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Feminism is everywhere and everyone seems to agree with it, but it doesn't take root in the Word of God. So why do we love it so much? Why do women seem to crave this type of life?

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• “Whatever God creates, Satan counterfeits.” (Mark Driscoll)
• Satan desperately wants to destroy this design and he does that by attacking men first.
• Feminism is a direct response to bad men either doing too much (domineering over women) or doing nothing (acting in passivity). Both acts are sinful on the part of the man, but that does not excuse women for acting sinfully as well. Remember that we are responsible for our own sin.
• Feminism, at its best, is just reversing the roles and excusing abuse from women towards men and other women.
• Feminism expects 100% buy-in from everyone. If you don’t support feminism then you need to be put in your place and shut up.
• But isn’t that what feminist say they’re fighting against? Aren’t they claiming men are doing that?
• So why is it ok for women to be abusive and not men?
• Ultimately, feminism makes us feel like we are in charge; like we have some sort of control over life and can determine our futures. That’s why we want it: control.
• When we operate under God’s design, then we must submit to God.

Questions to ask yourself:

1. Do you notice any defensiveness rising in you toward the lies we discussed today? What might that reveal about an inner conflict you’re carrying?
2. Which Scripture from today’s teaching is God prompting you to study more deeply? How might understanding His Word more fully shift the way you live and believe?
3. How do I respond to godly masculinity? Do I reject it or honor it? If honoring it seems difficult for you, ask God to bring healing and clarity. And if it’s something you value, pray that He protects your heart from the lies in our world that all masculinity is toxic.
4. Where in my life do I crave control? What might it look like to surrender those areas to God and trust Him to be in control?

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The church (and feminism) teaches a really confusing rule when it comes to how women dress: You better not dress feminine because you'll make your brother sin but you also better dress feminine because otherwise you're not honoring the body gave you! But what are we missing?? DISCERNMENT! Listen to this episode to hear what the Bible actually has to say about it!

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Lie #1: Godly femininity is equal to masculinity.

• Proverbs 31:30
• Proverbs 31:
  • Verse 17 — “She dresses herself with strength and makes her arms strong.” (physical strength)
  • Verse 12 — “She does [her husband] good, and not harm, all the days of her life.” (emotional strength)
  • Verse 15 — “[she] provides food for her household” (physical provision)
  • Verse 21b — “all her household are clothed in scarlet.” (physical provision)
  • Verse 25b — ”the teaching of kindness is on her tongue.” (intellectually strong)
  • Verse 26 — “She looks well to the ways of her household” (physical provision)
• Song of Songs
• 1 Samuel 16

Lie #2: Freedom in Christ means I can dress however I want

• John 16:8
• Romans 2:4
• Romans 14:13-23

Solution: Middle Ground = Discernment

• Psalm 40:6-8
• Psalm 50:8
• Psalm 51:16
• Isaiah 1:11-31
• Jeremiah 7:21-23
• Hosea 6:6
• Hebrews 10:4-10

Questions to ask yourself:

1. Do you notice any defensiveness rising in you toward the lies we discussed today? What might that reveal about an inner conflict you’re carrying?
2. Which Scripture from today’s teaching is God prompting you to study more deeply? How might understanding His Word more fully shift the way you live and believe?
3. Do I focus more on rules than on the intentions of my heart? Are there rules that I need to release so that I can cling to my heavenly Father instead?
4. Do I claim “freedom in Christ” to allow myself to do things that may not honor, respect, or serve my brothers- and sisters-in-Christ? What do I need to sacrifice to the Lord so that my heart is honoring Him?

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Ever been told children are a distraction or a burden? Me, too! But the problem is that scripture doesn't agree with that. So, if we are agreeing with scripture then we are also believing that children are a blessing from God and should be desired and loved!

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Lie #1: You have to give up so much to raise children.

• Psalm 127:3 says, "Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him".

Lie #2: Having children destroys your body. Be ready to be weak and to pee your pants every time you sneeze or laugh too hard.

• Proverbs 23:25 "May your father and mother rejoice; may she who gave you birth be joyful!”

Lie #3: Children are expensive.

• Psalm 127:3 "Children are a heritage from the Lord, offspring a reward from him".
• John 15:12-13 “This is my commandment, that you love one another as I have loved you. Greater love has no one than this, that someone lay down his life for his friends.”

Lie #4: Why would anyone want to bring children into this messed up world?

• Genesis 1:28 “And God blessed them. And God said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth and subdue it, and have dominion over the fish of the sea and over the birds of the heavens and over every living thing that moves on earth.’”
• Genesis 9:1 “And God blessed Noah and his sons and said to them, ‘Be fruitful and multiply and fill the earth.’”

Lie #5: When you have children you have to focus on them instead of focusing on God’s calling for you.

• 1 Corinthians 7:7-8
• Psalm 139:13-14 “For you formed my inward parts; you knitted me together in my mother's womb. I praise you, for I am fearfully and wonderfully made…”
• Psalm 8:4 “What is man that you are mindful of him, and the son of man that you care for him?”
• John 3:16 “For God so loved the world, that he gave his only Son, that whoever believes in him should not perish but have eternal life.”
• 1 John 3:1a & 2 “See what kind of love the Father has given to us, that we should be called children of God; and so we are…Beloved, we are God’s children now, and what we will be has not yet appeared, but we know that when he appears we shall be like him, because we shall see him as he is.”
• 1 John 4:9-11 “In this the love of God was made manifest among us, that God sent his only Son into the world, so that we might live through him. In this is love, not that we have loved God but that he loved us and sent his Son to be the propitiation for our sins. Beloved, if God so loved us, we also ought to love one another.”
• 1 Peter 4:8
• Galatians 5:1

Questions to ask yourself:

1. Have you been taught that children are a burden and/or distraction? If so, pray that God walks you through this lie and shows you the truth. If not, stop right now and praise God for his blessing to you!
2. If you’re a mom, think about this: have you been reflecting God’s love to your children lately? And if you’re not a mom, ask God to give you His heart for children—whether that’s for your future family or for the kids already in your life.
3. Do you notice any defensiveness rising in you toward the lies we discussed today? What might that reveal about an inner conflict you’re carrying?
4. Which Scripture from today’s teaching is God prompting you to study more deeply? How might understanding His Word more fully shift the way you live and believe?

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We're told we should "do it all" but when we try we inevitably get overwhelmed and fail. So, the question must be: Are we supposed to do it all? Thankfully the answer is simple: NO! We are supposed to stand in the role that God gave us, not the one the world puts on us.

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Episode 4: If you do it all, then you’re really serving God

- Work a full time job, raise your kids, cook all the homemade meals, make sure your house is always social media worthy, volunteer for all the school and church events, and don’t forget to pick up a hobby on the side while also working out every day. It’s what every woman should be doing if they are really going to be serving God.

- Barbie movie monologue: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pB3s1RAQn5o

- The problem is not the monologue. The problem is the conclusion that people come to from the monologue: that the patriarchy is the cause of this issue.

-God created men and women to fill the respective roles for a reason: both jobs are necessary for the prosperity of people.

-God created male and female in the Garden of Eden–in perfection.

- Genesis 2:18: Then the Lord God said, “It is not good that the man should be alone; I will make him a helper fit for him.”

- 1 John 4:18: There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear. For fear has to do with punishment, and whoever fears has not been perfected in love.

- 1 John 4:7-8: Beloved, let us love one another, for love is from God, and whoever loves has been born of God and knows God. Anyone who does not love does not know God, because God is love.

Questions to ask yourself:

1. Do you notice any defensiveness rising in you toward the lies we discussed today? What might that reveal about an inner conflict you’re carrying? (Often, defensiveness signals a battle within ourselves more than it does a problem with the idea itself. Where might God be inviting you to find peace and confidence in His truth rather than the false truth of this world?)

2. Which Scripture from today’s teaching is God prompting you to study more deeply? How might understanding His Word more fully shift the way you live and believe?

3. Do I ever feel like I have to “do it all”? Are there areas where I might be striving for recognition, control, or approval instead of simply serving God faithfully in the role He’s given me?

4. Is there hurt from men in my life that might be shaping how I live today? If so, ask God to begin healing those wounds so you can live in the freedom He offers. Sometimes walking through that healing with a biblical counselor or trusted mentor can be a really helpful step.

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Another lie that the church unintentionally (I hope!) teaches is that sharing the Gospel only happens outside the home. But is that what the Bible actually says? Is sharing the Gospel with your children not actually sharing the Gospel? In this episode we discuss what the Bible really says.

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Episode 3: You Can Proclaim the Gospel, too!

Lie 1: You can only be a good Christian if you are outside your home

• Proverbs 22:6 – Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.
• Deuteronomy 6:6-9 – “Now this is the commandment—the statutes and the rules—that the Lord your God commanded me to teach you, that you may do them in the land to which you are going over, to possess it, that you may fear the Lord your God, you and your son and your son's son, by keeping all his statutes and his commandments, which I command you, all the days of your life, and that your days may be long. Hear therefore, O Israel, and be careful to do them, that it may go well with you, and that you may multiply greatly, as the Lord, the God of your fathers, has promised you, in a land flowing with milk and honey. Hear, O Israel: The Lord our God, the Lord is one. You shall love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your might. And these words that I command you today shall be on your heart. You shall teach them diligently to your children, and shall talk of them when you sit in your house, and when you walk by the way, and when you lie down, and when you rise. You shall bind them as a sign on your hand, and they shall be as frontlets between your eyes. You shall write them on the doorposts of your house and on your gates.
• Matthew 5:17 – “Do not think that I have come to abolish the Law or the Prophets; I have not come to abolish them but to fulfill them.” (Hebrews 10:10; Acts 10)

Lie 2: Sharing the gospel with your kids is not actually sharing the gospel

• Deuteronomy 6 and Proverbs 22:6
• 1 Timothy 3

Questions to ask yourself:

• Do you notice any defensiveness rising in you toward the lies we discussed today? What might that reveal about an inner conflict you’re carrying? (Often, defensiveness signals a battle within ourselves more than it does a problem with the idea itself. Where might God be inviting you to find peace and confidence in His truth rather than the false truth of this world?)
• Which Scripture from today’s teaching is God prompting you to study more deeply? How might understanding His Word more fully shift the way you live and believe?
• Do I ever unintentionally compartmentalize my faith? Are there places in my life where I hesitate to share the gospel or live openly for Christ?
• What counterfeit structures have you accepted as true? Where in Scripture does God design and give us structures? Spend time in those parts of scripture to learn God’s heart and His desires for you.
• What counterfeit structures about womanhood might I have accepted without really examining them? Where does Scripture actually speak to God’s design for our roles and relationships? Spend some time in those passages asking God to show you His heart.

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“You can be so much more than a mom.” We've probably all heard it—or even said it to a woman. But what are we really teaching people when we say that? Why is motherhood such a disrespected role? Since when did raising the next generation become something we should delegate to those who “can't do anything better”? The reality is, motherhood is not something a woman does because she can't do something else. Motherhood is actually the highest calling a mother has.

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I grew up in the conservative Christian church and yet I was taught feminist beliefs. In this episode I share my journey and where we are headed in this podcast.