Is being "nice" to your ex keeping you stuck in his orbit? In this episode, my friend and fellow coach Diana Swillinger and I peel back the layers on everything related to your ex.

We tackle the sticky, icky, post-divorce drama: how to set boundaries, why you don't owe him or his people anything, and how to stay in your lane.

If you've ever wondered:

• Am I being mean for not giving a crap about his new wife?
• Is it bad to limit contact with his family?
• Should I let my kids like the girlfriend? (Um. You can’t stop them. Sorry.)
• Am I a monster for offering him the fine china after he got legally dubbed an abuser?

...then welcome. Pull up a chair.

Laundry List of Scenarios We Cover:

• When your ex still wants to be your BFF
• When his mom keeps bringing up the marriage
• When his new girlfriend is too nice and your kids love her
• When his lawyer won’t quit
• When triangulation sucks you in, and you need to say, “I’m out”

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.

Let’s be honest. If you've escaped from a destructive marriage, the idea of dating again might feel less like butterflies and more like plunging into shark-infested waters wearing a meat dress.

But what if dating didn’t have to feel like impending doom? What if you could approach it with courage, confidence, and an actual strategy?

In this episode, I invited three of my friends and fellow coaches, Stacey Wynn, Diana Swillinger, and Marie Griffith to join me for a frank discussion about dating after divorce as a Christian woman.

Some Key Takeaways:

• Dating again? Terrifying. And also, you can do it!
• High standards are IT. You’re not picky. You’re just done with nonsense.
• Burn the haystack. Swipe left like it’s your sacred duty (thank you, Jennie Young).
• Polite is not required. Block. Burn. Bounce. Bless and release.
• Your gut is smarter than your mom, pastor, and therapist combined. Trust it.
• Emotions are dashboard lights, not detours.

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
• Connect with Marie on her blog, Live Like it Matters, and website, Spiritual Direction with Marie.
• Connect with Stacey and find all her resources on her Linktree.
• Check out Diana’s podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast.
• And here are some resources we mentioned within the episode: the Burned Haystack Method by Jennie Young, the Dare to Lead List of Values from Brené Brown, the Personal Values Test, and the Personal Values Card Sort by Dr. Jennie Shields.

What if the person you're turning to for healing is actually keeping you stuck? (Cue dramatic music and flashbacks to church lady "counseling" that made you question your entire existence.)

Welcome to Season 2 of the Divorced Christian Woman Podcast! I’m kicking things off with my friend and fellow coach, Diana Swillinger. We’re diving headfirst into the sometimes-healing, sometimes-horrifying world of mentors, coaches, and therapists.

Not all helpers are created equal, my friend. And no, your cousin’s youth group leader who “feels called” to counsel probably isn’t qualified to help you unravel years of spiritual abuse.

This episode is your guide to sorting through the noise, finding the right kind of help for the season you're in, and learning how to trust your own gut again, especially after years of being told it was “deceitfully wicked.” (eye-roll)

What We Covered:

• Mentors, coaches, therapists, and how to know the difference
• Red flags in helping relationships
• Green flags in helping relationships
• What to do if you believe you are “too broken” or “not broken enough”
• The process of healing
• How community plays a role in our healing

Read the full show notes and/or ask Natalie a question here

Related Resources:

• Flying Higher (https://joinflyinghigher.com) is my live mentorship program for Christian women pursuing increased confidence, emotional management, relational health and empowered self-development.
• Feel like a hot mess after divorce? This 5-Day Workshop will teach you a mind-shift tool to help you learn a powerful way to manage your thoughts and emotions in order to navigate adult decisions with clarity and peace.
• Check out Diana’s website and explore some resources, listen to her podcast, The Renew Your Mind Podcast, and finally, connect with her on Facebook and Instagram.