In this raw and vulnerable episode of The Thoughtful Advocate, host Elizabeth Teo shares her deeply personal story of how growing up in an abusive household created trauma-based perfectionism that followed her into adulthood.

Elizabeth opens up about the harsh realities of her Chinese immigrant household where perfection wasn't just expected, it was demanded for survival. From being hit with chopsticks for wrong math answers to witnessing traumatic family violence, she reveals how these experiences shaped her into a hyper-vigilant perfectionist who became valedictorian but still felt empty inside.

This isn't your typical productivity-focused perfectionism discussion. This is about the kind of perfectionism that comes from trauma, when being "perfect" feels like the only way to stay safe.

You'll learn:

• How childhood trauma creates perfectionist survival strategies
• Why Asian kids are statistically more prone to perfectionism
• The connection between perfectionism, shame, and emotional suppression
• How academic success can mask deep emotional wounds
• Practical steps to heal from trauma-based perfectionism
• Why vulnerability and imperfection are actually signs of strength

If you've ever felt like you had to hide parts of yourself to feel accepted or safe, this episode will help you understand that you're not alone, you're not broken, and your perfectionism made sense as a survival strategy.

Perfect for listeners interested in trauma healing, perfectionism recovery, Asian family dynamics, mental health, and personal growth.