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Today my guest is Neil Young. He is a peak performance coach living in Dubai, who helps entrepreneurs move past barriers and experience greater freedom in their lives. He has created and grown his own businesses into very successful ventures. Tony Robbins is Neil’s mentor and known for having attended 22 Tony Robbins events in 22 months. He also appreciates the work of Joe Dispenza and Sadhguru. Intentions, feelings, habits and energy are what Neil believes must be mastered to live one’s dream life. Today however he is here to share his personal experiences of anxiety. What about your life are you proud of, Neil? Quite a few things. I most recently had a son, a 1 year old son that I’m quite proud of and my health and three of my businesses I could go on and on. A family, health & my business is what I’m most proud of. 2.23: Let’s get to know more about your experiences with anxiety. Give us an overview, not the nitty gritty, but your history. Sure, my story began when I was three, living in Dubai, I had a severe infection in my ankle, a large growing lump and the doctors were concerned that it was dangerous and could travel. So I was bed ridden for 3 months. I wasn’t eating and lost a ton of weight, and this was my earliest childhood memory. I remember my parents looking down on me, and thinking poor little boy, so weak and helpless. Being weak and helpless became my identity then and also for the next twenty years of my life. I became a big observer and copied what everyone else did. So I did what my parents said, worked hard…did what others did. 4:11 Fast forward 20 years… I was at the university in Dubai, working for a contractor, sitting at the computer all day, and I’m a people person, and had a panic attack at work. I snuck out and jumped into my car and drove to the beach. I felt suicidal, felt terrible, sat down on the beach and realized I wasn’t coming from my heart. My whole life I had copied others in terms of work and health, relationships and other bad routines. I wasn’t living my life. My body was screaming at me to wake up… “All these emotions are not you. It’s not you. You have to come from your heart”. That’s when I woke up, lost my job, started drinking, put on tons of weight, cut off peer groups. I was really alone; it was a dark time. That’s when I started getting involved in personal development. I started taking morning walks on the beach and listened to Joe Dispenza tapes and podcasts (Entreprenuer on Fire was my favorite). Getting good vibes…. from other successful entrepreneurs, and learning about their success and avoiding mistakes that they made helped me so much. I found a class in Tennessee where there was a mastermind program, virtual, for 2 years that raised my game to a different level. 5:54: In 2017, I did business mastery with Tony Robbins; this changed my life so much that I signed up for the platinum partnership for 85K per year program, a sponsorship. 2 things I learned: 1) Life is all about mastering your intentions, feelings, habits and internal energy, and 2) Peer group support is essential 6:20. Panic attack and anxiety taught me that I wasn’t coming from my heart. Anxiety and stress stems from our human needs, and there are 4 of them: contribution, growth, love connection and certainty. Contribution and growth are the top 2 needs in order to live a fulfilling life. Love connection and certainty are important too, but shouldn’t be in the top 2. Love life is not at the top, because if you are too dependent on a loved one, it’s all about emotions and feelings and that can lead to depression. Conversely too being too dependent on certainty, physical things, money, or don’t have a partner, how your body looks etc. can also lead to becoming anxious, having anxiety about the future. I was too dependent on certainty and emotions and associated with others. I was so dependent and desperate for a love connection in my life. 8:00 Let’s circle back to the life threatening infection you had as a child. Your parents were extremely concerned if you were even going to live. But you were having a different internal experience of feeling weak and helpless. How did you recognize your thoughts and know this was happening? You heard your parents say, “Oh poor Neil” and internalized it. Comment on this Neil. Babies are born with a blank slate. As we go through life, we experience the good and the bad emotions, which shapes our character. For instance a 4-year-old child has success skiing down the hill and then goes faster, flying by as he/she hasn’t had any accidents, but the parents are saying, “slow down.” They have experienced pain. If the kid falls, he will have a ...