Summary

In this episode of Threads of Connection, licensed therapists Alefyah, Michelle, and Tyana discuss the dynamics between pursuers and withdrawers in relationships, focusing on pursuers. They explore the struggles of pursuers who seek connection and challenges faced by withdrawers who may appear distant. Through a letter from a listener, they delve into the emotional needs of both parties and offer strategies for effective communication and connection. The conversation emphasizes the importance of self-regulation and understanding each other's perspectives to foster healthier relationships.

Takeaways

• Pursuers often feel lonely in their relationships despite external appearances.
• Withdrawers may seem distant but are processing their emotions internally.
• Effective communication requires understanding and patience from both partners.
• Self-regulation is crucial for expressing needs without escalating conflict.
• Pursuers should focus on inviting connection rather than chasing it.
• Healthy relationships often involve making repairs after conflicts.
• It's normal for couples to get it wrong two-thirds of the time.
• Expressing vulnerability can invite a more positive response from withdrawers.
• Understanding each other's emotional needs can bridge the gap between pursuers and withdrawers.
• Therapeutic strategies can help couples navigate their communication dynamics.

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Find Alefyah:

Therapy/Consultation: ⁠www.taquitherapy.com⁠

Podcast Episodes: ⁠www.deconstructingtherapy.com

IG: ⁠@taquitherapy⁠ & ⁠@deconstructingtherapy⁠

Find Michelle:

Therapy/Consultation/Training: http://www.pruettcounseling.com

Find Tyana:

To Schedule a Session: www.tyanadalexander.com

Alabama Emotionally Focused Therapy Community

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Music by: Talyah Alexander

Special Thanks: George Alvarez