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  • Things My Mother Never Told Me, Purity Culture Edition

    Things My Mother Never Told Me, Purity Culture Edition
    2025/05/20

    Baby, this week’s episode is like that! We’re continuing our series, Things My Mother Never Told Me, Purity Culture Edition, and whew, it’s getting juicy. We’re diving into the nitty gritty and calling out the shame, silence, and straight-up lies we’ve been told about our bodies, our desires, and our worth. It’s giving healing, it’s giving truth, and it’s giving freedom. So grab your liquor and your bud, clutch your pearls, and get ready, because this convo is coming for your theology and your childhood at the same time. Let’s get into it! 🎙️🔥💥
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    1 時間 39 分
  • Things my Mother Never Told me- LOVE Edition

    Things my Mother Never Told me- LOVE Edition
    2025/05/14

    This one’s for the Black women who were taught how to endure, but never taught how to receive.

    We were raised to be ride-or-die. To pray, press on, and keep quiet. But what if the love we were taught to accept… was never love at all?

    In this episode, we’re unpacking the quiet wounds:

    • The lessons passed down from mamas who were just surviving

    • The way religion shaped our view of love, worth, and submission

    • Why being chosen ain’t the same as being cherished

    • And how to start unlearning love that was rooted in fear, performance, and pain

    I’m speaking to the strong Black girls who never got to be soft. The ones who thought struggle was a requirement for connection. The ones who are just now realizing: You don’t have to earn love through sacrifice.

    You are allowed to be loved gently. Fully. Freely.

    Let’s unlearn together.

    Grab ya liquor and your bud, let's talk!
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    1 時間 55 分
  • Things my Mother Never Told me- Mental Health Edition

    Things my Mother Never Told me- Mental Health Edition
    2025/05/06
    Hey baby—there’s a lot our mothers never told us. And I don’t say that to place blame. I say that with love, with grief, and with a deep understanding that silence was survival for them. Our mothers, grandmothers, aunties—they loved us the best way they knew how. But when it came to things like depression, anxiety, trauma, or emotional regulation… most of them didn’t have the language, the tools, or the time. They were surviving systems, heartbreak, poverty, racism, and religion that told them to stay quiet and keep pushing.In this episode, we’re having the conversation so many of us needed growing up. We’re diving into the things we were never told about mental health—especially in Black homes. We’re talking about what depression really looks like. How it shows up in our bodies, our parenting, our relationships, and even our worship. We’re talking about what happens when “be strong” is all you were ever taught. What happens when you grow up believing emotions are dangerous, weak, or shameful.I’m speaking to the sons who were told not to cry. The daughters who were told to hold it all together. The children who were punished for having feelings. And the grown folks now unpacking pain passed down like family heirlooms. I’m sharing from my own story, my background as a therapist-in-training, and the lived experience that so many of us carry.This isn’t about shaming our mamas or tearing down our elders. It’s about holding space for their struggle while choosing healing for ourselves. Because we do have choices now. We have language. We have help. And we have permission to feel, to rest, and to do things differently.So let’s talk about it. Let’s name the pain. Let’s unlearn the silence. And let’s finally give ourselves what so many of our mothers didn’t know how to give us: the freedom to heal.Grab ya liquor. Grab ya bud- let's talk baby...As promised, here are some tools and resources to help us heal:Therapy for Black Girls – therapyforblackgirls.comBlack women-centered directory + podcast + blogs. Culturally competent care. Real talk.Inclusive Therapists – inclusivetherapists.comFocuses on finding therapists for marginalized communities (LGBTQIA+, BIPOC, etc.).Open Path Collective – openpathcollective.orgAffordable therapy ($40–$70/session) if money's tight but healing is still the goal.Crisis Text Line – Text HELLO to 741741Free 24/7 crisis support via text. Instant support for folks in distress, including youth.988 Suicide & Crisis Lifeline – Just dial 98824/7 support line that’s more compassionate than the old-school police-centric hotlines.The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong Black Woman (Verywell Mind)Link— Talks about the pressure to be "strong" and how it hides depression.Mental Health America – BIPOC ResourcesLink— Stats, culturally relevant support, downloadable tools.Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective (BEAM) – beam.community— Trainings, toolkits, and videos that are made by us, for us.📚 Articles & Education:The Hidden Cost of Being the Strong Black Woman (Verywell Mind)Link— Talks about the pressure to be "strong" and how it hides depression.Mental Health America – BIPOC ResourcesLink— Stats, culturally relevant support, downloadable tools.Black Emotional and Mental Health Collective (BEAM) – beam.community— Trainings, toolkits, and videos that are made by us, for us.
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    1 時間 28 分
  • It wasn't your F*cking fault- Exploring SA and other Sh*t

    It wasn't your F*cking fault- Exploring SA and other Sh*t
    2025/04/22

    Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame. Listen with care!Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame. Listen with care!Trigger Warning: sexual assault, trauma responses, grief, self-blame!

    In honor of Sexual Assault Awareness Month:

    This episode is for the ones who survived and never said a word.
    For the ones who went back to their abuser and hated themselves for it.
    For the ones carrying shame that was never theirs.

    I’m sharing my story — the trauma, the silence, the unbearable grief, and the choices I made in the name of survival. I’m talkin’ about what no one tells you: how sexual trauma impacts your mind, your body, your relationships, and your sense of self.

    Some days I forget it happened. Other days, especially around the anniversary, I feel like I’m drowning.

    I want you to know that however you’re navigating this — whether you’ve shut down, gone numb, become hypersexual, or found yourself going back just to feel powerful again — you are not crazy. You are surviving.

    And you are not alone.

    It wasn’t your fault. It was never your fault.


    Grab your liquor and your bud- shit's about to get real...
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    1 時間 30 分
  • HE GOT UP-But what happened before He did?

    HE GOT UP-But what happened before He did?
    2025/04/16

    Hey yall hey! Let’s clear something up right out the gate: the crowd shouting “Hosanna” on Palm Sunday was not the same crowd yelling “Crucify Him” by Friday. That oversimplified version? It’s cute for a shout cue, but it doesn’t hold up under historical scrutiny.

    In this episode, we’re breaking down Holy Week with fresh eyes and raw truth. We’ll explore the political tension between the Jewish people and the Roman Empire, how corrupt religious leaders manipulated the system, and why Jesus’ nighttime trial was illegal under Jewish law.

    We’re not just telling the story—you’re getting the why behind every betrayal, every tear, and every act of resistance. This is Jesus in full color: the radical, the disruptor, the one they had to kill because He was a threat to power!

    Now this is just my interpretation...Another perspective if you will. Anyway, grab ya stuff and let's unpack this- together.
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    1 時間 7 分
  • Let me feel, Damnit

    Let me feel, Damnit
    2025/04/11

    In a world that tells us to "just have faith" and smile through the pain, what happens to those of us who are barely holding it together? In this episode, we unpack the raw, radical truth of John 11:35—“Jesus wept.”

    This ain’t your typical Sunday school lesson.

    We’re talking about how the church—and the culture—silences grief, rage, anxiety, and despair in the name of faith. From the grief of Black folks during ongoing civil unrest, to the LGBTQ+ community facing rejection, to parents of neurodivergent kids fighting for basic support—we name it all.

    And we ask the hard questions:
    ✨ What would Jesus do in times like these?
    ✨ Why does the church shame emotions Jesus Himself felt?
    ✨ How do we stop over-spiritualizing pain and start showing up for each other?

    It’s time we stop silencing pain and start making space for it. Let’s get real. Let’s get free. Grab ya liquor. Grab ya bud- let's ride baby!
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    49 分
  • Grieving the Living- Church Hurt Part 2- THE FINALE

    Grieving the Living- Church Hurt Part 2- THE FINALE
    2025/04/08

    Whew… this one right here? It’s personal. We’re closing out the Grieving the Living series and wrapping up this whole church hurt convo—and trust, we’re not holding back.

    We’re talking about the kind of hurt that hits different. Hurt from leadership. Hurt from folks in the pews. The shady stuff from “secondary leadership” who swear they’re called but cause more chaos than comfort. And yeah, we’re sharing our own stories—the messy, complicated, still-trying-to-make-sense-of-it stories.

    But this ain’t just about pain. We’re talking about where we are now. The healing. The prayers we didn’t wanna pray. The anger we had to admit. The moments we felt like walking away from church and God. And most importantly—where we’re headed next.

    If you’ve ever sat in silence thinking, “Why did they do me like that?” this one’s for you. You’re not alone. And you’re not crazy. Healing is messy, but it’s happening. One honest convo at a time. Grab ya liquor. Grab ya bud. Let's talk baby.
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    3 時間
  • Depression Ain't Demonic- Mental Health and the Black Church

    Depression Ain't Demonic- Mental Health and the Black Church
    2025/04/01

    Whewwww! This was a conversation we needed to have. In this episode, I dive into the real and raw truth about Black mental health and the Black church—how our faith has been a source of healing but also, at times, a barrier to getting the help we need. We talk about why so many of us avoid therapy, the harm of over-spiritualizing mental health struggles, and, most importantly, how we can do better.

    Listen, Jesus and therapy can go hand in hand. Prayer is powerful, but so is professional help. We have to stop telling people to ‘just pray about it’ and start making space for real healing—mind, body, and spirit.

    I had so much fun recording this episode, and I hope it blesses you. If it resonates, share it with your church, your family, your friends—anybody who needs to hear this. And if you’re struggling, please know you are not alone, and you deserve to heal. Grab ya liquor and ya bud big baby, and let's talk about it!

    Resources to Check Out:
    📌 Therapy for Black Girls – A directory of Black female therapists + mental health resources
    📌 Therapy for Black Men – Culturally competent therapy resources for Black men
    📌 The Loveland Foundation – Therapy scholarships for Black women and girls
    📌 Black Mental Health Alliance – Mental health education and support tailored for our community
    📌 National Alliance on Mental Illness (NAMI) – Support groups and resources for individuals and families
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    48 分