This week we are diving into a concept that has completely changed the way I move through my life. It is the difference between low quality problems and high quality problems. Once you learn this, you cannot unsee it.

Over the last eighteen months I have been in a season packed with transitions. Business shifts, kids returning and launching, midlife changes, perimenopause, parenting big kids and teens, family health, the holidays, snow, all of it. My brain has been shouting problem at every turn. And for a while, I believed it.

Then something clicked. I realized the issue was not that I had too many problems. The issue was the type of problems I was choosing. Some problems drained me and made me feel powerless. Other problems actually grew me and helped me become the next version of myself.

In this episode I walk you through how to tell the difference and how to shift into high quality problems on purpose.

We cover:

• Why your brain is designed to look for problems
• How low quality problems keep you stuck and small
• How high quality problems expand you and put you back in the driver seat
• What this looks like in real life with parenting, marriage, work, health, and identity
• Why your child is never the problem
• How to choose the problems you want your life to be about
• How to stop carrying problems that were never yours to begin with

I also guide you through five reflection questions that will help you redefine whatever is on your plate right now in a way that brings clarity, calm, and momentum.

If life feels full or heavy or chaotic, this conversation will help you breathe again. You will walk away seeing your problems in a completely new light. You will remember that you are the woman for this life and that the quality of the problems you choose changes everything.

If this episode helps you, send it to a friend, share it on Instagram, or just hold it close the next time your brain shouts this is too much. You get to decide the kind of problem solver you are becoming.

I love you all. Go connect with your kids and have a beautiful rest of your day.

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This week, we are exploring what it really means to practice gratituding in the moment you are in. I’ll show you how shifting out of “life will feel better when…” into “this moment matters right now” can change your entire emotional experience.

Together, we will look at why it doesn’t get better than this, not because everything is perfect, but because the present is the only place your brain can regulate, create, and feel steady. This episode is full of practical, science-backed ways to use gratitude to calm your system, expand your capacity, and stop waiting for the future to finally feel okay.

Don’t miss this foundational conversation. It just might change the way you show up in every moment moving forward.

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This week, I'm talking about one of the most important emotional skills we can build as parents. I call it Uncertainty Tolerance.

After a long Thanksgiving trip, a shut-down freeway, a surprise snowstorm, and a mountain of homemade pies, I found myself thinking about how much of parenting happens in the middle. The middle is the space where we have planted seeds and are waiting for results. The space where we want to feel calm and capable, but instead find ourselves worrying, predicting disaster, or questioning everything.

In this episode, I explore why our brains resist uncertainty and why we often reach for familiar failure instead of sitting with the possibility that things might turn out well. I share how this shows up with toddlers, tweens, and teens. I walk you through real examples from Target tantrums to bedtime battles to teenage eye rolls and explain how to anchor yourself so that you can stay present and connected instead of reactive.

Here is what I cover in this episode:

What Uncertainty Tolerance Is

The ability to remain steady in the in-between space between what you want and when the results actually show up, without collapsing or quitting or rushing into negative predictions.

Why Our Brains Crave Certainty

A look at how the human brain tries to avoid the unknown by assuming the worst, and how this habit affects the way we interpret our child’s behavior.

Why You Cannot Rely on Your Child for Certainty

Children cannot regulate themselves for us. Their moods, reactions, and choices cannot be our source of stability. We learn to create certainty in ourselves.

What You Can Be Certain Of

Your heart is good.
Your love is real.
Your intention is strong.
Your presence matters.
Your influence is greater than you think.
And you can learn anything you need to learn.

How to Stay Grounded Through Meltdowns and Pushback

I share specific examples from everyday parenting moments and show you how to remain steady even when you do not know what comes next.

The Identity Shift That Changes Everything

The grounding thought that can help you stay centered in any hard moment is this: "I am okay even if this does not work right away. My child is okay even if this does not work right away."

This is not resignation. It is leadership. It is connection in action. It is the practice of trusting development more than daily behavior.

Uncertainty is not a sign that you are doing anything wrong. It is an invitation to grow. You are becoming more emotionally grounded, more connected, and more confident with every messy moment you stay present for. You are doing beautiful work, even when you cannot see the results yet.

Thank you for listening and for showing up for your children in ways that no one sees. You matter. Your work matters. And I believe in the direction you are heading.

Now go connect your face-off with your kiddos, and I will see you next time.

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