Have you ever found yourself talking shit about something that actually helped you become who you are today? Yeah, me too. And it's something I've been thinking about a lot lately.

Why do we dismiss the very tools, experiences, and people that helped us find our freedom?

I recently heard two different people in separate conversations basically trashing spirituality - calling it a distraction, misleading, confusing - while simultaneously admitting they used spiritual practices to get to where they are now. The irony hit me hard. It's like climbing a ladder and then kicking it down once you reach the top.

This got me reflecting on my own patterns. Where do I do this in my life? How do I talk about Christianity after leaving the church? What about past relationships, old projects, or tools I've outgrown?

The truth is, we all do this. We move through experiences, extract what we need, then turn around and demonize the very thing that brought us growth and awareness. But here's what I'm realizing - wouldn't it be better to leave things better than we found them?

In this episode, I'm exploring why we have this tendency to trash our past instead of being grateful for the journey. From spirituality to relationships to career pivots, I'm getting real about how this pattern shows up everywhere and what it costs us when we do it.

TIMESTAMPS:00:00 - People demonizing spirituality that helped them02:27 - My relationship with Christianity and church community
04:36 - The question: did church hurt me or help me?06:46 - Leave things better than you found them08:33 - The coloring book phase and what I learned11:12 - We do this with everything - food, cities, medicine14:05 - Why we cancel people so easily15:15 - Appreciating experiences while you're in them18:25 - Why demonizing might come back to bite you20:09 - You can't want wholeness and demonize what helped you find it

MEMORABLE QUOTES:

"And I wonder though, would you be where you are now if you hadn't used that tool though? Like did it not bring you to this realization?"

"Wouldn't it be best for me to make it better for someone going through spirituality or religion or, you know, whatever"

"Why are we demonizing these people instead of thinking that demonizing these systems instead of being grateful that we experience them to give us new perspective?"

"We move through something and then demonize it instead of extract the gold, the wisdom, the being grateful for having the experience and all the things that were in it"

"We all fuck up. We have all fucked up. We have all been a dick to someone, an asshole to someone"

"Every single choice, every single not choice is creating an experience. We cannot avoid experience"

"You can't want wholeness or want to acknowledge our wholeness and demonize or make wrong what has helped us remember what wholeness even is"

"We're all in this shit together. Nothing, absolutely nothing can be done solely just on our own"

What tools or experiences have you outgrown but still feel grateful for? Let me know in the comments - I'd love to hear your perspective on this.