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How do you handle sleep struggles when raising a child who has been impacted by trauma, prenatal substance exposure, or other challenges? Listen to our conversation with Dr. Chris Winter, a sleep researcher and neurologist who has practiced sleep medicine and neurology since 2004. He is also the author of The Rested Child: Why Your Tired, Wired or Irritable Child May Have A Sleep Disorder--And How To Help, and hosts the podcast Sleep Unplugged with Dr. Chris Winter.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Understanding the value of sleep and reframing the conversation about expectations and what your child needs to support overall health, development, and wellbeing.
• What makes adopted, foster, or kinship children particularly vulnerable to sleep challenges?
• How might a child’s early trauma and experiences of loss — such as separation from birth families or multiple moves — show up in their sleep patterns?
• What effects do frequent environmental changes have on a child’s sleep?
• How might prenatal exposure to substances (e.g., opioids, alcohol, others) impact a child’s sleep?
• What may be the challenges that children with neurodiversity (Down syndrome, ADHD, ASD etc) experience?
• What are the practical strategies you have found successful in helping families with sleep disturbances?
• Why is it important to teach our kids the value of rest—even without sleep?
• What should we consider when setting up a consistent routine and sleep-friendly setting for our kids?
• When is it time to seek professional evaluation—like a sleep study or specialist referral for our kids?
• What guidance do you offer caregivers to help them stay consistent, avoid burnout, and model healthy sleep habits?

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Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: How should I deal with an adoptive child with a people-pleasing personality? I want to prevent the anxiety that comes with that, but I'm not sure how.

Resources:

• 6 Tips for Creating Attachment
• How to Cultivate Resilience in Your Kids
• 7 Character Traits Your Kids Need to Thrive
• Signs Your Child Might Be People Pleasing and How to Help

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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How do you manage daily expenses and budgeting when you are a foster or kinship caregiving family? We speak with Nicole Valenzuela, a foster parent and founder of Fostering Finances, to learn about simplified budgeting practices and healthy mindsets for managing money.

In this episode, we discuss:

• What are the financial challenges that foster and kinship families commonly face?
• How do those challenges differ between kinship caregivers and licensed foster parents?
  • Are there particular challenges for LGBTQ+ and BIPOC foster or kinship families?
  • What about single foster parents or kinship caregivers?
• What are the day-to-day costs that aren’t always covered by stipends or allowances?
• What hurdles might the informal caregivers face (those not participating in the foster care system while caring for a relative child) in accessing services or support?
• What financial supports may be available but underutilized by foster and kinship families?
• What are the Kinship Navigator Programs? How can they help — where are they found, etc.?
• What are some tax strategies or credits that families caring for foster or kin children may be eligible for?
• How can caregivers build a small financial buffer for the inevitable emergency that comes with raising kids?
• What advice do you give around savings or flexibility?
• Suggestions for simple budgeting or expense-tracking strategies that foster or kinship families might implement right away?
• What are some low-cost ways for foster parents or grandparents raising grandkids to meet these kids’ needs while preserving their dignity?
• What other effective community-level initiatives or organizations are you aware of that support these families?
• How can caregivers locate and tap into similar resources in their own communities?
• How do caregivers decide which financial strategies to focus on first?
• What practical steps can they take to set in motion a plan to stabilize their household finances over the next 6 months?
• What are some early small wins that build confidence—say, saving a few dollars a week, or successfully claiming a benefit?
• What is a scarcity mindset and what are signs that a caregiver might be struggling with scarcity mindset?
• What are the top three ‘practical financial strategies’ you’d want every foster or kinship caregiver to walk away with from today?
• Finally, what’s your best encouragement to caregivers who feel overwhelmed by financial pressures?

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• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: My husband and I are considering whether we will open our special needs consideration to include children who are HIV+. We have already been approved to adopt from India, and as our home study update approaches, we are taking a good, hard look at the Special Needs list again. I was listening to your podcast episode on this topic from 2013 and wondered if this was worth an updated episode? Has much changed for families living with HIV?

Resources:

• Factors to Consider When Adopting from India
• Country Comparison Charts
• Common Special Needs in International Adoption

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

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• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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What strategies can parents and caregivers implement in their homes to help reduce the risk that their children may be sexually abused? Learn practical parenting tools from this conversation with Dr. Eliana Gil, the founder of the Gil Institute for Trauma Recovery and Education. She specializes in the assessment and treatment of trauma in children, especially those who have been sexually abused.

In this episode, we discuss:

• Why should adoptive and foster parents and relative caregivers learn about the risks for sexual abuse of children in our community and how to prevent it?
• How can parents or caregivers tell the difference between normal childhood curiosity and behaviors that may signal a problem?
• What are some warning signs that might give parents or caregivers a clue to dig deeper into problematic behaviors they observe?
• If a child is showing some of these concerning behaviors, what are some practical and supportive ways caregivers can respond?
• Why is it preventative for parents and caregivers to use correct anatomical terms with kids?
• Can you offer a few practical suggestions for parents and caregivers to get more comfortable with correct terminology, if they find this an obstacle to equipping and educating their kids?
• What signs should parents and caregivers be on the lookout for – things that may suggest a child has been abused?
  • 5 categories: fear/anxiety, depression, sexual acting out, attachment
  • Emphasize that no single sign proves abuse but patterns and context matter.
• If a caregiver suspects abuse, what steps should they take?
• What is the parents’ or caregiver’s role once they have reported to the proper authorities?
• What are some everyday preventative practices families can put in place to keep kids safe while also allowing them to grow in healthy ways?
  • Protective, not paranoid
  • Open communication in the home
  • Supervision by safe adults
  • Safe boundaries in the home
  • Teaching consent and respect
  • Modeling healthy relationships
• Any last words of advice for adoptive parents, foster parents, or relative caregivers about protecting their kids from sexual abuse?

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: My husband and I are in the process of adopting a waiting child internationally. This is our first adoption and we will soon be waiting to be matched with a child. I teach in higher education and my schedule is coordinated about nine months out. I am working with my supervisors to try and make sure my schedule for the next year is flexible to account for uncertain adoption timing. It has been so difficult to try and navigate this with my job, especially because my institution has very limited options for paid parental leave.

I'm wondering if you have any insight into how to discuss a few of my questions with my employer:

1. How to manage unpredictable adoption timelines that may require mid-semester leave on minimal notice,
2. Explaining the necessity of time off work to bond with our new child, without the physical recovery needs that traditional birth includes, and
3. That while teaching online is an option, balancing teaching online with international travel and a critical bonding period is very daunting.

If you have any insight into how to discuss these topics with my employer, or any additional details I should be considering, I would love to hear your thoughts. I should say that my supervisors are very supportive and excited for my family, and they are open to creative solutions. These are just uncharted waters at my institution. I love listening to your podcast every week and my husband and I have learned so much from you all while we've been on our adoption journey!

Resources:

• How Can I Get Paid Leave for My Adoption?
• The Movement Project: Relationship & Parental Recognition: State Family Leave Laws
• Center for Parental Leave Leadership

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Resilience is more than just bouncing back from a challenge. Join us for a conversation about building resilience in ourselves and our kids, understanding coping tools, and caring well for ourselves while raising kids who may have significant gaps in their resilience. We talk with Kathleen Harnish McKune and her sister, Karen Dickson from Remarkably Resilient, Inc., a non-profit organization committed to partnering to empower healing from trauma.

In this episode, we cover:

• How do you define resilience? What does it look like in real life, not just in theory?
• What are resilience cups? Why do we need a full cup?
• How can parents and caregivers fill their cups while raising kids impacted by trauma, prenatal exposure, etc?
• What are your “5 Rs” of resilience?

1. Regulation
2. Relationships
3. Response
4. Recovery
5. Reflection

• What are some typical challenges – or symptoms – we might see in a child whose resilience is undeveloped or lacking?
• When a child is struggling with challenging behaviors that show some gaps in their resilience, how can parents/caregivers practically implement these 5 Rs in the moment?
• What are the coping tools you’ve identified to help people implement resilience-building strategies – the 4 Cs:

1. Calm
2. Care
3. Courage
4. Connect

• Strengthening resilience at the individual level ripples out to families, communities, and beyond. What gives you hope as you do this work?

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Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building

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Question: We are currently going through our home study to adopt from foster care, and I'm wondering if it is too early to look at photo listings? I have been looking at photo listings for a long time, but now, when I read the bios, it feels real, and I get slightly attached. I'm curious if you think this is setting myself up for disappointment.

Resources:

• Adoptions in the US – Our Annual Update
• Adoption Comparison Charts
• Foster Care Adoption
• Dealing with a Long Wait While Adopting
• The Impact of Fostering and Adoption on Kids Already in the Family

Support the show

Please leave us a rating or review. This podcast is produced by www.CreatingaFamily.org. We are a national non-profit with the mission to strengthen and inspire adoptive, foster & kinship parents and the professionals who support them.

Creating a Family brings you the following trauma-informed, expert-based content:

• Weekly podcasts
• Weekly articles/blog posts
• Resource pages on all aspects of family building