What do you do when the sticker charts work… but they don’t feel right?

In today’s episode, I’m inviting you behind the scenes of a real coaching call with a brave, thoughtful CMP parent who’s wrestling with something we all face: the tension between loving connection and firm limits—especially when it comes to bedtime, behavior charts, and consequences that seem to work (but don’t sit well in your gut).

We talk about what to do when your child comes out of their room twenty times after lights out, how to set firm limits without flipping into frustration or giving in, and why rewards and consequences often miss the mark (even when they look effective in the short term).

If you’ve ever felt torn between being the calm, connected parent you want to be, and just wanting your kid to stay in their room already—this episode is for you.

Inside, you’ll hear us explore:

• How to hold boundaries from compassion instead of control
• Why developmental insight changes everything about "consequences"
• The sneaky ways we think we’re doing “nothing” when we’re actually doing the most important work
• A new lens for sticker charts, bedtime resistance, and behavior at school
• How to be the “tuning fork” that helps your child feel safe and settle (even if you’re tired and done)

This is real-life parenting in action—messy, meaningful, and full of the kind of nuance that doesn’t make the parenting books.

Come listen in. I think you’ll feel seen, inspired, and ready to set limits with more love and less fear.

xo, Andee

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Your kids have selective hearing, right? Like, they can hear a candy wrapper from three rooms away but somehow can't hear "please clean your room" when you're standing RIGHT THERE?

Here's the thing nobody's telling you: The reason your kids won't listen has NOTHING to do with your volume, your consequences, or that fancy reward chart you spent 3 hours making on Pinterest.

(I see you, crafty parent. I've been there. Mine had glitter. SO much glitter.)

The real reason? Brace yourself...

They don't feel heard. By YOU.

I KNOW. I KNOW. Your brain just went "But Andee, I'M the one talking to a brick wall here!"

Stay with me, this is where it gets good.

In this game-changing episode, I'm spilling ALL the tea about:

• Why that mom who came to me with a grunting 14-year-old is now getting hour-long heart-to-hearts (no, really!)
• The mortifying moment my kid said "Mom, I just need you to listen" and changed EVERYTHING
• The backwards solution that sounds bananas but actually works (science says so!)
• How I went from Lecture Queen to Actually-My-Kids-Tell-Me-Stuff Mom

But here's the kicker...

When YOU master listening first? Your kids start WANTING to hear what you have to say. Like, voluntarily. Without bribes. Without threats. Without you turning into Scary Mommy Voice™. Wild, right?

Quick story time: Remember when I told you about interrupting my kid after 18 seconds? (Eighteen! Seconds! The researchers weren't wrong, y'all.) Well, after implementing what I'm teaching in The Listening Lab, that same kid - now an adult, tells me EVERYTHING. The good, the bad, the "Mom, don't freak out but..."

And I don't freak out. Because I learned The Thing.

This workshop is your jam if:

• You've said "How many times do I have to tell you?!" in the last 24 hours
• Your kids' eyes glaze over the second you open your mouth
• You're SO over being the Nagging Parent™
• You're ready to try something that sounds backwards but actually works

What you're getting:

• One simple tool (just ONE! Because who has brain space for 47 steps?)
• 90 minutes that'll change how you show up forever
• My "Three L Method"
• The secret to becoming the parent your kid WANTS to talk to

The deets: 📅 Live workshop on Zoom (or catch the replay if bedtime wins) 💰 Just $7 (less than that fancy coffee you need because your kids won't listen) 📚 Digital workbook included (no glitter required) 🎯 Register at: https://cmp.works/listen

Look, I could keep talking about the research and the neuroscience and the attachment theory (and I do touch on it because #sciencenerd), but here's what you really need to know:

Your kids WANT to listen to you. They WANT that connection. They just need to feel heard first.

Backwards? Maybe. Effective? Absolutely. Worth 90 minutes of your time? You tell me - but that parent with the grunting teenager sure thinks so.

Come join me. Let's revolutionize your home one listening session at a time.

xo, Andee

PS - Yes, this works on spicy kids too. Especially spicy kids. Trust me on this one.

PPS - Still skeptical? Good. Bring that energy. I love a good challenge. See you there! 💕

PPPS - Did I mention it's only $7? Because seriously. Skip one overpriced latte and change your entire parent-child dynamic. Best ROI ever.

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Your child just slammed their door (again), and every parenting book on your shelf is screaming "CONSEQUENCE!" But what if the secret to cooperation isn't control—it's curiosity?

🔑 Key Takeaways:

The Paradigm Shift

• You're not a sculptor designing your child—you're a shepherd guiding them
• Kids have 400+ psychological traits influenced by genetics (mind = blown 🤯)
• Togetherness is to kids what oxygen is to a flame

Why Curiosity Changes Everything

• Interrupts your autopilot reactions
• Lowers defenses (yours AND theirs)
• Creates the safety where real growth happens
• "You only listen to people you trust"

The Pause-Wonder-Connect Formula Real scripts for when:

• Your kid hits their sibling
• They lie to your face
• They won't listen after the 17th request

What This Is NOT:

• ❌ Becoming a doormat
• ❌ Having no boundaries
• ✅ Holding limits with warmth
• ✅ Stopping behavior while staying curious

Real Stories That Will Give You Chills:

• The water bottle incident that led to breakthrough healing
• The 8-year-old who said: "Don't they know we don't do timeouts? You just hold my hand and listen... and then I want to do what you say."

Age-Specific Scripts:

• Toddler meltdowns at Target
• School-age homework battles
• Teen eye-rolls and door slams

Journal Prompts to Try This Week:

1. When do I feel the urge to fix instead of understand?
2. Which behaviors trigger me most? What might that say about MY nervous system?
3. What's one phrase from today I can try this week?

Challenge: Pick ONE moment this week to pause and ask: "What if nothing's gone wrong here?"

💫 Remember:

• Maturity isn't taught—it's grown
• Your child doesn't need a better lecture, they need a better listener
• Nature doesn't need your control, she needs your trust

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