That moment when you realize you've been playing a character in your own life.

Patricia and Richard dive into one of the most painful relationship dynamics: becoming a passenger in your own connection. When you've cut off so many pieces of yourself to "fit" that you no longer recognize who you are.

Patricia shares a vulnerable confession about feeling "buried alive" in a relationship that looked perfect from the outside. Richard paints the vivid picture of being trapped in a motorcycle sidecar — along for the ride but never in control, screaming to be heard over the engine noise.

This isn't about pointing fingers or assigning blame. It's about recognizing the childhood survival patterns that follow us into adult relationships. How we learned to cut off pieces of ourselves and offer them up just to be loved.

But here's what they discovered: You can't build authentic connection from a place of self-abandonment.

Richard breaks down the difference between fitting into someone else's relationship mold versus creating space for your true self. Patricia gets raw about what it actually means to "connect with yourself" (spoiler: it's not what most people think).

This episode is for anyone who's ever felt lonely inside their own relationship. Who's tired of wearing costumes that don't fit anymore. Who's ready to stop being a passenger and start co-creating something real.