Parental Trauma is often defined by what a child perceives of how they were treated or spoken to - but it also appears in what a child grew up watching. There are two ways it could go - completely avoid it successfully OR go in trying to run away from through the same situation without recognising it.

That is the story of author, Agatha Mwende whose life flipped and turned when her single mum got married to a man who was polygamous. The trauma she observed watching her mum cry herself to sleep after having arguments over her step father's infidelity got her afraid thinking every man will cheat or end-up polygamous.

In the twist of it all she shares with our host Kalekye that how she built an idea that turned out to be the illusion of forever - her desire to have a solid relationship and family put her into a state that led her to trauma in her own relationship.

Agatha's story gives perspective that we may often be subconsciously influenced by the dysfunction we witness.

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Mothers are home. She is an anchor to a child's sense of belonging and comfort - so what happens when she leaves before a child has even understood her place in the world?

That is the situation our guest, Saiton Righa, found herself when things became economically tough for her and her mum.

From the age of nine, Saiton found herself being raised by silent grandparents and picking up her mother's load. In this conversation, she shares the motions she went through growing up un-mothered and living on a promise that never came.

It is in this conversation that we learn that parental trauma can leave one fighting to survive and making decisions to get some sense of feeling that resembles being alive. It is also in this story we learn how never experiencing what being mothered feels can bring such gripping fear when you yourself become a mother.

In this episode, Saiton reveals how faith in God became her anchor and has been her guide as she continues to confront the invisible wound that comes with parental trauma and an absent parent.

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All things work together for good whether we know it or not. A breakup led to depression and that led to resolving lingering hurt between a mother and daughter.

Achie Nimo is not a guest to this podcast, we have loved her insights and wisdom on season 2 when she gave us nuggets to survive Valentines without pressure. In this episodes she returns with a conversation dedicated to her late mother.

Parental trauma shows up in many different ways and one that is quite heavily missed is generational parental trauma simply because we assume if we go through a bad traumatising episode we will not do it to anyone else and more so our own child that we love - but that is not the case. Achie sits down with our host, Kalekye, to reveal the things she discovered about her mum in a journey that began after her own heart was broken by a man she was engaged to and through it a journey of healing and understanding began.

Though time cut the journey short when Achie lost her mother to cancer, she still cherishes the moments of therapy, healing and understanding that finally let her see her mother as a friend and a safe space.

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Parental Trauma and mother wounds clearly do not pick sexes as many would assume. Men have grown up in tough situations too but often shy away from sharing.

In this episode of Conversations with Kalekye, media personality and actor Earnest Bantu opens up about his childhood and how it lowered his self confidence and esteem at an early age with the mixed emotions he received from his parents. He felt like a failure who was good for nothing and unloved until he was winning at football - but that love soon faded when he sadly had a bad football accident that left him in hospital for a whole year.

This conversation really leaves one wondering why parents only show love to their children based on what they can get from them and how comparison kills spirits. With the help of our partners, The Truth Encounter Coaching Services lead coach & Counsellor, Agiso Odhuno, we bring healing and understanding to Earnest and anyone else going through such a traumatic experience that creeps up into their dating relationships.

You too can benefit from working with them to get healing:

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There is nothing that prepares you for loss... especially at a young age.

On this third episode of the series Parental Trauma and Dating, Kalekye sits down with Grace Kabebere, an ordinary Kenyan with an extraordinary story. Grace who is now stable and working as an Administrative Assistant did not begin her journey here. She was traumatised by death at an early age, never getting to know her real mother, being raised by her maternal aunt and grandmother who sadly also dies back to back and by the age of 7 years, she was off to be cared for by a relative.

From love to hardship, Grace took refuge in boarding school until that could not protect her anymore. She has struggled to take care of herself forcing her to be so thick skinned that all she knows is to put herself first and build up walls. She has been a work in progress and we are happy to introduce her to our partners The Truth Encounter Coaching Services Kenya to get her the help she needs to fully heal.

You too can benefit from working with them to get healing

Email: thetruthencounterkenya@gmail.com

Call: +254 718 582 035

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It's Un-African to suggest that a parent and more so a mother can harm her child in any way. But to learn that it can even happen involuntarily from the womb as you carry your child is something I did not even know.

In this episode Kalekye sits down with lead coach and Psychologist Agiso Oduno of The Truth Encounter Coaching Service to unpack Parental Trauma and Dating by seeking to understand how it happens and if truly she too is victim to parental wounds of her own. As she gets vulnerable, Kalekye finally learns what the impact of her mother wounds has had on her and what in turn her response to any man who wishes to date her is…

In this fascinating discovery journey, we open up the season to understanding why we behave the way we behave in dating and relationships and also find a sense of healing with the help of the Truth Encounter Coaching Services who have partnered with us on the next few episodes.

Get more information on how to heal your parental wounds from The Truth Encounter:

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We are so excited to be back!!

In this episode, Kalekye takes a look at some of the most impactful episodes that made season one which was a focus on 'Love Stories'. Some of the episodes took us to a place where we needed to think about the foundations on what love really means to us. Why do we think and behave the way we do when we get into a relationship? How much of it is influenced by the way you were raised?

And with that we are happy to announce the title for season 2 - "Parental Trauma and Dating Relationships." Do you know the impact of your parental trauma has had on your dating love? Have you sort therapy and successfully managed to have a hold of your traumas? We would love to have you on the podcast.

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Would you be able to turn a blind eye knowing the way the public behaves around celebrities? Would you keep your eye focused on the family ONLY when it comes to a partner in the lime light?

As a person in the public eye, there are many difficult decisions one has to make as they get into a committed relationship. Award winning actor Moses Kiema had a conversation with Kalekye just to shed some light on how he has managed to keep his marriage of 8 years completely private. We searched all over for at least one image of his wife and found NONE.

His wife chose not to know what happens and he also doesn't share things that happen in his DMs that would make her uncomfortable. Moses says he has managed to separate his acting life from his family life and they have actively cut off friends who are nosy and want to start up fires in their lives keeping their focus on each other. His assurance to her is to actively give her his undivided attention and time while respecting her boundaries.

This episode is an encouragement to anyone who maybe shying away from marrying someone who is in the limelight. You can decide to keep your relationship private and also be understanding of your persons work then live a happy life.

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