Guys I want to thank you joining me today for what I am considering my relaunch episode. I do have some changes coming which I hope will only enhance the content.

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In this episode we discuss the importance of Intentionality and I will share my goals for which I would like you to hold me accountable in my ability to intentional.

This is a safe space where you can come and receive an encouraging word that will hopefully help you keep your cup full and bless others from the overflow!! I'd love to engage with you. Feel free to send me a message, an email or follow me on Instagram - lets be friends!!!

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I will be uploading bi-weekly and hope you continue to come back for a refill! Love ya ♥️

In this episode we discuss why it is healthy and necessary to know when to say no and associate it with setting boundaries. We will also talk about healthy vs. unhealthy boundaries and the purpose of boundaries.

What happens if you set boundaries?

Boundaries are a way to take care of ourselves. When we set boundaries, we're less angry and resentful because our needs are being met. Boundaries make our expectations clear, so others know what to expect from us and how we want to be treated.

Boundaries are the foundation for happy, healthy relationships.

There are five categories I will mention in this session but will focus more on 4 of them.  

1.  Emotional boundaries

2.  Intellectual boundaries

3.  Physical boundaries

4.  Financial boundaries

5.  Sexual boundaries – enthusiastic consent

*1 Emotional boundaries have to do with being clear on what is and isn't yours to feel or fix

*2 Intellectual boundaries can also help you feel more secure in holding your own opinions. Instead of trying to be liked by everyone by agreeing with them, you can remain true to yourself.

*3 Even if others can’t understand your boundaries, you have a right to do what makes you comfortable.

*4 you may need to set a boundary about what you’re willing to spend.

Unhealthy boundaries involve a disregard for your own and others' values, wants, needs, and limits. They can also lead to potentially abusive dating/romantic relationships and increase the chances of other types of abusive relationships as well.

If you have a friend that gets overly angry when you are too busy to spend time with them, they may be trying to control you. That's a red flag and suggests that they aren’t truly a friend.

Regardless of the situation, these unhealthy relationship boundaries demand too much. Someone with unhealthy boundaries doesn't question how the other person feels. Their goal is to control.

What is the courage of saying no?

Saying no is not a weakness. A courageous no means that a person has the ability to stand for something and has the courage to stand alone. Sometimes it may take some time to learn to say no. It may take some time to understand that it is ok to say no. But the more you do it when necessary, the easier it will be.

Remember, having a boundary and standing firm in it is more about you than the other person. Since we can’t control others, if someone does not respect our boundaries, they have that right. But we also have the right to not accept their behavior. Boundaries are not about changing others, is about respecting ourselves.

I pray that this has helped someone and that you are able to find your courageous no!!

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This is a safe space where you can come and receive an encouraging word that will hopefully help you keep your cup full and bless others from the overflow!! I'd love to engage with you. Feel free to send me a message, an email or follow me on Instagram - lets be friends!!!

Email: Sparksandbutterflys@gmail.com

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I will be uploading bi-weekly and hope you continue to come back for a refill! Love ya ♥️