free, 24/7, confidential support for mental health crises, suicidal thoughts, or emotional distress.
• Find a Therapist: Search for licensed therapists near you through directories like Psychology Today, TherapyDen, or Mental Health Match.
• Join a Support Group: Connect with others through peer-led or professionally facilitated support groups via NAMI or GriefShare.

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