You’ve had the conversation. You’ve prayed. You’ve researched. You’ve tried to help. And still, your mind keeps coming back to: What else can I do? What am I missing?

When you see your teen struggling, making choices that concern you, pulling away from their faith, or heading in a direction you desperately wish you could change, it’s hard not to feel responsible for making things better. And without realizing it, loving and supporting them can start turning into trying to control an outcome you simply can’t control.

In this episode, I’m sharing something God has been showing me in my own life about the difference between being responsible TO someone and responsible FOR their outcome—and how that distinction can change the way you parent and communicate with your teen.

You’ll learn:

• How concern for your teen can turn into control without you realizing it
• The question that can help you recognize what’s actually yours to do—and what isn’t
• What Proverbs 3:5 taught me about where I’m putting the weight of someone else’s future
• How trusting God can help you communicate with your teen without every conversation becoming about the thing you’re worried about

Trusting God with your teen doesn’t mean passive parenting. You still guide, set boundaries, seek wisdom, get help when it’s needed, and keep showing up. But you don’t have to believe that if you just say the right thing, find the right solution, or parent perfectly enough, you can guarantee the outcome. You can do what God has given you to do and trust Him with what you cannot control.

💛Want to know what you can begin doing differently to build more connection and trust with your teen?

Join me for my FREE live workshop, The Roadmap to a More Peaceful, Connected & Trusting Relationship With Your Teen.

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I pray this episode blesses you and your family.

~Terri

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You’ve spent years guiding your kids, so of course you want to share what you’ve learned when you see your teen struggling. But one of the challenges of parenting teens is realizing that as our kids grow, the way we guide them has to grow too.

Sometimes giving more advice—even really good advice—can make communication with teens harder instead of easier. And if distance or shutdown has already begun, learning a different way to guide can become an important part of rebuilding connection and learning how to build trust with your teen.

In this episode, I’m sharing four practical communication skills that can help you move from automatically giving advice to becoming someone your teen increasingly wants to come to for perspective.

You'll learn:

• The surprising reason good advice isn’t always received as helpful
• Four simple teen communication skills that help your teen think without leaving you on the sidelines
• One question you can start using right away to invite your teen to hear your perspective

We don’t have to force every lesson or control every outcome. We can grow in wisdom about when to listen, when to speak, and when to trust that God is working in our teens, too.

I pray this episode blesses you and your family.

~Terri

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Join me for my FREE Connect With Your Teens Workshop on September 15th or September 22nd. Choose the time that works best for you and save your spot at

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Do you ever feel like you’d have a better relationship with your teen if you just had more time? Between work, school, sports, appointments, responsibilities, and everything else competing for your attention, it can feel almost impossible to create the kind of meaningful connection you want with your teen. But what if more time isn’t actually what you need?

In this episode, I’m talking with Sarah Colbert, host of Balanced Mom Life and mom of three teens, about how busy moms can build connection in the small moments they already have—without adding one more thing to their overflowing schedules.

You’ll discover:

• Why more time may not be the answer to building a stronger relationship with your teen
• The mistake well-meaning moms can make that unintentionally creates more distance
• How small, consistent moments can build connection—even when your teen doesn’t respond the way you hoped
• Why taking care of yourself can help you become more emotionally available and present with your family

And I love Sarah’s reminder that we don’t have to get every interaction right. We can continue showing up, planting seeds, and trusting God with what He’s doing in our teens and in our relationships—even when we can’t see the results yet. Listen in, and then share this episode with another busy mom who could use the reminder that building connection doesn’t require finding more hours in her day.

I pray this episode blesses you and your family.

~Terri

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🎉 My next Free Connect With Your Teen Workshop is September 15th! Details are coming soon. We’ll talk about practical, Christ-centered ways to communicate with more confidence, restore connection, and build lasting trust with your teen. Details are coming soon, and I can’t wait to see you there!

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Why does your teen get defensive when you’re only asking a simple question? You ask about homework, driving, friends, or plans—and suddenly your teen is pushing back or accusing you of not trusting them. If you’re parenting teens and wondering why everyday conversations turn into conflict so quickly, there may be more happening beneath the surface than you realize.

You’ll learn: • What may really be happening underneath your teen’s defensiveness • Why your natural response may actually increase defensiveness • Simple communication skills that can change the direction of a difficult conversation

We’ll even go back to the Garden of Eden for a surprising look at defensiveness and the human heart, and I’ll share a parenting experience that changed how I understood some of my own kids’ reactions.

If you want to build trust, improve teen communication, and have more connected conversations, listen in.

Because sometimes the issue isn’t really the issue.

✨Are you ready to stop guessing what to say and start feeling more confident in the conversations that matter most?

My new website is live! You’ll find all the ways I can help you build stronger communication, trust, and connection with your teen—from private coaching and our monthly Support Group to the Connect With Your Teen Roadmap.

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I pray this episode blesses you.

~Terri

✨ The Connect With Your Teens Roadmap - The step-by-step program that helps you navigate difficult conversations and create more emotional safety so you can build lasting trust and connection with your teen. You’ll learn a complete communication framework that gives you greater confidence in what to say and how to respond—not only with your teen, but in every relationship that matters.

Learn more and enroll here: https://connectwithyourteens.com/roadmap

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You love your teen. So why does it sometimes feel like the harder you try to help, the farther apart you become?

Most moms don’t struggle because they don’t care enough.They struggle because the communication habit that feels the most loving can unintentionally create the very distance they’re trying to avoid.

In this episode, we’re uncovering one of the biggest reasons conversations break down—not because your intentions are wrong, but because your communication style may be sending a message you never meant to send.

You’ll walk away with a fresh way to think about your conversations, practical communication skills you can begin using today, and one simple shift that will help you and your teen experience more understanding, safety, and trust.

In this episode, you’ll discover:

• Why good intentions don’t always build connection.
• The communication habits many moms naturally fall into without realizing it.
• What your teen may actually be hearing beneath your words.
• One simple change that can help build trust and strengthen your relationship.

As moms, God’s given us a unique opportunity to shape the kind of relationship our teens carry with them into adulthood. We won’t do it perfectly, but every conversation is an opportunity to reflect His grace, patience, and love helping our teens feel seen, valued, and deeply loved.

💛 Need a safe place to keep growing?

If this season with your teen has left you feeling discouraged, overwhelmed, or wondering where to even begin rebuilding your relationship, I want to invite you to our next Connect With Your Teens Support Group on August 11th..

My heart is for you to leave with more clarity than you came with. More hope than you walked in with. And practical next steps you can use the very next time you talk with your teen.

👉Save your seat at connectwithyourteens.com/supportgroup.

I hope this episode is a blessing to you and your family.

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Every conversation with your teen starts before either of you says a word.

Most moms don’t realize what’s shaping those conversations—or why the same patterns keep repeating. If you’ve been trying to build connection and build trust, but still feel like you’re missing each other, there may be something happening long before the conversation even begins.

In this episode, you’ll discover a simple shift that can strengthen your communication skills, improve family communication, and deepen your relationship with your teen. It’s a perspective that can change the way you approach everyday teen communication this school year—before you ever say a word.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• Why communication begins long before either of you says a word.
• The hidden factor that shapes your tone, responses, and expectations.
• Why today’s behavior doesn’t have to define your teen.
• One simple prayer to help you build connection this school year.
• A memorable way to approach your next conversation with your teen.

As followers of Christ, we’re invited to see people the way God sees them—not defined by today’s struggles, but by who He is continuing to shape them into becoming. When we begin seeing our teens through that lens, our communication naturally becomes more grace-filled, hopeful, and life-giving.

What if one small shift in the way you see your teen could change the conversations you have all year long?

👉 Join us for our free monthly Connect With Your Teens Support Group, where you’ll find encouragement, practical coaching, and a community of moms who understand what you’re’re walking through. Reserve your spot at connectwithyourteens.com/supportgroup.

I pray this episode blesses you!

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Have you been using the wrong scorecard to measure yourself as a mom?

Parenting teens is challenging and if you’ve ever wondered if you’re doing enough, you’re not alone. Building trust and connection during the teen years isn’t about getting every conversation right. Sometimes the greatest growth is happening in ways you can’t yet see.

In this episode, you’ll discover why your willingness to keep learning communication skills, seeking God’s wisdom, and showing up with love is one of the strongest signs you’re doing better than you think. If you’re looking for practical parenting tips to build connection, strengthen trust, and improve communication with your teen, encouragement is on the way so that you can see yourself—and your parenting—through God’s perspective instead of your own scorecard.

I pray this episode is a blessing to you and your family, reminding you that God is still at work in you—and that you’re doing far better than you think.

If you’d like personalized support as you navigate your unique situation, I’d be honored to walk alongside you through a one-on-one Communication Coaching Call. You can learn more and schedule your call at the link below.

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You love your teen and want the very best for them. So why do your conversations sometimes leave them feeling criticized, controlled, or misunderstood when your heart was trying to encourage, protect, and help?

Terri shares a powerful coaching story that reveals one of the biggest communication blind spots in parenting teens: the gap between our intentions and our teen’s experience and why they take what you say the wrong way. You’ll discover why your teen may react differently than you expect, how one simple perspective shift can strengthen communication with your teen, and a practical way to build trust with your teen while creating a deeper, lasting connection.

If you’ve ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “That isn’t what I meant,” this episode is for you.

I pray it's a blessing to you and your family!

✨Ready for personalized support?

If you find yourself replaying conversations, wondering what went wrong, or wishing you knew how to respond differently, I’d love to help. In a 1:1 Communication Coaching Call, we’ll identify what’s creating distance, strengthen your communication, and create a personalized plan to help you build lasting connection and trust with your child.

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💌Want weekly encouragement straight to your in box?

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🤍Looking for a safe, faith-based community of moms who get it?

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📖Need a place to start?

Download my Building Connection Beyond Screen Time: A Quick Guide for Moms to help you build trust with your teen, strengthen communication, and create more meaningful everyday conversations.

👉https://connectwithyourteens.com/build-connection-screentime

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Join my free monthly support group for moms of teens — a safe, faith-led space for guidance, connection, and encouragement.

Learn more here: https://connectwithyourteens.com/supportgroup

🎧Would you like inspiring worship music to anchor you in your journey?

This is a collection of songs that have brought me peace and helped me anchor my heart in Christ. You can go straight to this link to get my Anchoring Spotify Playlist (no sign up required): https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0pmOIQvAH6dibMmAxQzbGf?si=WZ8bE23YQfWdY5lbBM_2pA&nd=1&dlsi=e9c329d0073a4b3b

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