Parental Trauma is often defined by what a child perceives of how they were treated or spoken to - but it also appears in what a child grew up watching. There are two ways it could go - completely avoid it successfully OR go in trying to run away from through the same situation without recognising it.

That is the story of author, Agatha Mwende whose life flipped and turned when her single mum got married to a man who was polygamous. The trauma she observed watching her mum cry herself to sleep after having arguments over her step father's infidelity got her afraid thinking every man will cheat or end-up polygamous.

In the twist of it all she shares with our host Kalekye that how she built an idea that turned out to be the illusion of forever - her desire to have a solid relationship and family put her into a state that led her to trauma in her own relationship.

Agatha's story gives perspective that we may often be subconsciously influenced by the dysfunction we witness.

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Mothers are home. She is an anchor to a child's sense of belonging and comfort - so what happens when she leaves before a child has even understood her place in the world?

That is the situation our guest, Saiton Righa, found herself when things became economically tough for her and her mum.

From the age of nine, Saiton found herself being raised by silent grandparents and picking up her mother's load. In this conversation, she shares the motions she went through growing up un-mothered and living on a promise that never came.

It is in this conversation that we learn that parental trauma can leave one fighting to survive and making decisions to get some sense of feeling that resembles being alive. It is also in this story we learn how never experiencing what being mothered feels can bring such gripping fear when you yourself become a mother.

In this episode, Saiton reveals how faith in God became her anchor and has been her guide as she continues to confront the invisible wound that comes with parental trauma and an absent parent.

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All things work together for good whether we know it or not. A breakup led to depression and that led to resolving lingering hurt between a mother and daughter.

Achie Nimo is not a guest to this podcast, we have loved her insights and wisdom on season 2 when she gave us nuggets to survive Valentines without pressure. In this episodes she returns with a conversation dedicated to her late mother.

Parental trauma shows up in many different ways and one that is quite heavily missed is generational parental trauma simply because we assume if we go through a bad traumatising episode we will not do it to anyone else and more so our own child that we love - but that is not the case. Achie sits down with our host, Kalekye, to reveal the things she discovered about her mum in a journey that began after her own heart was broken by a man she was engaged to and through it a journey of healing and understanding began.

Though time cut the journey short when Achie lost her mother to cancer, she still cherishes the moments of therapy, healing and understanding that finally let her see her mother as a friend and a safe space.

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