What do you do when the sticker charts work… but they don’t feel right?

In today’s episode, I’m inviting you behind the scenes of a real coaching call with a brave, thoughtful CMP parent who’s wrestling with something we all face: the tension between loving connection and firm limits—especially when it comes to bedtime, behavior charts, and consequences that seem to work (but don’t sit well in your gut).

We talk about what to do when your child comes out of their room twenty times after lights out, how to set firm limits without flipping into frustration or giving in, and why rewards and consequences often miss the mark (even when they look effective in the short term).

If you’ve ever felt torn between being the calm, connected parent you want to be, and just wanting your kid to stay in their room already—this episode is for you.

Inside, you’ll hear us explore:

• How to hold boundaries from compassion instead of control
• Why developmental insight changes everything about "consequences"
• The sneaky ways we think we’re doing “nothing” when we’re actually doing the most important work
• A new lens for sticker charts, bedtime resistance, and behavior at school
• How to be the “tuning fork” that helps your child feel safe and settle (even if you’re tired and done)

This is real-life parenting in action—messy, meaningful, and full of the kind of nuance that doesn’t make the parenting books.

Come listen in. I think you’ll feel seen, inspired, and ready to set limits with more love and less fear.

xo, Andee

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Your kids have selective hearing, right? Like, they can hear a candy wrapper from three rooms away but somehow can't hear "please clean your room" when you're standing RIGHT THERE?

Here's the thing nobody's telling you: The reason your kids won't listen has NOTHING to do with your volume, your consequences, or that fancy reward chart you spent 3 hours making on Pinterest.

(I see you, crafty parent. I've been there. Mine had glitter. SO much glitter.)

The real reason? Brace yourself...

They don't feel heard. By YOU.

I KNOW. I KNOW. Your brain just went "But Andee, I'M the one talking to a brick wall here!"

Stay with me, this is where it gets good.

In this game-changing episode, I'm spilling ALL the tea about:

• Why that mom who came to me with a grunting 14-year-old is now getting hour-long heart-to-hearts (no, really!)
• The mortifying moment my kid said "Mom, I just need you to listen" and changed EVERYTHING
• The backwards solution that sounds bananas but actually works (science says so!)
• How I went from Lecture Queen to Actually-My-Kids-Tell-Me-Stuff Mom

But here's the kicker...

When YOU master listening first? Your kids start WANTING to hear what you have to say. Like, voluntarily. Without bribes. Without threats. Without you turning into Scary Mommy Voice™. Wild, right?

Quick story time: Remember when I told you about interrupting my kid after 18 seconds? (Eighteen! Seconds! The researchers weren't wrong, y'all.) Well, after implementing what I'm teaching in The Listening Lab, that same kid - now an adult, tells me EVERYTHING. The good, the bad, the "Mom, don't freak out but..."

And I don't freak out. Because I learned The Thing.

This workshop is your jam if:

• You've said "How many times do I have to tell you?!" in the last 24 hours
• Your kids' eyes glaze over the second you open your mouth
• You're SO over being the Nagging Parent™
• You're ready to try something that sounds backwards but actually works

What you're getting:

• One simple tool (just ONE! Because who has brain space for 47 steps?)
• 90 minutes that'll change how you show up forever
• My "Three L Method"
• The secret to becoming the parent your kid WANTS to talk to

The deets: 📅 Live workshop on Zoom (or catch the replay if bedtime wins) 💰 Just $7 (less than that fancy coffee you need because your kids won't listen) 📚 Digital workbook included (no glitter required) 🎯 Register at: https://cmp.works/listen

Look, I could keep talking about the research and the neuroscience and the attachment theory (and I do touch on it because #sciencenerd), but here's what you really need to know:

Your kids WANT to listen to you. They WANT that connection. They just need to feel heard first.

Backwards? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. Worth 90 minutes of your time? You tell me - but that parent with the grunting teenager sure thinks so.

Come join me. Let's revolutionize your home one listening session at a time.

xo, Andee

PS - Yes, this works on spicy kids too. Especially spicy kids. Trust me on this one.

PPS - Still skeptical? Good. Bring that energy. I love a good challenge. See you there! 💕

PPPS - Did I mention it's only $7? Because seriously. Skip one overpriced latte and change your entire parent-child dynamic. Best ROI ever.

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Your child just slammed their door (again), and every parenting book on your shelf is screaming "CONSEQUENCE!" But what if the secret to cooperation isn't control—it's curiosity?

🔑 Key Takeaways:

The Paradigm Shift

• You're not a sculptor designing your child—you're a shepherd guiding them
• Kids have 400+ psychological traits influenced by genetics (mind = blown 🤯)
• Togetherness is to kids what oxygen is to a flame

Why Curiosity Changes Everything

• Interrupts your autopilot reactions
• Lowers defenses (yours AND theirs)
• Creates the safety where real growth happens
• "You only listen to people you trust"

The Pause-Wonder-Connect Formula Real scripts for when:

• Your kid hits their sibling
• They lie to your face
• They won't listen after the 17th request

What This Is NOT:

• ❌ Becoming a doormat
• ❌ Having no boundaries
• ✅ Holding limits with warmth
• ✅ Stopping behavior while staying curious

Real Stories That Will Give You Chills:

• The water bottle incident that led to breakthrough healing
• The 8-year-old who said: "Don't they know we don't do timeouts? You just hold my hand and listen... and then I want to do what you say."

Age-Specific Scripts:

• Toddler meltdowns at Target
• School-age homework battles
• Teen eye-rolls and door slams

Journal Prompts to Try This Week:

1. When do I feel the urge to fix instead of understand?
2. Which behaviors trigger me most? What might that say about MY nervous system?
3. What's one phrase from today I can try this week?

Challenge: Pick ONE moment this week to pause and ask: "What if nothing's gone wrong here?"

💫 Remember:

• Maturity isn't taught—it's grown
• Your child doesn't need a better lecture, they need a better listener
• Nature doesn't need your control, she needs your trust

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Okay. Deep breath. Can we get REAL for a sec? 👀

You know that moment when your kid loses it (again) and your brain goes:

"THAT'S IT! No screen time for a WEEK!"

Then 10 minutes later you're like:

"Wait... a whole week? That punishes ME. Maybe just today? Or... ugh, forget it."

Yeah. THAT.

That exhausting mental ping-pong game? Where you bounce between Drill Sergeant and Doormat?

It's not just you. And it's not your fault.

But holy moly, it IS fixable. (Stick with me here...)

🍫 So picture this: Last week, my kid's friend drops off my kryptonite - chocolate-covered cinnamon bears. THREE DAYS LATER? Empty package. Evidence destroyed. Shame spiral activated.

But while I was elbow-deep in bears, oscillating between "I'm NEVER eating sugar again!" and "Well, I already ruined today so..."

It. Hit. Me. 🤯

We do the EXACT same thing with parenting.

All. Or. Nothing. Strict. Or. Permissive. Consequences. Or. Chaos.

Sound familiar? (Please say yes so I feel less alone here...)

In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on:

✨ The "Middle Way" nobody taught us (spoiler: it exists and it's MAGICAL)

💣 Why everything you learned about discipline is based on PIGEON TRAINING (I'm not even kidding)

🎭 The Shakespeare Meltdown Miracle - how my daughter went from full rage to memorizing TWO monologues in 20 minutes (no bribes required)

💨 The Baby Powder Blizzard of 2007 - aka the disaster that changed my entire parenting philosophy

But here's what you REALLY need to know:

That fear in your gut? The one that whispers "If I don't punish this, they'll never learn"?

It's. Not. True.

Your kids don't need more consequences. They need YOU.

The real you. The one who can hold a boundary WITHOUT turning into a dictator. The one who can stay connected even when they're being little tornados of destruction.

Quick reality check time:

• Timeouts? They're basically saying "I only love the good parts of you" 😬
• That "teach them a lesson" mentality? It's like trying to fix withered apples by putting ointment on them (stay with me, this analogy is gold)
• Those kids who "behave" from consequences? They're not learning respect. They're learning fear.

But imagine this instead:

Your kid melts down. You stay calm. (WHAT?!) They get mad. You get curious. (HOW?!) They push limits. You hold them with love. (IS THIS EVEN POSSIBLE?!)

YES!

Here's what we're unpacking:

• The Seen & Heard framework (your new secret weapon)
• Why my Grandpa Jay could get 50 kids to work 12-hour days with ZERO bribes
• The GETT Plan that saved my sanity (and my daughter's kindness)
• Real scenarios with ACTUAL middle-ground solutions (not theory, REAL LIFE)

Once you find that middle ground...

Your kids will:

• Actually WANT to listen (without threats)
• Feel safer to share their struggles
• Stop the power struggles (mostly... they're still kids 😅)

Your tiny homework: Just notice ONE time this week when your brain goes "It's either X or Y!" That's it. Just notice. No fixing required. (See? Middle ground already!)

All my love (and solidarity in the parenting trenches), Andee 💕

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I've never been more excited to share an episode with you! Today, I'm revealing the extraordinary results from our 2024 Connect Method Parenting study that followed 237 parents through the 8-Week Parenting Pivot program.

In This Episode:

Numbers That Made Me Cry Happy Tears:

• 133% overall average improvement across all parenting metrics
• 100% success rate - EVERY single participant reported meaningful positive change
• 4.8 out of 5-star program rating

Specific Transformations We Tracked:

• Listening without yelling: 113% improvement (from 3.2 to 6.8/10)
• Handling challenges calmly: 109% improvement (from 3.5 to 7.3/10)
• Thought control: 204% improvement (from 2.3 to 7.0/10)
• Parenting confidence: 100% improvement (from 3.8 to 7.6/10)
• Connection with kids: 75% improvement (from 4.8 to 8.4/10)

Real Behavioral Changes:

• 78% went from daily yelling to weekly or less
• 71% reported better cooperation from their kids
• 65% experienced more physical affection with their children
• 52% saw improved sibling relationships
• 43% heard "best day ever" comments from their kids (this one wasn't even something we asked about!)

The Three Phases I Discovered in the Data:

1. Weeks 1-3: Awareness - When parents start recognizing their patterns
2. Weeks 4-6: Implementation - The messy middle where real change happens
3. Weeks 7-8: Integration - New patterns becoming the new normal

About Joining the Pivot:

• Investment: currently $200 (normally $499)
• Scholarships available - email me at scholarship@connectmethodparenting.com
• Sign up at: https://cmp.works/pivot

Why This Study Matters So Much to Me: After spending 5+ years transforming my own parenting (because I didn't have these tools), I was determined to prove that parents don't need years to change. This study validates everything I believe: parenting transformation is possible, measurable, and can happen FAST with the right support.

My Favorite Quote from This Episode: "You're not broken. You're not a bad parent. You're a good parent with a bad pattern. And patterns can change."

The Unexpected Ripple Effect: Parents kept telling me the tools were affecting:

• Their marriages
• Their sleep quality
• Their work performance
• Their relationships with in-laws One mom said: "This isn't just Connect Method Parenting, it's Connect Method Living!"

My Promise to You: This program has transformed 100% of participants who showed up and did the work. Not 99%, not most - EVERYONE. Your family won't be the first exception.

Let's Connect:

• Join the Pivot: https://cmp.works/pivot
• Need a scholarship? Email: scholarship@connectmethodparenting.com
• Follow us on IG @ConnectMethodParenting journey for more conscious, connected parenting support

Please share this episode with every parent you know who's struggling. Share it with anyone who thinks they're failing. Because this isn't just data - it's hope. It's proof. It's the beginning of a parenting revolution.

Thank you for being part of this movement. Every time you choose connection over control, you're changing the world.

With so much love and excitement, Andee ❤️❤️

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Today I'm announcing something that has me SO EXCITED - The No Yell Summer Implementation Experience --> https://cmp.works/implement

In this episode, I'm sharing:

✨ Why having a perfect parenting plan isn't enough (and what you actually need to create lasting change)

✨ The truth about why we revert to yelling even when we know better - and how to rewire those reactive patterns for good

✨ What makes the Implementation Experience different from every other parenting program you've tried

✨ How 8 weeks of support can transform not just your summer, but your entire family legacy

✨ Real talk about the investment (financially and emotionally) and why this work is worth every penny and every moment

Here's what you need to know:

You know that gap between the parent you want to be and the parent you are on your hardest days? That's exactly what we're closing this summer. The No Yell Summer Implementation Experience takes you from having beautiful intentions to actually living them out - even when your toddler is melting down in Target or your teenager is pushing every button you have.

This isn't just about stopping yelling (though that's a beautiful side effect). This is about becoming emotionally regulated from the inside out, healing your own childhood wounds, and raising children who feel truly seen and valued.

What's included:

• Full 8-Week Parent Pivot
• 12 weeks of LIVE coaching calls with me
• Private community in the CMP App for daily support
• Your copy of the Connect Method Parenting book
• All replays and resources in your private podcast feed

Two important notes:

1. If you're in League, you already got the No Yell Summer Workshop free - this is your next step to actually LIVE what you learned
2. Haven't done the workshop yet? You can still get the NO YELL Summer Workshop and join us!

The bottom line: Information without implementation is just inspiration. You can have the most beautiful parenting plan in the world, but without support, without accountability, without someone walking alongside you - those plans stay pretty ideas instead of becoming your lived reality.

Your children are waiting for the parent you're becoming. Let's become her together.

Ready to transform your summer and your family? 👉 Sign up now at: https://cmp.works/implement

Timestamps:

• [2:15] Why willpower isn't enough to change your parenting patterns
• [8:30] The Parent Pivot method explained - how to rewire your nervous system
• [15:45] What you'll experience in our 10 live coaching calls
• [22:00] Who this is really for (hint: not perfect parents)
• [28:15] The investment breakdown and why this is different
• [32:00] Your two choices after the No Yell Summer Workshop
• [38:00] My personal invitation to you

NO YELL Summer Workshop: https://cmp.works/summer

NO YELL Summer Implementation Experience: https://cmp.works/implement

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AKA: Why I Once Tried to Drive My Kids to Disneyland to Avoid Unpacking Boxes (Spoiler: It Didn't Work)

Okay, so...remember when you decided to start that new workout routine and Day 3 felt like your muscles were staging a full-on rebellion? That's EXACTLY what the first 8 weeks of transforming your parenting feels like. Except instead of sore quads, it's your entire nervous system going "WAIT, WHAT ARE WE DOING?!"

Here's what we're diving into today:

🌟 The Disneyland Disaster (or as my kids call it, "That Time Mom Lost Her Mind at a Gas Station")

• Why I bought Mickey Mouse shirts at Target in a desperate attempt to escape my feelings
• The U-turn that changed everything
• How I went from "Let's run away!" to "NO PRIVILEGES EVER!" in 60 minutes flat

💪 The Science Behind Why These 8 Weeks Feel So Dang Hard

• Your brain is literally rewiring itself (cool but OW)
• Why Day 63 is the magic number
• What James Clear, Dan Siegel, and Gabor Maté can teach us about parenting transformation

🎯 The Truth Bomb Nobody Tells You: The discomfort isn't a sign you're failing—it's a sign you're BECOMING. (I know, I know, easier said than felt.)

The 8-Week Roadmap (Because Wandering for 5 Years Like I Did is NOT the Vibe):

• Weeks 1-2: Awareness (aka "Oh wow, I'm triggered by EVERYTHING")
• Weeks 3-4: Breaking patterns (the awkward fumbling phase)
• Weeks 5-6: Building new defaults (getting your groove)
• Weeks 7-8: Integration (it's actually working?!)

The Three Things You NEED to Survive:

1. Community (because doing this alone is like trying to learn salsa from YouTube)
2. A clear path (not the scenic route I took)
3. Nervous system support (your body needs to be on board with this plan)

The Numbers That Made Me Cry Happy Tears:

• 251% improvement in kids' listening (WHAT?!)
• 202% better relationships
• 246% increase in handling tough situations

(These are real results from real parents who did the 8-Week Parenting Pivot. Not made up. Not exaggerated. Just...WOW.)

Your Next Move: Ready to stop swinging between Disney escapism and drill sergeant mode? The 8-Week Parenting Pivot is your roadmap from correction to connection. No more 5-year wandering journeys required.

👉 Grab your spot at https://cmp.works/pivot

Remember: The first 8 weeks ARE the hardest. But they're also where the magic happens. And you don't have to do it alone (thank goodness, because alone is overrated and unnecessarily difficult).

With so much love and a slightly embarrassing amount of excitement for your journey,

Andee 💖

PS - No, I don't still have those Mickey Mouse shirts. No, we never made it to Disneyland that day. Yes, my kids still bring it up at family dinners.

PPS - If you're sitting there thinking "But Andee, what if I mess up?" Honey, I literally tried to DRIVE TO DISNEYLAND to avoid dealing with moving boxes. You're already ahead of where I started. 😂

PPPS - Seriously though, those 8 weeks will change everything. Push through. I'm cheering for you!

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I NEEDED to record this episode because I keep having these conversations with parents living in Procrastination Purgatory, and I'm like "HELLO, I SEE YOU BECAUSE I WAS YOU!"

Remember promising yourself you'd stop yelling "tomorrow"? And tomorrow came and went?

So I'm diving into why our brains sabotage our parenting goals. There's actual science behind the "yell now, feel guilty later" cycle. (It's called delay discounting.)

🧠 Your Brain on Parenting: We have a toddler with a megaphone living in our heads. There's neuroscience and everything. Dr. Kahneman won a Nobel Prize for figuring this out.

💔 The Vulnerable Part: My own epic fail saga - "The Boundary Testing Olympics." Picture me, yelling about... shoes? Teeth? Bedtime? All of it?

What waiting cost me:

• Connection (gone!)
• Trust (eroding like patience at 5pm)
• My sanity
• Time I'll never get back

🤯 Three Brain-Breaking Questions:

1. "How much longer will you pay this price?"
2. "What will this look like in 5 years?" (NO THANK YOU)
3. "If you couldn't fail, what would you change today?"

🎯 Reality Check: Parenting for your future 25-year-old vs surviving Tuesday. Plus the "Perfect Time" myth (spoiler: it's not coming).

☀️ NO YELL SUMMER WORKSHOP - May 28th, noon EST $7. Less than your fancy coffee or the therapy you'll need after another yelling summer.

What we're doing: ✨ Why you're actually yelling ✨ 3 realistic goals ✨ Your Summer Parent Identity ✨ A plan for your ACTUAL life

😭 The Ending: A mom waited THREE YEARS to change. That's 1,095 bedtimes of guilt.

"The cost of waiting is compound interest on regret."

Your Homework: Pick ONE tiny thing to change TODAY. Not tomorrow. TODAY.

While you're waiting for the perfect moment, your kid is forming memories of you RIGHT NOW.

Stop waiting. Your future self (and kids) will thank you. Come to my workshop or don't, but either way - start today.

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