What if one simple word could help you stop solving every problem for your kids, while teaching them to become more independent?

The Power of Sure is a simple parenting tool that takes the pressure off Dads to have an immediate answer to every request. By replacing a yes or no with “sure”, parents can encourage their kids to take responsibility, solve problems and become more comfortable with uncertainty.

To share this, we are joined by Associate Professor Gabriel Dabscheck, a paediatric neurologist in Melbourne Australia. Gaby is a father to three, happily married to an amazing woman, and a very amateur basketball coach. He shares how he uses this approach with his own children, why it can help build resilience and independence, and the situations where kids need clear answers and boundaries instead.

In this episode, Gaby shares:

• Why “sure” can be more useful than yes or no.
• How uncertainty can help kids build independence.
• The power of putting the responsibility back on your kids
• When uncertainty can become overwhelming.
• The process of moving from fixing problems to coaching your kids.
• Why kids need to learn that the world doesn't revolve around them.
• When to use “sure” and when kids need clear answers and boundaries.
• How “sure” can take some pressure off parents.

KEY QUOTES

"Sure means in the correct circumstances, “yeah, it can happen."

"Your time is valuable as well. The world doesn't revolve around them. Theirs is not the only reality."

"It kind of motivates them to create a circumstance by which what they want to happen will happen."

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As Dads, when we see our teens or kids struggling, our first instinct is often to jump in and fix things. We want to help, share what we've learned and save them from making mistakes. But what if our attempts to help are actually getting in the way?

The good news is that sometimes the most powerful thing we can do is stop giving answers and start asking better questions.

Psychologist, psychotherapist, parenting educator and author of Parenting for a Peaceful World and Heart-to-Heart Parenting, Robin Grille, shares a simple but powerful tool called Ask a Better Question, designed to help Dads move away from being Mr Fix It and towards raising confident, independent kids who feel heard, supported and capable of figuring things out for themselves.

In this episode, Robin shares:

• Why jumping in to fix our teens and kids' problems can do more harm than good.
• How asking better questions helps teens and kids build confidence and independence.
• What makes a good question and why curiosity matters
• How to approach tricky conversations about gaming, school and motivation.
• When asking questions isn't the right approach.
• Why kids don't need a perfect Dad, just one who's willing to learn.

KEY QUOTES

"And wouldn't you say that a good coach is somebody that says less but observes more and asks more?"

"Our children don't need the perfect dad. Our children need a learning dad."

"Don't teach, ask a question. Makes a huge difference."

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ASK A BETTER QUESTION RESOURCES

• Robin’s Parenting Books: https://www.robingrille.com/publications/books/
• Robin’s Parenting Articles: https://www.robingrille.com/publications/articles/
• Robin’s Parenting Videos: https://www.robingrille.com/videos/
• Robin’s Parenting Courses & Workshops: https://www.robingrille.com/seminars/
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Most Dads have had that moment where they’ve reacted to their kids, walked away and thought, “I didn’t handle that well.” The hard part is finding a way to interrupt that reaction while it’s actually happening.

The Resilient Reframe is a simple tool designed to create some space between what’s happening around you and how you respond, helping you step out of the emotion of the moment and make a more considered choice.

Teaching us the tool is Rob Marston, a mental fitness advocate, Certified Resilience Coach, Mental Health First Aid Instructor and Resilience First Aid Instructor who works with individuals, workplaces and communities to build greater resilience and mental fitness. He’s also deeply involved in men’s mental health, including founding the Inner West chapter of When No One Is Watching.

In this episode, Rob shares:

• Why taking five before reacting can completely change what happens next.
• How to recognise the situations and triggers that bring out a version of yourself you don’t want your kids to see.
• How to use the Resilient Reframe to step out of the emotion of the moment and choose a response that better reflects the dad you want to be.
• Why perspective can help you decide what actually matters and which battles aren’t worth fighting.
• How practising the Resilient Reframe can help you become a more stable, present parent when things get chaotic.

KEY QUOTES

“This is the first time I’ve been a parent. Like, I’ve been a kid before, but I’ve never been a parent before, and I’m doing the best I can with what I’ve got.”

“You need to know you’re not doing well in order to be able to access doing better.”

“I think it’s really about trying to give people a bit of a distance between stimulus and response.”

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