In this episode, we sit down with Bill, a joy-seeker, guide, and community builder whose work centers around supporting neurodivergent individuals—especially those with ADHD. It’s an inspiring, heartfelt conversation about what it truly means to live with presence, create meaningful belonging, and find happiness from the inside out.

We explore:

• How ADHD can impact identity, self-worth, and relationships

• The search for joy through community, compassion, and curiosity

• Why so many neurodivergent people feel misunderstood—and how to hold space for them

• The role of self-honesty and radical permission in the healing journey

Bill shares his personal story with vulnerability and humor, inviting us into a world where authenticity isn’t just accepted—it’s celebrated. We reflect on our own experiences with attention, energy, and the challenges of trying to "fit in" to systems never built for us.

Ultimately, this is a conversation about embracing who you are, building connections that nourish, and learning to follow your joy—even if it doesn’t look like anyone else’s path.

In this episode, we explore the growing trend of using AI tools like ChatGPT for mental health and self-reflection. From creating personalized therapy bots to feeding your life story into AI for insights, we talk about the real benefits and serious risks of outsourcing your emotional work to technology.

We get into:

- How AI can mirror your thoughts back to you (and why that matters)

- The line between using AI for self-inquiry vs. emotional outsourcing

- Why inputs matter more than you think—and how to feed AI the right info

- The danger of using AI as a crutch instead of a tool

- How lonely people might become emotionally dependent on bots

- The difference between human therapy and AI “wisdom”

- Tips and prompts for using AI safely and meaningfully for mental health work

This one’s for the curious, the cautious, and the tech-savvy self-healers. We’re not anti-AI but we are pro-awareness.

Chapters:

(00:00) Why We're Talking About AI and Mental Health

(01:03) Building a Therapy Bot: Rachel’s IFS Bot

(01:58) Can AI Spot Your Blind Spots? The Mirror Effect

(02:31) The Input Determines the Output

(04:23) When AI Becomes a Pandora’s Box of Anxiety

(06:15) Emotional Validation & the Danger of Getting Hooked

(08:35) Feeding AI the Full Story (and Why It Matters)

(10:17) The Only Energy AI Has Is the Energy You Give It

(12:03) Using AI for Self-Inquiry Instead of Advice

(14:44) When a Tool Becomes a Crutch That Stunts Growth

(16:01) AI as the New Operating System (and Why That’s Scary)

(18:22) ChatGPT vs. Human Therapists: The Bias Trade-Off

(20:00) Who Should (and Shouldn’t) Use AI for Emotional Work

(21:24) Guardrails and Prompts: Safer Ways to Use ChatGPT

(22:00) AI Isn’t the Answer, You Still Have to Do the Work

Custom GPT links + prompts below:

Rachel’s IFS BOT:

https://chatgpt.com/g/g-MxQl6lAUI-ifs-bot

Great Prompt for Inner Inquiry:

"I'm struggling with [insert situation, thought, or feeling]. Please respond like a compassionate and emotionally intelligent mental health guide. Ask thoughtful, open-ended questions to help uncover the full context including past experiences, possible traumas, conflicting parts of me, and emotional polarities. Be curious and non-judgmental. Validate my emotions, but don’t automatically agree with my perspective, gently challenge any distortions or assumptions you notice. Prioritize emotional truth and self-understanding over comfort or quick fixes. Help me explore what's happening inside with depth, care, and honest inquiry."

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This episode is all about the heartbreak spiral-those messy, painful weeks after a breakup when nothing feels real and you're not sure how to be a person again.

We talk about:

• - Why breakups hit like emotional whiplash and why it’s okay to just not be okay

• - The loop of “what did I do wrong?” and how to stop feeding it

• - How to support a friend in heartbreak without rushing their healing or offering advice they didn’t ask for

• - The moment when self-love looks like crying on the floor with sad music, and why that’s still healing

• - What creative expression can unlock when you're heartbroken and cracked open

• - Why you can’t always trust your thoughts in the middle of grief (and who to borrow clarity from)

• - How this pain can actually lead you to a more honest version of yourself, if you let it

This one’s for anyone sitting in the quiet after everything changed, whether you're grieving a person, a future, or the version of yourself you thought you’d be with them. You’re not too much, too broken, or too behind. You’re just in it. And that’s enough.

Chapters:

(00:00) When the Breakup Hits: Shock, Withdrawal & Grief

(03:00) All the Triggers: Abandonment, Shame, and Blame

(06:00) Why Your Thoughts Might Be Lying to You

(09:30) The Inner Critic After Loss

(13:00) Holding Space Without Fixing

(15:00) Using Sadness as a Creative Spark

(17:00) Self-Care That Doesn’t Feel Like Self-Care Yet

(20:00) Asking for What You Actually Need

(22:00) Letting the Heartbreak Change You

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In this episode, we explore the messy middle of healing, dating, and staying true to yourself, especially when the urge to help others starts to blur your own boundaries.

We talk about:

- What You on Netflix reveals about narcissistic dynamics and how love can be weaponized

- Why being seen can feel both healing and triggering, and what to do when you don’t feel it in your relationships

- The line between people-pleasing and compassion, and how to tell when you’re crossing it

- A surprisingly deep conversation about judgment, and how it's often a signal from a part of you trying to keep you safe

- How media like The 100, Black Mirror, and Mr. Robot reflect back our collective spiritual growth

- The slow, uncomfortable practice of choosing what’s aligned for you, especially when it means disappointing someone else

This episode is for anyone navigating the in-between: holding space for your own growth while figuring out how to relate to others with more honesty, self-trust, and love. If you’ve ever struggled to choose yourself without guilt, this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) Intro & Netflix’s You: Narcissism and the Mind of Joe Goldberg

(02:45) Weaponized Love and the Illusion of Being Seen

(05:58) Unpacking Transactional Love vs. Overflowing Self-Worth

(09:12) Boundaries, People-Pleasing, and the Urge to Help

(12:27) Parts Work on Judgment: Protection vs. Shame

(15:36) A Bad Date, Compassion Fatigue & Choosing Alignment

(19:02) Noticing the Shift: How One Draining Date Changes Everything

(21:44) Feeling Seen in Real-Time and Why It’s So Rare

(24:11) The Mirror of Relationships: Using Conflict for Growth

(28:32) TV as Therapy: The 100, Black Mirror, and the Rise of Conscious Storytelling

(32:59) Receiving Love Without Expectation: The Challenge of True Support

(36:10) Abandonment Wounds, Emotional Safety & Self-Expression

(40:04) Why We Judge: Parts Work, Projection, and Inner Criticism

(44:23) Spiritual Reflection: The Hero’s Journey and the Loop of Worth

(49:17) Soul Contracts, Synchronicity, and Why Some Connections Stick

(52:33) Gratitude, Growth, and Closing Reflections

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Ever left a therapy session feeling hopeless, like you’re the problem, and no one’s really telling you how to change it?

In this episode, Rachel and Jonathan open up about their frustrations with traditional talk therapy and the feeling that insight alone often isn’t enough to truly heal. What unfolds is a powerful conversation about two very different perspectives on trauma: Rachel speaks from the emotional body - the felt experience of pain, abandonment, and healing through embracing the stories and identities. Jonathan comes from the angle of false identities - how our subconscious programming keeps us stuck in cycles we never chose and how to rewire our subconscious to recognize the "false" identities and choose differently.

Their views don’t always align, and that’s the point. This episode unpacks the tension between feeling your way through pain and reframing the stories that define you. It’s honest, challenging, and yes, maybe even a little polarizing.

If you’ve ever wondered why therapy hasn’t fully helped or what else might be out there, this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) – Opening Reflection

(00:47) – Why Talk Therapy Can Fall Short

(01:26) – The "Low Vibe" Debate

(02:48) – Parent Love or Parent Programming?

(04:15) – The Danger of Over-Identifying with the Why

(06:45) – Validation vs. Reframing

(11:00) – Subconscious Programming and Identity

(18:00) – Language Matters: Abandoned vs. Left

(23:00) – Owning the Journey

IFS therapist Joe joins me for a wide-ranging, real conversation about healing the wounds of worthiness. We talk about the cost of hustle culture, the feminine perspective in a masculine world, and how the journey toward wholeness asks us to soften, connect, and reclaim our innate value — not for what we do, but for simply being.

We talk about:

- Why feeling "not enough" is more common than you think

- How internalized pressure to perform shows up in business, dating, and spirituality

- The power of community and how it offers healing where individualism can’t

- Choosing self-love—even when it doesn’t feel true yet

- And how to stop performing and start belonging.

This is a rich, tender, and honest conversation about what it means to be human in a world that rewards masks. If you’re craving deeper connection and are ready to trade performance for presence, this one is for you.

Chapters:

(01:10) – How Childhood Trauma Shapes Our Value System
(04:02) – Performance vs. Innate Worth
(08:55) – Being vs. Doing: Identity in Achievement
(13:22) – The Fantasy of Community and Real-World Tradeoffs
(18:05) – Individualism, Survival, and the Loss of Connection
(22:41) – The Tension Between Comfort and Freedom
(28:36) – Healing the Broken Parts: Self-Love and Resource Access
(34:40) – Dating While Awake: The Cost of Awareness
(40:45) – Radical Responsibility in Healing
(46:30) – Body Image, Implants, and Internalized Programming
(54:55) – What Religion Got Wrong (and Right)
(59:50) – Advice for the Start of a Healing Journey
(1:03:40) – Why Positive Thinking Isn’t Enough

Who's Joe?

Joe is a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate and Certified Level 3 IFS Practitioner. He is passionate about education, serving others and is on a mission to help people understand how their minds actually work so they can help themselves reach their potential. As an entrepreneur since 2007, he owns a wellness center, a coaching business and has a masters degree in Clinical Mental Health Counseling. He has made a name for himself in his community primarily creating cooperative opportunities and assisting wellness practitioners to run their business, as well as helping individuals heal from their past wounds and learn to show up in their lives with confidence, courage and compassion.

Joe's Links

Website: https://joebielling.com/

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Website: https://rachelheals.com/

IG: https://www.instagram.com/ecomprincess/

In this episode, we sit down to reflect on Aubrey Marcus’s recent podcast featuring his wife Vylana, their partner Alana, and a rabbi who introduces the concept of “radical monogamy.” It’s a vulnerable conversation on love, commitment, and non-traditional relationship dynamics and it stirred a lot in both of us.

We explore:

- How we personally experience monogamy, choice, and emotional safety

- What jealousy has taught us, and the difference between healing through love vs. stretching beyond your capacity

- The complex balance between freedom and commitment

- And how past wounds can influence the partnerships we accept or seek

We share our honest thoughts, personal stories, and the questions that surfaced for us around power dynamics, spiritual language, and emotional truth in intimate relationships.

Ultimately, this is a conversation about love in all its forms and how to stay rooted in your own values while staying open to different paths.

Chapters

(00:00) – Initial Impressions of the Aubrey Marcus Episode

(02:12) – Respect vs. Discomfort in Polyamorous Relationships

(04:20) – Aubrey’s “Download” in Egypt: Divine or Delusion?

(05:44) – Emotional Systems and Masculine Capacity in Poly

(08:01) – Power Dynamics, Authenticity, and the Language of Love

(11:54) – The Cost of Subservience to Love

(13:57) – Choosing One: The Sacredness of Monogamy

(15:13) – Jealousy, Triggers, and Healing in Unusual Containers

(16:45) – Polyamory, Fear of Commitment, and Spiritual Spin

(18:11) – Radical Honesty and the Capacity to Face Shadows

(19:16) – True Love as Devotion, Not Unlimited Freedom

(21:00) – Cultural Constructs, Emotional Skill, and the Marriage “Problem”

(22:40) – Why Redefining Monogamy Misses the Point

(23:52) – Primal Community, Historical Sharing, and Relationship Evolution

(26:25) – Power, Parenting, and the Tribe Model

(28:10) – Navigating Codependence and Hyper-Independence

(30:02) – What Makes Commitment Meaningful?

(32:24) – Sexual Openness vs. Emotional Loyalty

(35:45) – Emotional Risk in Bi and Open Relationships

(38:06) – Monogamy, Control, and the Illusion of Security

(41:00) – Trauma Bonds and the Illusion of Emotional Safety

(43:12) – Savior Complexes and Emotional Rollercoasters

(46:00) – Changing Others vs. Changing Ourselves

(48:34) – Evolving Desires and Emotional Maturity

(50:35) – Compersion, Jealousy, and Emotional Boundaries

(51:32) – Final Reflections: Honoring the Conversation, Not Condemning the People

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Ever find yourself asking: Is this still right for me?
In this episode, we go deep into the kinds of crossroads that show up in healing, creative, and spiritual life and how to know when it’s time to let something (or someone) go.

We talk about:

• Imposter syndrome and why it creeps in even when you're doing meaningful work

• The moment you realize teaching isn’t about having all the answers - it’s just about sharing what’s moved you

• Why certain relationships, clients, or projects drain your peace and what to do about it

• How to tell the difference between a spiritual test vs. a new opportunity to show up as your evolved self

• The power of choosing your values over comfort, and why that choice can feel so disorienting at first

• A practical way to check who's "sitting at the head of the table" when you're making a tough decision

This conversation is about naming what’s real when you’re in it. If you’re navigating self-doubt, setting boundaries, or trying to stay aligned with who you’re becoming… this one’s for you.

Chapters:

(00:00) Introduction to the Concept of Vessels

(00:53) Upcoming Health Optimization Summit

(01:52) Passover and Its Significance

(03:27) Spiritual Insights on Passover

(08:02) Dealing with Imposter Syndrome

(14:58) The Importance of Following Your Intuition

(20:10) Navigating Client Relationships

(21:32) Balancing Values in Dating

(23:00) Personal Growth and Self-Reflection

(25:13) The Spiral of Life's Challenges

(28:13) Embracing Change and Courage

(29:22) Setting Boundaries and Self-Worth

(33:05) Making Empowered Decisions

(39:31) Understanding Inner Dynamics

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