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People don’t wake up one morning and decide they don’t love their spouse. What we see far more often is something quieter and more dangerous: a hurt that never gets resolved, a story we keep replaying, and a wall that goes up brick by brick until the house feels cold. We’re naming that enemy directly, unresolved offense, and we’re telling the truth about what it does to marriage, intimacy, friendship, and even your relationship with God.

We talk through how offense starts with “little foxes” like unmet expectations, small disappointments, and everyday irritations that don’t seem serious enough to address. Then we show how those “small” moments turn into patterns like assumptions, passive-aggressive comments, nitpicking, shutdown, emotional separation, and ultimately the claim that you’ve “fallen out of love.” Along the way we ground it in the Bible, including Ephesians 4:26 on urgency and Hebrews 12:15 on bitterness spreading, because resentment in marriage is never neutral.

You’ll also hear our real-life examples, what we’ve learned after 26 years, and the practical tools we use when conflict hits: stop keeping a list, deal with it fast, separate the issue from the person, bring it up without attacking, challenge the story in your head, forgive even when feelings lag behind, rebuild connection on purpose, and invite God into deeper healing when a conversation isn’t enough. We close with prayer and a chance to renounce offense and start again.

If this helped you, subscribe, share it with a friend or a couple you care about, and leave a review so more marriages can find these tools. What’s one “brick” you’re ready to drop today?

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In this episode of Doing Life with Ken & Tabatha, we talk about how to deal with rejection, criticism, and being misunderstood — especially when you’re trying to follow God and build something meaningful.

If you’ve ever wondered:

• Why don’t they like me?
• Why do people talk about you when you’re doing good?
• How do you keep your confidence when people criticize you?

This conversation is for you.

Pastor Ken and Tabatha unpack 10 real reasons people don’t like you, what the Bible says about persecution, and how to stay confident without becoming bitter or defensive.

You’ll learn how to:

• Handle rejection without losing confidence
• Stop living for people’s approval
• Protect your peace when people misunderstand you
• Set boundaries while still loving others
• Stay faithful to what God has called you to do

Sometimes criticism isn’t a sign you’re doing something wrong.

Sometimes it’s confirmation you’re moving in the right direction.

Because real confidence isn’t everyone liking you.

Real confidence is liking who God made you.

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What if the line between “okay” and “too far” isn’t a line worth walking? We open up about our 24-year sober journey and the moment a mentor reframed the question from “Is it allowed?” to “Is it wise for a king?” From there, the conversation turns honest and practical—how alcohol blurred judgment, complicated leadership, and stole the very peace it promised. We dig into Scripture’s balanced view, the call to be sober-minded, and why “living beyond the gray” can protect marriages, ministries, and mental health.

We also face the facts. Alcohol is a depressant that breaks sleep, raises cancer risk, and shows up in far too many assaults and crashes. Even modest use can fog thinking and dull discernment. Meanwhile, culture is shifting—low and no-alcohol options are booming, and younger generations are choosing clarity. For us, abstinence wasn’t loss; it was abundance. Joy got brighter, community got safer, and our witness grew stronger. We learned to host gatherings where the recovering feel welcome and leaders model restraint that builds trust rather than testing boundaries.

If alcohol is your gray area, try a simple experiment: a 30-day sobriety challenge. Let your body reset, watch your sleep improve, and see what happens to your focus, mood, and mornings. At the end, reassess with clear eyes. You might discover, as we did, that the tradeoffs aren’t worth it and that the life you want thrives without a drink. If this resonates, subscribe for more conversations like this, share it with someone who needs a nudge toward freedom, and leave a review to help others find the show. Your next 30 days could rewrite the next 30 years.

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What if the real path to promotion looks nothing like hustle culture promises? We take on two charged words—submission and faithfulness—and show how they form a powerful, practical way of life that advances marriages, teams, and callings. This isn’t about losing your voice. It’s about choosing God’s order, serving with strength, and becoming the kind of person heaven can trust.

We start by reframing submission as a voluntary, faith-filled posture that prioritizes mission over ego. In marriage, we talk equal dignity with distinct roles: a wife’s trust-filled submission and a husband’s call to love like Christ—protective, sacrificial, and servant-hearted. We address the hard cases too: when to appeal, when to say no, and how to honor while obeying God above man. Then we move beyond the home into work, church, and community, where mature people bring strong ideas, align after decisions, and stop the whispering that fractures teams.

From there we dig into faithfulness—commitment and consistency over time. We unpack why God promotes finishers who steward small assignments well, why “be found faithful” is a leadership superpower, and how to make diligence visible through clarity and follow-through. Expect concrete markers of a submitted heart (teachability, tone, peacemaking) and five next steps to grow: re-surrender daily, practice honor with honest appeal, master the small things, close the loop with cadence, and keep a clean, offense-proof heart.

If you’re ready to trade striving for strength and hype for substance, this conversation will meet you with courage and clarity. Subscribe, share with a friend who leads or serves, and leave a review with the one area you’ll choose to be found faithful this week.

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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

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Money pressure has a way of sneaking into a marriage and turning simple conversations into fights. We open up about our early years—over $100k in debt, sleepless nights, and two very different backgrounds—and share the seven habits that helped us replace anxiety with unity. This is a practical, faith-filled roadmap: one shared plan, a zero-based budget, the 10-10-80 priority rule, and margin that lets you breathe. We talk through sinking funds for “predictable surprises,” why we moved from “his and her” money to “our” money, and how a simple solo spend limit protects trust without micromanaging.

You’ll hear how ditching personal credit cards and learning from wise friends changed our trajectory, plus how the debt snowball gave us momentum and milestone wins. Most importantly, we anchor every step in stewardship and Scripture—seeing money as God’s, not ours, and expecting favor, wisdom, and creative ideas rather than quick windfalls. We walk through passages like Deuteronomy 8:18, Malachi 3, and Proverbs 3 to ground financial choices in covenant, not fear. Good success means more than income; it’s peace in your home, clarity in your plan, and alignment with purpose.

If money fights are draining your relationship, this conversation offers simple tools and a hopeful path forward. Listen to learn how to budget together, build margin, set boundaries, and turn debt into a shared mission. Then share the episode with a friend who needs encouragement, subscribe for more faith-forward marriage and money insights, and leave a review with the first habit you’ll start today.

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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

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Lukewarm faith feels easy—until it costs you power, joy, and purpose. We get honest about casual Christianity, why it’s so common, and how to move from a Sunday habit to a life that actually carries the presence of God. Ken shares his past as a “Christian atheist”—believing in God but living like He didn’t exist—and how that exposed the gap between form and power. Together, we walk through the telltale signs of a casual believer, from private faith and convenience-based attendance to tipping instead of tithing and resisting repentance, and we ask the question that matters most: is there fruit that matches your repentance?

To help you locate where you are and chart a way forward, we break down four levels of commitment—community, crowd, core, covenant—and why planting in a local church changes everything. The core grows the Church through sowing, serving, and making disciples, while covenant multiplies grace through spiritual fathers and mothers, accountability, and honor for God-ordained offices. We explore biblical models like Elijah and Elisha, Paul and Timothy, and Ruth and Naomi to show how covenant delivers double-portion impact. When you’re planted, you flourish: marriages heal, leaders emerge, and your witness stops being theoretical and starts transforming lives.

If you’re tired of a faith that feels nostalgic, irregular, and powerless, this conversation offers a practical path into a Spirit-filled, mission-shaped life. Reorder your identity around Jesus, build rhythms of Scripture and prayer, commit to gathered worship, and serve people you love enough to tell the truth. Casual Christianity is convenient; covenant is costly and worth it. Subscribe for more, share this with someone who needs a nudge toward purpose, and leave a review to tell us your next step.

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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

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Dating does not have to be confusing, exhausting, or expensive. We’re pulling back the curtain on five practical rules that protect your heart, save your time, and set you up for a marriage that can actually thrive. From defining non‑negotiables to reading red flags without second‑guessing yourself, we walk through the mindsets and habits that turn your twenties into a launchpad instead of a landfill.

We start by reframing the goal: Christlikeness over a wedding date. Contentment beats comparison, and wholeness beats hurried timelines. Then we get specific. Date on purpose using a 90‑day clarity window. Ask better questions about faith, direction, and character. Choose character over chemistry by testing for humility, forgiveness, and submission to godly authority. Pace the relationship with clear boundaries—public early dates, digital guardrails, and honest conversations about sex, soul ties, and healing. We also tackle love bombing, why it feels so real at first, and how accountability reveals the truth before it’s too late.

Money matters too. Check the credit, not just the chemistry, and bring debt, spending, tithing, and budgeting into the light so you can build trust instead of resentment. Finally, don’t date alone. Isolation creates illusion; community brings clarity. Invite a married mentor and a wise peer, worship together, and let your circle call green, yellow, or red flags. Healthy relationships can handle scrutiny because they are built on truth.

If this helped you rethink your standards or reset your pace, share it with a friend who needs clarity, subscribe for new episodes every Thursday at 3 p.m., and leave a review to tell us your biggest takeaway. Your future self will thank you.

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📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875

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GET THE BETTER MARRIAGE BOOTCAMP HERE:

Better Marriage Bootcamp (kenandtabatha.com)

Better Marriage 90-Day Devotional:
90 Day Better Marriage Devotional - Ken and Tabatha (square.site)

DOWNLOAD THE FAMILY MEETING OUTLINE HERE ⬇️
https://www.kenandtabatha.com/pl/2148103888

📍 Join us in Florida at Alive Church — with campuses in Orlando, Tampa & Gainesville.

🎟 And don’t miss Alive Conference coming soon — 3 days that can change the next 30 years of your life!

https://redeemedevents.com/event-details/1875

Support Our Ministry:
https://myalivechurch.org/give


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