In this thought provoking episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy® Podcast, Tracy Callahan is joined by Nikki Bould, Director of Education and Development for Divorce Coaches Academy New Zealand, to explore a simple but powerful question:

What if we designed the family dispute resolution system today instead of inheriting the one we have?

Together, they challenge traditional assumptions about divorce and examine what could change if families were prepared for decision making before being asked to choose a legal process.

Drawing on conflict resolution, neuroscience, child development, and interdisciplinary practice, they discuss why capacity, education, and readiness may be the missing pieces in creating healthier outcomes for families.

This conversation explores redefining success in divorce, the role of divorce coaching as an early dispute resolution resource, and why building better decision makers may be just as important as reaching an agreement.

If you work with families or are interested in the future of divorce coaching, mediation, family law, or conflict resolution, this episode offers a fresh perspective on what meaningful innovation could look like.

To learn more about Nikki Bould and her dispute resolution work in New Zealand, please see https://www.adsi.org.nz/coach-nikki-bould and to learn more about Divorce Coach Certification training in New Zealand, you can contact Nikki directly at DCA.NZ@divorcecoachesacademy.com

Why do clients keep reacting in ways they regret, even when they know better?

In this episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy® Podcast, Tracy Callahan speaks with conflict expert, mediator, DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach, and author Masha Rusanov about the unconscious patterns that keep people trapped in recurring divorce and co-parenting conflict.

Masha introduces the Exhale, Explore, Engage® framework from her book, Repatterned: How to Transform Your Conflict Defaults and Reclaim Your Life. Together, they explore why familiar reactions become automatic under stress, how nervous system activation limits access to communication skills, and why waiting for the other person to change gives away personal agency.

They also discuss how divorce coaches can help clients recognize their contribution to a conflict dynamic without assigning blame or stepping outside the scope of coaching. High conflict does not mean a resolution-focused approach will not work. It means clients may first need the awareness and capacity to interrupt old patterns and choose a different response.

Lasting change does not begin when conflict disappears. It begins when we recognize the pattern and realize we have another choice.

Learn more about Masha:

Masha Rusanov is a conflict expert, DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach, ICF Certified Coach, and a mediator with a Master's in Negotiation, Conflict Resolution, and Peacebuilding. She works with individuals and organizations navigating conflict and high-stakes relationship dynamics. Before building her divorce coaching and conflict resolution practice, she spent over two decades in tech at companies like Google and Intuit. "Repatterned" is her latest book. She lives in the San Francisco Bay Area, California, with her blended family.

https://www.masharusanov.com/

Purchase Repatterned:
https://www.amazon.com/dp/1957917911

What if reducing co-parenting conflict does not require both parents to cooperate?

In this episode of the Divorce Coaches Academy® Podcast, Tracy Callahan welcomes Crystal Fisher, founder and executive director of Parenting with Grace, author of Protected and Connected, parenting educator, and DCA® Certified ADR Divorce Coach.

Together, they challenge the belief that successful co-parenting requires constant communication, mutual cooperation, or a friendly relationship between former spouses. Crystal explains how one parent can begin changing entrenched conflict patterns by communicating with greater intention, creating emotional stability, and focusing on what they can control.

The conversation also explores why less communication may be healthier in some situations, how parallel parenting can protect families from ongoing conflict, and why children should never be expected to carry the emotional burden of their parents’ divorce. Crystal shares practical ways parents can pause, examine their responses, and measure progress by the peace and stability they create for themselves and their children.

Learn more about Crystal’s work at Parenting with Grace:
https://parentingwithgrace.org

Purchase Protected and Connected on Amazon:
https://a.co/d/0bJyMCw0